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Soul 74: Gabby

Kristen Bales April 24, 2025

What does "being strong" mean to you? To me being strong means having conviction in your values, trusting your intuition, and making peace with who you are.

How does family shape your perception of strength? To me the word female is synonymous with strong. My family is filled with highly educated women who lead by example. I am so lucky to have grown up surrounded by women who are courageous mothers, inspiring educators, independent breadwinners, competitive athletes and almost always… know-it-all daughters.

What keeps you strong in times of trial? When I am struggling, I always check-in with my core values. For me that means, play, passion, connection, authenticity, sustainability, and being my best. Also… in times of trial… a steaming bowl of sundubu-jjigae from my favorite spot in Koreatown always hits the spot.

What’s one thing someone could do today to make them stronger? Ask yourself: "What is one thing I can do to take care of myself today?" And follow through with it. By showing up for yourself first, you build strength and trust with yourself, which shines through to how you present yourself to the rest of the world.

If you could ask a question to other women regarding strength, what would you ask? I would ask, how has you perception of strength changed throughout your life, and why?

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Gabby’s Intentional Act of Kindness

How did you use the $100? I used the $100 dollars to buy my little cousin her cap and gown for UCLA graduation. I remember what it was like to be a senior at UCLA, and the graduation costs add up! I am so proud of how hard my cousin has worked throughout the past four years balancing work and schoolwork. She is smart, tenacious, and most importantly, takes care of the world and the people in it. I wanted to use the money to support the next generation of strong women, and as a double bruin myself, I am so proud to see her graduate from UCLA!

What was the 'Intentional Act of Kindness' process like for you? I absolutely loved participating in the 'Intentional Act of Kindness' process. It gave me the push I needed to wake up from my day to day and seek out opportunities to be kind to others. There are endless choices each day to show up intentionally for others, I just needed a little reminder.

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Soul 73: Tiffany

Kristen Bales April 24, 2025

How does family shape your perception of strength? My parents have been a role model of strength for me. They both were the first in their families to immigrate to the US, for higher education and career opportunities. I can only imagine the amount of strength and tenacity it took for them to leave their homes, families, and everything they knew for a world of unknown. Their experiences shaped the way they raised me, elevating the importance of hard work, staying true to yourself, and persevering in the face of challenges.

How does your culture shape your perception of strength? In Chinese culture, it is common to suppress feelings and in many ways, expressing emotions is a sign of weakness. A common example in Asian American culture, that rings true from my own experience, is that parents don’t say “I love you” but instead prepare home-cooked meals and cut up bowls of fruit to express their love to their children. As someone who feels very deeply, I was often told that I had too many feelings growing up. For many years, I viewed this as a flaw to overcome and not a valuable personality trait that makes me who I am. It wasn’t until later, through my experiences with great female leaders at work, and also a lot of Brené Brown 🙂, I realized that my empathy and perceptiveness are actually strengths. And being strong can also look like having the courage to express yourself authentically.

How have your trials made you stronger? With time and reflection comes perspective. Over the recent years, I’ve been able to shift my thinking about situations that I previously viewed as mistakes or failures. While I used to think of those experiences as painful memories or regret my choices, I’ve come to accept them as valuable opportunities for learning about myself and others.

What’s one thing someone could do today to make them stronger? Take time to reflect and care for yourself. It’s easy to get caught up in the day-to-day stressors and to get overwhelmed by the responsibilities of work, home, family, and more. In order to be strong, you also need to rest. Give yourself the space and permission to do so.

If you could ask a question to other women regarding strength, what would you ask? What is a moment or experience that changed how you thought about strength?

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Tiffany’s Intentional Act of Kindness

How did you use the $100? I made a donation to the Awakening Mind Chan Center, a nonprofit Buddhist organization run by a close family friend. I also wrote and mailed a thank you card to the monk. My grandma was Buddhist and this monk was a significant figure to her at the temple she attended. When she passed many years ago, the monk helped lead my family through the traditions and has since been a close friend to my mom and her siblings. Last year, I was able to visit the temple he runs in Taiwan and learn about the scholarships and programs they offer for youth. That experience and his hospitality during our visit was meaningful to me, especially as it occurred during a challenging time in my life. I wanted to thank him for his kindness and contribute to the student scholarships.

What was the 'Intentional Act of Kindness' process like for you? This was something I had been wanting to do for awhile, and this process forced me to prioritize this action! I'm grateful for this experience and the self-reflection that also came with it. A good reminder to consider small ways I can incorporate intentional acts of kindness into my daily life.

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Soul 72: Alexis

Kristen Bales January 19, 2025

How does family shape your perception of strength? For a long time, I believed that strength meant never showing others that you were bothered by a situation. Many of my admired family members seemed to embody this trait. When issues arose, they remained calm and focused on gathering information to find a solution. I admired the strength it took not to react in these situations. As I grew older, I realized that maintaining such composure for the sake of others can take a toll on one's mental health. It also creates distance in relationships, as others may feel you are indifferent or withholding your true feelings.Now, I understand the importance of balance. There are times where it is necessary to remain strong, and others where it is okay to show vulnerability. Losing control makes you human and can help you recognize when you need support to overcome particularly challenging times.
I make it a point to express my feelings when my family asks how I am doing. While they know I can show strength, it is also important to let them know when I need them for support.

How have your trials made you stronger? My trials have strengthened my belief in my capabilities. When I was applying to graduate school, many people assured me, "You’ll get into any school you want!" While encouraging, I struggled internally with self-doubt, which impacted my focus while studying for the GMAT. I often considered postponing my application to allow more time for preparation, thinking I could apply next year and increase my chances of acceptance. However, connecting with other graduate students and sharing our goals and stories helped me believe in my potential. This shift in mindset made me more disciplined in my studies, as I now had a clear end goal. Ultimately, I received a full-ride scholarship to UW-Madison for an MBA with a specialization in Strategic HR.
This experience reminds me of the saying, "Whether you think you can or you think you can’t, you’re right." I often reflect on this when facing challenges at work or in my personal life. Positive thinking empowers me to pursue my goals with full commitment.

How can you be strong and vulnerable? When I think about being both strong and vulnerable, I reflect on my personal relationships. Growing up as a military kid, I moved every 3-5 years, which taught me how to build and end relationships. I've learned the importance of showing up authentically, even though it requires vulnerability. In the end, I'm always glad I did because it's the only way to determine if a relationship is mutually energizing.However, if I show up vulnerably and the other person isn't receptive, supportive, or doesn't share my values, I need to draw on my strength to end the relationship, even if it's difficult. Strength means sticking to my values and ensuring I have what I need to be my best self. I can control who has access to me and to what extent. Once I'm clear on that, it's easier to balance vulnerability with the strength to uphold my boundaries.

What advice would you give to the next generation of strong women? My advice to the next generation of strong women is twofold. First, surround yourself with people who uplift you and speak highly of you in your absence. These individuals form your support system, so nurture those relationships. Second, embrace the opportunity to reinvent yourself with each new chapter of your life. Personal growth is what makes life fulfilling. Although change can be daunting, don't let it prevent you from living as the best version of yourself.

What’s one thing someone could do today to make them stronger? One powerful way to become stronger today is to prioritize deepening your self-understanding. This year, I embarked on a new chapter in life – I turned 30, started a new job, and moved to a new city. Feeling that I had outgrown my previous life and old habits, I wanted to be intentional in this new era. I began asking myself, “How should I show up at work? In my personal relationships? For myself?”
These were significant questions, so I sought help through journaling via voice memos and seeing a therapist. These activities allowed me to truly see myself by recognizing patterns in my behavior and setting realistic goals for personal growth. By taking time to deepen my self-understanding, I’ve gained clarity on my values and boundaries. This clarity makes it easier to stand up for myself and give myself grace when things go wrong because I know exactly what I need to process any given situation. Deepening your self-awareness can take many forms, such as establishing a routine, taking self-assessments, or seeing a therapist. No matter how you choose to do it, this journey will ultimately help you build strength.

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Alexis’s Intentional Act of Kindness

How did you use the $100? I used the $100 to bless my older brother during the holidays. My brother is someone who has shown resilience through a number of difficult situations. He hardly asks for help when navigating challenges and I admire his strength and willingness to find a solution on his own. At the same time, I like to remind him I am here to help in small ways along the way.

What was the 'Intentional Act of Kindness' process like for you? I like to be thoughtful about where my acts of kindness can go far. I considered donating to an organization that I am passionate about, but sometimes helping out can be a little closer to home.

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Soul 71: Meredith

Kristen Bales January 19, 2025

How does family shape your perception of strength? I am the youngest of my immediate and extended family, so there's countless examples of strength that have been demonstrated to me my entire life. My family is diverse in every way, giving me a first crucial lesson: everyone has their own, unique way they are able to be strong, whether that means moving across the globe, fighting cancer, working to give your kids a better life, volunteering in your free time, or being the one to make everyone smile. Secondly, it is obvious to me that there is really no other option but to be strong. I have so many people who worked so hard to give me the opportunities I have, and therefore I must be strong for them.

Who is a female role model in your life and why? My mom has always been my role model. I'm sure most people say that, but I do really mean it. As I've gotten older, it's easier for me recognize her incredible qualities. She is grounded, level-headed, and driven. These traits manifest in a very subtle yet effective power. She demonstrates immense empathy and humility in her day-to-day life while not compromising herself in the process. Lastly, and most importantly to me, she finds time for joy and silliness. I watch with such admiration as she seemingly ages backwards, hoping I do too.

How can you be strong and vulnerable? I believe these traits are inherently related, as holding space for vulnerability requires strength. Someone who is able to exert strength with a possibility of embarrassment, disappointment, or regret demonstrates a higher capacity for strength than someone who cannot be vulnerable. To be both strong and vulnerable, you need to allow yourself to fail sometimes and treat yourself kindly when you do.

What’s one thing someone could do today to make them stronger? I am a firm believer that visualization and affirmations help me succeed. Maybe it's rooted in me being an overplanning or worrisome person sometimes, but both help me get over mental barriers that prevent me from doing something. First, I like to think about my near future, whether it be the next day or week, and either make a to-do list or visualize completing what I need to get done.

Second, I have a favorite exercise for when I need a pick-me-up. Grab a small piece of paper or index card and start writing down things that you're proud of and that you're grateful for. Cover it top to bottom, then turn it 90 degrees and start over. Rotate, flip, and repeat until you can't make out any of the words and the card is completely covered. At some point, it will probably become difficult to think of things to add, and that is where the magic happens. Actively looking for your favorite, less-obvious characteristics about yourself or the smallest thing that made you smile that day is wonderful to practice.

If you could ask a question to other women regarding strength, what would you ask? I just graduated from college this past May. What strengths should I look forward to gaining as I join the "real world"?

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Meredith’s Intentional Act of Kindness

How did you use the $100? My friend was driving some friends and I around to run errands and her tire popped. She pulled over in front of an apartment complex, but none of us knew how to change the tire. We were completely blocking the way for this man who lives in the apartment, but he got out of his car and helped us change the tire. After he was done, I gave him the $100.

Giving the $100 to this man felt like the perfect time for many reasons. Not only did he help us for probably over 45 minutes with no complaints, but he was an incredibly kind person who we enjoyed getting to know. He taught us every step of the tire-changing process while telling us the stories of all the times he's done it in the past. We joked about how we thought he was getting out of the car to yell at us for being in the way, and he responded with "life is too short to get mad." He told us his job in limb salvage, working with pre-amputation patients and trying to help them avoid the procedure if possible. He was not only an angel helping us in the moment, but a refreshing reminder to not take things too seriously and to find joy in unfortunate circumstances.

What was the 'Intentional Act of Kindness' process like for you? For a while, I had no idea how to use my $100. I tried to think about times in the past few months where I've encountered people who I thought deserved some extra kindness. After a lot of thinking, I realized that an opportunity would come to me, and I didn't have to reach into the past. I kept the money on me as much as possible and waited for a sign or a feeling that it was time to give back. This alone was an incredible experience. There is so much to be grateful for and so many people who deserve some extra love, and both so often goes overlooked. With a constant intention of looking for these opportunities, I felt a clear perspective change in myself when going about my normal day. As I expected, a beautiful moment did come up and I was excited to share the kindness. It has been about a month now since I got the money, and I believe that I continue to not only look for places to be kind, but see a lot more kindness around me in other people as well.

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Soul 70: Latrice

Kristen Bales December 22, 2024

What does "being strong" mean to you? To me, being strong is to be aware. I think leading with self-awareness while also having awareness of others, of your surroundings, of situations, etc., can contribute to a person’s strength. Additionally, having the awareness to know when to handle situations independently vs knowing when to lean into your network for support are also important contributing factors to being strong.

What keeps you strong in times of trial? Journaling has played a significant role in keeping me strong in times of trial. I also lean into my faith, family, and friends during those times as well.

How can you be strong and vulnerable? Vulnerability is a strength. It is not easy to be vulnerable, especially with others. I honestly struggle with vulnerability sometimes but I’m getting more comfortable with it as I get older and as I practice. I've realized that vulnerability is needed to improve relationships, to negotiate, to learn, or to simply express yourself, which allows one to have a better understanding of where they are strong and where they could use more support.

How do you encourage other women to be strong? I encourage women to know themselves. Understanding who they are as a person can unlock so many opportunities to find areas where they are excelling, where there is room for improvement, and help them figure out the next steps to becoming stronger. Self-awareness is the baseline, where they take it from there, is up to them.

If you could ask a question to other women regarding strength, what would you ask? What do you think is your greatest strength and what does your best friend or closest mate say is your greatest strength?

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Latrice’s Intentional Act of Kindness

How did you use the $100? I used the funds to support two local, Atlanta based groups, that focus on providing safe spaces and resources to queer and trans people of color. I decided to use the funds this way for a couple of reasons. The first reason is because I'm a queer person of color. The second reason is because these groups had initiatives to provide blankets, socks, gloves, etc. to those affected by homelessness, which was incredibly important with the colder weather approaching.

What was the 'Intentional Act of Kindness' process like for you? The process was slightly difficult at first because my initial thought was to split the funds between people. Since I'm new to the area, I don't know many people but still wanted the money to be used for a great purpose. I've been personally involved with one of the groups because they host events, including volunteering opportunities, which has helped me meet more people. So, when their initiative to give back to the community via the donations was activated, I decided that donating the money to their initiative would be great.

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Soul 69: Leanna

Kristen Bales December 22, 2024

What does "being strong" mean to you? To me, being strong means being open to new experiences. To be confident in yourself to take on challenges, however large or small they may be, and to embrace the outcomes. It means that in the face of rejection, you have the strength and grit to continue with the re-direction. There are times when I get in my head and build up all the ways something could go wrong and how much I don’t want to do it. When I start to spiral, I take a step back and work on quieting my mind and allowing myself to feel for a bit, but then to remind myself that I am strong enough to continue on the path. An example of this would be the trepidation I felt when moving to Seattle. It was something I wanted while also being something that scared me - the idea of starting over far away from family and needing to find new friends made me extremely anxious in the weeks leading up to the move and even more so when Cory started his MBA program. It took time, and I felt lost for a few months (re-direction!) but I eventually found a wonderful community with incredible friends who love and accept me - flaws and all.

How does family shape your perception of strength? All my life, I have been surrounded by strong women. I was taught that if you want to achieve a goal, you are the one who holds the tools to get there. Only you are able to shape your strength in yourself. My mom found a better life for herself when she immigrated from the Philippines and so did my godmothers - they worked hard and were able to come to the US through jobs and careers. I’ve learned that strength comes from within yourself and community. Yourself through true grit and a determination to survive trials and errors, and your community through finding friends, family and mentors who support and push you to your goals.

Who is a female role model in your life and why? My female role model is my best friend, Dr. Anissa Cervantes. As the eldest daughter and first-generation graduate from her family, Anissa has constantly impressed me with the strength, tenacity and love she posses. Anissa grew up bilingual and has constantly used this skill as her family’s translator and, more recently, uses this to connect with and help Spanish-speaking patients in underserved communities during her OBGYN residency. I first met Anissa my sophomore year of high school when we had 5/7 classes together and ended up being lab partners for 3 of those classes (shoutout alphabetical order, haha) and I have been her #1 supporter ever since. Anissa has had her fair share of hurdles as she went through med school such as moving away from her family and taking on a heavy course load, which requires strength in itself. But what sets her apart from others is the way she makes time for the people she loves. Even under the demanding load of her career, she takes time to check in with friends and is there to support her family. She prioritizes the things that matter most to her through grit, compassion and strength. At her core, Anissa is a true and constant friend.

How can you be strong and vulnerable? I believe that strength and vulnerability are 2 sides of the same coin. I think you can be strong through vulnerability by growing self-confidence in yourself and being strong enough to open yourself to others. It means to have faith in your stance and who you are and yet be able to open yourself to criticism and embrace it. To wear your heart on your sleeve and be able to face the trial head on. One of the most interesting things I learned while in consulting is a lesson that can be applied to life: embracing the ambiguity. I think being strong and vulnerable can fit into this idea that you are strong enough to embrace the unknown.

When has your strength been personally challenged and how did you respond? Early in 2020, I was a burnt-out consultant and it was affecting my life outside work - I was unhappy and anxious all the time. In my unhappiness, I decided to make a career change to UX design. I wanted to get back to my roots of creating something worthwhile and designing for others. I built up a design portfolio (a first for me), started applying like crazy…and was faced with a solid wall of rejection. Weeks turned into months, and I was nowhere close to finding a way out. By 2021, I was mentally exhausted and had several times when I wanted to give up, but I felt like I couldn’t. I couldn’t just accept the situation I was in, so doubled down on applications. Then, I got an interview for a small biotech startup for a product manager position - I didn’t get the position, but asked the woman interviewing me for feedback on my application - and she did! She was the shining star that pushed me to continue. Just a simple conversation helped me feel much better about the path I was on. She inspired me to continue to ask more women in the tech industry for advice and after a few months, I was able to be successful in my transition to UX design.

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Leanna’s Intentional Act of Kindness

How did you use the $100? I used a portion of the money to build a care basket for my friend who is having a rough time in med school. She's stressed and has been spending long hours at the hospital, and I bought some of her favorite things to let her know I was thinking about her! The 2nd portion went to my friend, Kelsey, who is a 1st grade teacher in the greater Seattle area. Kelsey is an inspiration for being so strong and gracious despite all the curveballs thrown her way as an educator. She is a wonderful teacher and I wanted to help her and her kids by buying some classroom supplies!

The reminder went to Food Finders in West Lafayette, IN. Food Finders has a program called the Mobile Pantry which brings fresh food to food desert communities around Lafayette, IN. While I was at Purdue, my senior capstone project team designed our project to help Food Finders improve their Mobile Pantry program. I wanted to continue to give back to that specific community because it's so uniquely special to me.

I knew right away I wanted to use it to impact multiple groups of people, but wasn't sure how. Thinking more deeply about it, I wanted to help uplift communities that are special to me. Donating to Food Finders was especially exciting to me because while I'm no longer physically there in West Lafayette, IN, the community is still very special to me.

What was the 'Intentional Act of Kindness' process like for you? Participating in this process was very thought-provoking and took me a long time to decide what I wanted to do. I felt a great deal of pressure to make a good choice. Thinking of Kelsey's classroom came so easily, but being (still) relatively new to Seattle, I struggled a little to decide on the rest. It forced me to look introspectively and I thought back to previous communities I love and have lived in. West Lafayette is so important to the person I am and have become, that Food Finders was the clear and natural choice! I'm very happy with how this process ended, and feel inspired to be more active in my community in Seattle.

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Soul 68: Shivani

Kristen Bales October 1, 2024

What does "being strong" mean to you?I’ve often found myself wondering what it really means to be strong. Over time, I’ve come to see that it’s not the huge transformations but rather the small, steady ones that have made the biggest difference in my life. It’s those tiny, incremental steps that add up to real growth. For me, being strong rests in the quiet moments of reflection when I hit a rough patch, in recognizing what I can improve, and in pushing through even when it feels the hardest. It’s always the little incremental changes that have helped me build strength.

How have your trials made you stronger? In the past, when challenges came my way, I wasn’t always great at handling them and often ended up being hard on myself. But through a lot of reflection and countless small changes, things gradually improved. It’s amazing how those tiny, seemingly insignificant steps eventually paved the way for a major shift in my mindset. Now, when I face difficulties, I just need to look back to see how far I’ve come. That perspective gives me the confidence to tackle whatever’s in front of me. It turns out that a series of trials, big and small, were key in transforming my mindset and ultimately making me stronger.

Who is a female role model in your life and why? My biggest role model is my mother, who embodies resilience, curiosity, and strength in the most profound ways. I’ve watched her face countless challenges with unwavering determination. Even in the toughest times, she takes a moment to step back, gather her thoughts, and strategize, only to return with renewed energy and a clear plan. Her boundless curiosity drives her to constantly seek out new knowledge, adding depth and purpose to her life. On top of all this, she is one of the warmest, kindest people I’ve ever met, with a deep empathy for others. She's my role model because there seems to always be something I can learn from her.

How can you be strong and vulnerable? I've always felt that strength and vulnerability go hand in hand. It takes real courage to admit when you’re wrong or recognize that you can improve. To me, the process of reflecting and becoming more self-aware is like peeling away layers of discomfort with vulnerability. As you face and embrace these moments, you push through, learn more, and strive harder. In the end, this journey of facing your vulnerabilities makes you a stronger person.

If you could ask a question to other women regarding strength, what would you ask? I’d love to know: what is one personal habit you’ve developed that enhances your self-reflection and understanding of your broader social context, and what is one habit that has proven especially helpful in navigating a difficult moment?

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Shivani’s Intentional Act of Kindness

How did you use the $100? I donated $100 to support a program that empowers economically underserved women in India by teaching them vocational skills. This donation specifically funded training for creating jute artifacts, such as wallets and handbags, which are then sold at a jute handicrafts store. This initiative helps these women develop valuable skills and provides them with a sustainable source of income.

I firmly believe that acquiring a skill that enables self reliance is crucial, particularly for underserved women who often lack this opportunity. Learning a vocational skill can significantly bridge the gap left by the absence of formal education, empowering individuals to achieve financial freedom. By fostering their own growth and development, these women can hopefully create a pathway to a better future for themselves and their children, setting the stage for lasting positive change.

What was the 'Intentional Act of Kindness' process like for you? This experience prompted me to reflect on the concept of being "intentional" and what it truly means to offer an "intentional blessing." While I was eager to give back, I wanted my contribution to resonate with my own values and have real significance. Growing up, my grandmother, Tai, always inspired me to work hard, study diligently, and develop skills for self-sufficiency. Even though she was well-educated, she never worked outside the home, a choice I came to understand over time. My mother echoed similar values, emphasizing the importance of self-reliance. This project made me more aware of my own privileges and my desire to share opportunities with those who might not have had the same advantages. I wanted to support women who, like many of us, are striving for a better future and who could benefit from a chance to gain skills and self sufficiency.

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Soul 67: Janae

Kristen Bales October 1, 2024

What does "being strong" mean to you?To me, being strong is being steadfast. Whether it’s having hope for a better future while navigating a difficult current moment or keeping your heart soft when life has broken it, being strong is trusting that goodness is always around the corner.

What keeps you strong in times of trial? The fact that I’ve always gotten back up when hard times have knocked me down. Sometimes, it takes me longer to get up than other times but I trust that I’ll be able to get up again - just like I have in the past.

Who is a female role model in your life and why? My mom, hands down! Despite her personal trials, she’s always remained loving. She’s strong, yet gentle. Independent, yet generous. It’s an honor to have her as my blueprint.

How do you encourage other women to be strong? I think women are inherently strong. I encourage women to always remember that you hold gifts and superpowers that only you have. Stand in your unique power.

What advice would you give to the next generation of strong women? You’re going to often wish you chose the “you” thing over the “cool thing.” Practice now being brave and choosing what’s most authentic to you.

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Janae’s Intentional Act of Kindness

How did you use the $100? I divided the amount between two of the many, many people who have been extensively generous to me as I’ve navigated some big transitions. Their kindness has been life-changing for me, so I wanted to show my sincere appreciation for how they consistently support me in my life.

What was the 'Intentional Act of Kindness' process like for you? I’m so grateful for it! A small act of kindness always makes a big difference in someone’s life. This exercise has inspired me to make a consistent, daily practice of being generous to others.

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Soul 66: Kim

Kristen Bales October 1, 2024

How does family shape your perception of strength? My definition of strength changed drastically when I had my two daughters. While I grew up thinking strength was complete independence and suppressed feelings, I quickly realized that is not the message I want my daughters believing. I want them to know it is ok to endure emotional pain and grow from it. I want them to be brave and confident to do things on their own and know that they can ask for help when needed. Most of all, I want them to believe that they can grow through challenges and to continue moving forward despite risks.

Who is a female role model in your life and why? My mom has always been my role model for strength and determination. She had a very challenging upbringing, with an abusive father, frequent moving and food insecurity. She decided at 10 years old to get a paper route and save money to make a better life for herself. With no support, she went to college, married my dad and went on to create a beautiful, stable home life for my brother and me. I have never heard her complain, she simply works hard and perseveres through whatever happens in life.

How can you be strong and vulnerable? Being strong isn't about being tough and independent, it's resilience. Being vulnerable isn't about being weak, it's about being authentic. To me, strength is being able to admit when you are going through a challenging situation and resilience to persevere even in the hard. Ultimately, the difficult experiences make you stronger.

What advice would you give to the next generation of strong women? Lead with empathy. I am constantly encouraging my 4-year-old daughter to find ways to support her younger sister, befriend someone who seems lonely, and be patient with those having a hard time. Empathy and compassion can bring people together and make the world a better place.

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Kim’s Intentional Act of Kindness

How did you use the $100? I gave the $100 a young college student who is expecting a child to use to purchase a car seat for her baby boy. I am so impressed with the bravery and strength of this student to continue her pregnancy. She had limited support from her family and was working two jobs on top of school to provide for her little one when he arrives. Giving her money to purchase a car seat felt like a very practical way to support her in her time of need.

What was the 'Intentional Act of Kindness' process like for you? The Intentional Act of Kindness opened my eyes to ways that I could meet a need for someone I knew. Without this process, it would not have crossed my mind that I could make a difference in this girl's life by this simple act. It has opened my eyes and heart to other ways to love my neighbors. You actually inspired me to do another act of random kindness for a coworker in Serbia. She is running a marathon in honor of her late dad this weekend and I sent her flowers yesterday. Turns out her dad owned a flower shop and it was more meaningful than I could have ever imagined.

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Soul 65: Tukey

Kristen Bales June 28, 2024

What does "being strong" mean to you? When reading this question, I started to wonder, am I a strong woman? Reflecting on the "strong moments" in my life, I was surprised to realize there are so many. "Being strong" can mean being able to stay curious and try new things; having the determination to persevere and finish a task, as well as the courage to give up and move on; remaining positive and resilient during difficult times; having the courage to make a tough decision; being able to think beyond myself, to love, and to bring joy to others... Strength comes in many forms.

What keeps you strong in times of trial? This might sound a bit weird: when things get hard, I start to write jokes. I jot down the big things, small things, sweet things, and bitter things in my life, transforming them into funny stories. Then I share them with my friends as if I am a standup comedian. It makes me feel good when thinking about how thick my joke book will be after this trial. Another thing that keeps me strong is my friends. Being a super extrovert, talking things through with someone that I trust keeps me strong in difficult times.

How have your trials made you stronger? Every trial gives me a new book to write, plus my joke book! More specifically, trials push me out of my comfort zone, forcing me to think about new problems, reach for new contacts and opportunities, and gain new perspectives. New project ideas come up during trials. Trials also practice my tolerance of uncertainty and ability to navigate through different situations. Each trial not only tests my strength but also enriches my life in unexpected ways.

How do you encourage other women to be strong? I would usually have 1-on-1 bubble tea dates, listen to their stories, understand and empathize with what they are going through, and offer moral support/help wherever I can. I believe building friendships could be empowering and could help other women navigate through various difficult scenarios.

What’s one thing someone could do today to make them stronger? Weight lifting :] Haha, no, the serious answer, is to take a moment to reflect on what we appreciate and are grateful for in life. It’s so easy to focus on what we don’t have and become bitter, overlooking the beauty that surrounds us. Whether it’s the love of family and friends, the smile of a stranger, an unexpected encounter with a raccoon… Acknowledging the privileges and abundance we already have can help us maintain perspective and strength. This gratitude helps us to keep moving forward with a positive and resilient mindset.

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Tukey’s Intentional Act of Kindness

How did you use the $100? I invited 5 international students from various countries on a bubble tea date and treated each of them to $20 bubble tea and/or dessert. I wish this could be the start of our friendship and they will feel more comfortable to hang out and ask for support if they need any.

As an international student, I am aware of how helpful it can be to have friends I can turn to in a new country. I have received help and support in various forms since I came here five years ago, and I wish to pass on the love to others!

What was the 'Intentional Act of Kindness' process like for you? I live in a communal house named "International Friendship House," and we host dinners for international students every Thursday. So I will chat and schedule a bubble tea date with one new international student once every two weeks, have bubble tea/dessert, and continue to build deeper friendships.

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Soul 64: Monica

Kristen Bales May 30, 2024

How does family shape your perception of strength? My family instilled in me the notion that I could do anything I set my mind to. I was encouraged to take risks, try-out for sports teams, audition for theater roles, and chase my dreams. The idea that failure was a part of growth felt comforting, knowing I had my family standing behind me. When I think of strength, I think a lot about my dad’s journey to the US. While born in the states, he was raised in Bogota, Colombia. After spending 3 years at a university in Colombia, he moved to California, learned English, and went on to graduate as an engineer from Cal Poly. I will forever be impressed by his strength, and think about this when going through my own struggles. We are no match for the battles we face if supported and determined to succeed.

What keeps you strong in times of trial? I remind myself of the following: will this matter a day, week, or month from now? It is easy to spiral when something goes wrong. When I initially read the question, my mind jumped back to June of 2021. I was taking flying lessons, and upon take-off, within seconds of each other, the airplane door slightly popped open and it started to rain. In the moment, I was utterly terrified. It was hard enough to handle the flight procedures, but my only option was to keep flying. The instructor helped me shut the door, I landed the plane, and we both laughed. The trial may have mattered that day, but I now look back on that moment knowing perspective helped me through it.

Who is a female role model in your life and why? My mother is a paramount example of strength, someone who I look up to daily and aspire to be like. She is kind, intelligent, supportive, and loving. She balanced being a full-time mom and working, seldom missing a soccer game, dance performance, or school event. She built strong communities around her and always made time for family. She’s played an instrumental role in my growth as a person.

What advice would you give to the next generation of strong women? Do not be afraid to advocate for yourself and learn how to negotiate for what you deserve. Graduate school has strengthened my negotiation and advocacy skills, especially regarding job offers. I recall getting my first internship offer my sophomore year of college. It was a wonderful company and I knew I wanted it. I was so ecstatic, I accepted the role over the phone. Looking back on this moment, I think about what would have happened if I negotiated.
I’ve learned over time how to pair my tendency to be thankful with a growing strength of asking for what I want. I also learned to not accept an offer on the phone, giving yourself time to think about your options. Knowing your worth and accepting nothing less transcends beyond the job market, but plays a large role in your professional trajectory.

What’s one thing someone could do today to make them stronger? Set priorities and protect your time. I had a wonderful conversation with a colleague recently where we discussed our own priorities. They mentioned that when you establish your priorities and protect your time, you develop habits that support your long term goals.

Last fall, I was navigating the shift from full-time work to graduate school. Tasks that were once easier to complete now competed with homework, group projects, and a social life. The best thing I did for myself was set boundaries to ensure that I had what I needed. For me, this looked like going on a run or cooking a nice meal when I needed a break from schoolwork.

Think of the things that bring you joy or help fill your cup. I often get stuck in the circle of overthinking when my plate is full. This mental re-set helps me to find balance in my life, re-focusing on what is important and prioritizing accordingly.

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Monica’s Intentional Act of Kindness

How did you use the $100? I donated the $100 to an organization close to my heart, Friday Night Out (FNO). FNO was developed to build community for adults with special needs. They host monthly events in Northern California, creating a safe space for special needs adults to build friendships, have dinner, and enjoy an evening in community.

I thought about how I wanted to donate the funds for some time, and landed on an organization that supported my brother. Growing up with a special needs brother, I've always been drawn to supporting his community. The founder started the organization to grow a community for her own daughter and special needs adults in the area. I have seen the organization grow from a concept to an incredible community. As adults, it can be hard to make friends. Adding the additional hurdle of having an intellectual disability makes it more difficult. Organizations like FNO are dedicated to creating opportunities for friendship and community.

What was the 'Intentional Act of Kindness' process like for you? I always feel lifted when giving. I find that it motivates me to volunteer my time or support a mission financially. I'm appreciative to the 100 Souls Strong project for giving me opportunity to support an important non-profit's mission.

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Soul 63: Ramya

Kristen Bales May 29, 2024

What does "being strong" mean to you? For me, being strong isn't just about how tough you can be on your own. It's not confined to the battles we fight alone or the obstacles we overcome in solitude. It's about how we stand by those we care about, how we extend a hand in their moments of need, and how we choose to be a pillar for someone else even when we're grappling with our own storms.

How does family shape your perception of strength? My family is the foundation of my strength, a constant presence that teaches me the true essence of unconditional love. Through both their actions and words, my parents and sister have instilled in me the essence of unconditional love, showing me that the deepest forms of strength stem from the bonds we nurture. Take, for instance, my passion for marathon running and mountaineering, which initially bewildered my family. The thought of me embarking on adventures across unfamiliar terrains and weather, often accompanied by strangers, filled them with concern. My mother, in particular, coming from a modest village background with limited formal education, found it challenging to connect with my enthusiasm for these pursuits. The idea of dedicating countless hours to train for runs across the country or to trek into the mountains was foreign to them.

Despite their apprehensions, their support never wavered. They saw the joy and fulfillment these adventures brought me and chose to embrace my passions. Their backing came not from an understanding of my interests but from an unconditional love that prioritized my happiness, ready to adjust their comforts and expectations. My parents went to great lengths to support my dietary needs to ensure I was well-fueled to run stronger and recover swiftly. My dad, in particular, played a pivotal role in my training sessions, waking up early to accompany me as I ran laps in the dim morning light. When it was too dark, he would light my path with the car headlights to ensure my safety. Moreover, when I decided to pursue an MBA at 29, a time when many of my peers were settling down, my family's support became a shield against the doubts cast by others. Despite societal pressures suggesting their support was misplaced, they stood firmly by my side, ensuring I had a distraction-free environment to focus on my preparations. These and many other moments with my family have profoundly shaped my perception of strength. They have taught me that true strength is not solely about personal grit and perseverance but equally about the relentless support and love from those dearest to us. Their faith in me, irrespective of the choices I made, has been an inexhaustible wellspring of strength, molding me into the individual I am today.

What keeps you strong in times of trial? My father always taught me a simple yet profound lesson “Do your best, and let the rest be. Success isn't always about reaching the goal.” He instilled in me the understanding that there will always be factors beyond my control. When challenges arise, I lean on this wisdom, asking myself: Have I truly exerted every effort? Have I looked beyond my personal ambitions to see the greater picture, to ensure that my efforts are not just for self-fulfillment but for a larger good? If the answer is yes, I find peace in the knowledge that I have committed my best to the task at hand, regardless of the final result.

Who is a female role model in your life and why? My mom is my role model. Originating from a rural village, her educational journey was cut short due to traditional beliefs that prioritized marriage for women over personal growth. She faced the loss of her father at the tender age of two, and upon marrying at a young age and moving to the city, she encountered the challenge of not knowing any language but her mother tongue—a barrier she still faces today. Despite these hurdles, she carved a path for herself with remarkable resilience. Her talents are exceptional, particularly her passion for designing. She adores creating dresses for me and my sister, dedicating countless hours to stitching, designing, and even hand-painting sarees and dresses with intricate designs. More than her artistic abilities, she’s the linchpin of our family’s social connections, ensuring strong ties with the parents of our friends, relatives and welcoming every guest into our home with unmatched warmth and hospitality. From her, I've learned the true essence of being genuinely excited, warm, and loving toward others without expecting anything in return.

Her determination taught me that language is no barrier to forming deep, meaningful connections. Deprived of a college education herself, she was adamant that my sister and I receive everything she missed out on, constantly encouraging us to pursue education and careers, and to nurture warm relationships. She rejoices in my achievements, often saying, "When you win, I win too." Her steadfast presence beside me, ready to face any criticism, as long as I'm chasing my passions, has been a guiding light. Through her actions, she's taught me the profound lesson of what it means to invest your heart and soul into pursuits you cherish, and equally, the importance of supporting others in their passionate endeavors, despite societal critique. To this very day, there isn't a topic I hesitate to bring up with her. Her genuine interest and eagerness to learn about areas unfamiliar to her not only reflect her supportive nature but also her immense capacity for understanding and empathy. This unwavering support and curiosity make her not just my mother but my lifelong confidante and an endless source of inspiration.

How can you be strong and vulnerable? To me, genuine strength emerges from weathering life's storms, which, in turn, equips us to empathize with and uplift those facing similar trials. Encountering someone ensnared in struggles mirroring my own past, I've learned that people won't truly open up or connect without being given the space to do so. How can I ensure they feel they can depend on me? By fostering a safe environment where individuals feel understood for their values and concerns. This often means being vulnerable myself, sharing my own story, even at the risk of exposing my emotions and laying bare my past challenges. Embracing openness and emotional honesty, allowing one's authentic story to unfold, is never a sign of weakness. Rather, I see it as a testament to incredible strength, the kind that only comes from allowing oneself to be vulnerable.

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Ramya’s Intentional Act of Kindness

How did you use the $100? I donated the $100 to my housekeeper, a resilient mother of three, who despite not having received a formal education herself, tirelessly works across multiple households each day to fund her children's schooling. During my recent visit to India, I learned that daughter was being mistreated by a teacher at her current, tuition-free school. Although, she reported this to the authorities, the issue was minimally addressed with only a warning issued. Determined to find a safer learning environment for her daughter, she decided, with assistance from my mother, to move her to a new school that requires tuition. I chose to contribute to the tuition for her daughter’s new school, hoping to alleviate some of their financial stress and ensure that her daughter could continue to learn in a nurturing environment.

I firmly believe that no child or parent should ever feel unsafe or unsupported in an educational setting. Growing up, my family instilled in me the belief that while money may come and go, education remains a lasting asset that no one can take away. This conviction drove me to support her daughter's transition to a secure, respectful, and conducive learning environment.

What was the 'Intentional Act of Kindness' process like for you? : This act of kindness was profoundly impactful for me. It reinforced my commitment to thoughtful giving—choosing causes I believe in and helping those in dire need. It served as a reminder that amidst our busy lives, where personal and family needs often dominate, taking a moment to consider the needs of others can make a significant difference.

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Soul 62: Debbie

Kristen Bales March 21, 2024

What does"being strong" mean to you? To me, "being strong" is being tough when life gets tough and it comes in three ways:


1. It's about facing problems with bravery and never giving up, even when things seem really hard. Being strong doesn't mean you can't cry or feel tired; it's okay to have those feelings. To me, its important to understand that crying and feeling weary are not signs of weakness but rather reminders of our shared humanity. And so, amidst tears and tiredness, true strength is about bouncing back after tough times, even when you feel like giving up.

2. It's about believing in yourself and finding the courage to keep going, no matter what. It means having the courage to face our fears, doubts, and tough times. When we're feeling lost or unsure, strength is like a small light of hope that helps us keep moving forward, even in the darkest times. And when we push on, we only become stronger.

3. Strength isn't just about avoiding tough situations or simply enduring them. It's about meeting challenges head-on, facing them with courage, and finding ways to turn them into opportunities for growth. Instead of just enduring hardships, true strength involves actively engaging with them, learning from them, and using them as stepping stones toward a brighter future. It's about seeing obstacles as chances to learn, adapt, and become stronger versions of ourselves. By confronting struggles directly and embracing the lessons they offer, we not only overcome them but also emerge from them stronger and more resilient than before.

How does family shape your perception of strength? My mum has been a constant source of inspiration and strength in my life. Having lived with her most of my life, she's really shaped my perception of strength. Despite facing numerous challenges, she has always remained resilient and determined. I've admired her ability to see beyond immediate problems and navigate through tough situations with grace. One incident that stands out is when our home was invaded by armed robbers. While my dad and I were in shock, she remained calm and spoke words of encouragement, emphasizing the importance of resilience and focusing on the future rather than dwelling on the past. Her unwavering positivity and ability to persevere through adversity have not only influenced my perception of strength, but also shaped my whole family's perception of strength. I've learned from her example that strength isn't just about enduring hardships but also about facing them head-on with courage and optimism. She has taught me that true strength lies in being able to rise above challenges and remain hopeful even in the face of adversity. Because of her, as a family, we've come to a point where we keep pushing on despite the negativities in our surroundings.

What keeps you strong in times of trial? In times of trial, my faith serves as my anchor, providing the strength I need to persevere. Believing in a higher power beyond my control, I turn to prayer for inner strength and guidance. When I first moved to the United States in 2017, facing cultural shock and loneliness, it was my faith that sustained me. Despite moments of doubt and wanting to return home, I held onto my belief that God would see me through. Through prayer and reliance on Him, I emerged from that challenging period even stronger. Today, as I navigate new challenges such as motherhood, entrepreneurship, and pursuing an MBA, my faith continues to sustain me. I attribute my resilience and ability to overcome obstacles to the grace of God, who has been my constant source of strength and support.

How have your trials made you stronger? I would say I have faced two major trials in my life that have enriched my character, fostering personal development and determination while emphasizing the importance of seeking support. They have equipped me with the strength and confidence needed to face future challenges with grace and inner resilience.

Firstly, my move to the US presented diverse challenges. Navigating a different culture and overcoming various hurdles have taught me the importance of speaking up for myself. This assertiveness has become a fundamental aspect of my character enabling me to succeed not only in US but amongst the international community.

Secondly, starting an MBA came with challenges ranging from new motherhood to facing immigration complications that cost me job opportunities. My experience here really helped me learn the importance of reaching out to others for support. To me, it highlighted the strength found in vulnerability and the power of community. I've really come to understand that seeking help is not a sign of weakness but rather a demonstration of resilience and self-awareness.

Both experiences have been incredibly transformative, and today, I am able to say I am much stronger and a better person than I was many years ago.

What advice would you give to the next generation of strong women? I have three advice I would like to share:

1. Embrace your differences: Reflecting on my experiences navigating different cultures and overcoming challenges, I encourage the next generation of strong women to embrace their differences. Our unique backgrounds, perspectives, and experiences are sources of strength and resilience. However, be open minded and willing to learn new things. There is nothing wrong unlearning certain things or values you already hold on to and learning new things that shapes you in a better way.

2. Seek support: Drawing from my journey of seeking help during challenging times, I urge young women to prioritize building supportive networks and seeking assistance when needed. Surround yourself with individuals who uplift and empower you, and don't hesitate to lean on them for support. Remember, strength is found in vulnerability and the bonds we share with others. We sometimes fall in the myth of we can do it alone, but i believe we can move faster if we have a community of supporters cheering us on.

3. Build your faith: Reflecting on the belief in a higher power beyond our physical abilities, I encourage the next generation to build their faith. Whether through spirituality, religion, or personal beliefs, cultivating faith provides a source of hope, guidance, and strength during difficult times. Trust in the presence of a supernatural power that supports and sustains us, even when faced with seemingly insurmountable challenges. I personally believe in the grace of God and its played a major role especially in areas where other humans have failed.

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Debbie’s Intentional Act of Kindness

How did you use the $100? I used the $100 to bless two people who have been a great source of inspiration and have impacted my life positively - Grace and Pearl. I split the $100 equally and used it to buy gifts that they needed to honor them on their birthdays. I decided on this because I felt both had to be honored for the hard work they do and I wanted to purchase something that they needed. Grace has an NGO called Lift Ghana that focuses on uplifting one another to thrive in life, and be good agents of socialization at home and change agents in all spheres of life. Since she has given her life to many others, I believed that blessing her in this way was worth it.

Pearl on the other hand has always placed herself in a position to help others. Months before I gave birth, she came to stay with me and has since been there supporting me in managing my baby while I also school.

What was the 'Intentional Act of Kindness' process like for you? I believe the process made me very thoughtful in thinking about who I wanted to be a blessing to. The word "intentional" pushed me into making sure that my kindness was not in vain. I am actually happy about his and I believe moving forward in my life I will really be intentional about my kind acts. I'm really grateful for such an opportunity.

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Soul 61: Ravali

Kristen Bales March 21, 2024

What does "being strong" mean to you? To me, being strong means being open to adversity and ready to deal with challenges, having the courage to face any situation, acknowledging vulnerabilities, and embracing that they are part of life. Being strong means inspiring others to be strong through your actions, giving hope to the people around you that anyone can overcome challenging situations and that it's not the end of one's life.

What keeps you strong in times of trial? During challenging times, initially, I feel discouraged. I tend to allow myself to be affected by the difficulties because I don't want to confront them immediately, though this feeling doesn't last long. Once I regain my energy, I remind myself to be strong. I motivate myself to confront the situation head-on and rely on friends and family for support to help distract me from it. I just accept the situation, and then think about ways to come out of it. It's not easy, but I strongly believe we all can overcome adversity.

Who is a female role model in your life and why? My Mom! I know it may sound clichéd, but I consider myself lucky to have a mother like her. Despite facing challenges during my childhood, she remained remarkably resilient. She shielded my brother and me from the impact of those tough times, ensuring our education was unaffected. Even though she hasn't been part of the workforce, she consistently encouraged us to dream big, providing all the resources we needed to thrive. Her selflessness and strength make her the most admirable woman I know. She stood by us, unwavering, in every situation.

What advice would you give to the next generation of strong women? I was fortunate to have grown up in a supportive family, especially with my mother encouraging me to pursue higher education and enter the workforce. Unfortunately, not every girl or woman experiences this support. My advice to them: don't let others determine your worth or dictate your path. Follow what brings you happiness—whether it's painting, writing, or directing. Remember, you are already strong! Take the first step!

Once you are ready, be supportive. Give back by supporting women who may feel trapped. Encourage them to break free from their constraints and inspire them to do the same.

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Ravali’s Intentional Act of Kindness

How did you use the $100? I donated a bicycle to a girl who required transportation for school but lacked the means, which was hindering her education. My mom is part of an international women's group called the Inner Wheel Club. They do service work and raise funds for various causes like schools, orphanages, old age homes, etc. I asked her if there was anyone who needed money for education, and she mentioned this cause. I wanted to donate to a girl especially to enhance her chances of becoming a strong independent woman.

What was the 'Intentional Act of Kindness' process like for you? I really appreciated going through this process. It helped me reflect on my past and reminded me of the importance of supporting women, especially considering the challenges many face in pursuing their aspirations. Thank you, Kristen, for giving me the opportunity to do this.

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Soul 60: Rabeea

Kristen Bales March 20, 2024

What does "being strong" mean to you? Being strong to me is akin to the sturdy oak tree that withstands fierce storms. In the face of adversity and uncertainty that can leave your soul feeling paralyzed, giving yourself the room to be knocked down for a moment and grieve before standing up again with a belief in yourself and whoever else you fall back on. It's not merely about physical capabilities or an absence of vulnerability, instead, it is a deep-rooted resilience that allows one to weather life's challenges with grace and fortitude. I've come to understand strength as the ability to stand tall in the face of adversity, to hold steadfast to one's values and convictions even when the winds of change threaten to uproot us. It's about summoning the courage to confront our fears, to navigate uncertainty with unwavering determination, and to emerge from the crucible of trials stronger and more resilient than before.

How does family shape your perception of strength? Family has always been the cornerstone of my perception of strength. I was raised in a close-knit household where love, support, and solidarity were the bedrock of our existence. From my earliest memories, I witnessed the sacrifices my parents made to provide for our family, the quiet resilience with which they faced life's challenges, and the unbreakable bond that held us together in times of adversity. It was within the embrace of my family that I learned the true meaning of strength – not as an individual attribute, but as a collective force that binds us together, sustains us through life's trials, and fills us with the courage to face whatever lies ahead. My family has defined for me the meaning of resilience and smiling despite all kinds of challenges. Growing up with limited resources, it was very easy for things to go wrong very often but my mother, who has been one of the biggest pillars of strength in my life, would always say: as long as we're all together and healthy- there is nothing we cannot figure out. Her voice rings in my head every time I am in a tough spot and this shift in perspective gives me the strength to keep going.

How does your culture shape your perception of strength? Growing up in a Pakistani household, strength was synonymous with resilience and perseverance. Our culture celebrates the indomitable spirit of those who endure hardship with dignity, who rise above adversity with grace, and who find solace and strength in the bonds of community and kinship. I was raised on stories of courage and fortitude, of women who defied societal expectations, shattered glass ceilings, and blazed trails for future generations. It was through these cultural narratives that I learned to embrace my own inner strength, to draw upon the collective wisdom of my ancestors, and to know that you don't have to go through life alone- your family, friends and community of people who support you are always there to pick you up and walk alongside you.

What keeps you strong in times of trial? In times of trial, what keeps me strong is my faith. It is such a privilege to have something to fall back on and knowing that there is a bigger plan and everything will make sense in the long run. It is also the unwavering belief that within every challenge lies an opportunity for growth. I draw strength from the reservoir of resilience that resides within me, from the knowledge that I have overcome obstacles before and emerged stronger on the other side. It is also the recognition of my privilege and knowing that so many others are facing so much worse in this world and still refuse to give up. Being involved in helping those who are faced with bigger challenges than yours, makes you appreciate the resources you have and gives you the zeal to make the most of those.
But perhaps more than anything, it is the love and support of my family and loved ones that sustains me through life's darkest moments. Their encouragement and their steadfast presence remind me that I am never alone, that I am capable of weathering any storm, and that within every trial lies the seeds of resilience and renewal.

How have your trials made you stronger? My youngest was born during the peak of COVID-19 in March 2020 and faced major health scares within the first few months of her birth. Due to covid restrictions, I would be the only person going through all the testing and diagnoses with her, talking to all her doctors and advocating for her to receive all the services she qualified for. The combination of being in a global pandemic, having an infant whose mental and physical abilities and teh quality of her entire life were a big question ad being her primary advocate in a country that I wasn't born or raised in was more paralyzing and scary than I would have imagined. I didn't have an option other than picking myself up, coming out of my comfort zone and do whatever was required in continuing to fight this battle for my daughter's wellbeing. It was only when we had emerged on the other side of it one long year later, that I realized how this trial had made my entire family so much more stronger and grateful for everything we had in life. This experience made see the invisible ceilings we set for ourselves and I realized I am capable of so much more than I give myself credit for.

What advice would you give to the next generation of strong women? To the next generation of strong women, I would say please embrace your uniqueness, trust in your abilities, and never underestimate your potential. I would encourage them to draw upon the collective wisdom of those who have come before them, but remember to find strength in their vulnerabilities, and to forge their own path with courage, grace, and resilience. It is very easy to lose yourself in the noise around you and the expectations of society. It is imperative to know what matters most to you.

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Rabeea’s Intentional Act of Kindness

How did you use the $100? I used the $100 to donate a few items needed to the Family Study Space at the University of Washington Allen Library. It's super exciting to hand-pick toys, books and other essential items to make sure the place is cozy and welcoming for all families. Being a parent student, I realize how challenging it is to balance life as a student with the needs of your family. I really appreciate this initiative by the UW to dedicate a space which allows student parents and caregivers to get some work done while children play or read quietly nearby and wanted to contribute to this cause. I am also always keen on making spaces more inclusive and love getting books and toys that help in making these spaces more welcoming to the underrepresented communities. I loved being able to use the donation to do that.

What was the 'Intentional Act of Kindness' process like for you? Kindness and sharing are at the heart of my faith and I absolutely loved being part of this process because it helped me get ready for the month of Ramadan coming up. This process encouraged me to make a list of acts of service I had been wanting to do and act on each one of them one by one. It felt nice to be more intentional in my approach, having a plan to make a difference in people's lives and creating opportunities to do that instead of waiting for them to come by.

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Soul 59: Palak

Kristen Bales January 3, 2024

What does "being strong" mean to you? To me, "being strong" means being comfortable with who you are as a person. It's having the courage to be your authentic self even when it's difficult or when others don't understand. It's also about finding inner resilience in the face of challenges. I strive to have the self-assurance to stay true to my values and priorities rather than conforming to unreasonable expectations. Being strong is also about accepting yourself, failures and all. It means realizing that mistakes and setbacks are part of the journey, and seeing them as opportunities for growth. Ultimately, being strong is about standing firmly in your identity with compassion and confidence, while embracing both your successes and your imperfections.

What keeps you strong in times of trial? In difficult times, what anchors me is faith in my own abilities and faith in the support from my loved ones. I take strength from remembering my inner resilience - all the previous challenges I have navigated and grown from. Most of all, during trials, I try to be kind and caring towards myself, like I would be towards a close friend in the same situation. Offering myself that warmth and understanding helps me feel calmer in difficult situations. I know I have the hope that this will pass and the grit to keep pushing through. No matter what comes, I will meet it with compassion for myself and the resolve to keep moving forward.

Who is a female role model in your life and why? My female role model in life is my mother. She is a homemaker who embodies selflessness and lives modestly just to invest in my brother and me. I'm inspired by her humility and grounded nature. Even though she didn’t work outside the home, she always encourages me to dream big and set ambitious goals. The security and confidence she gave me through her selfless care allows me to fearlessly follow my passions today. I admire her quiet strength and the dignity with which she leads our family. Whether standing up for me or making personal sacrifices, my mother leads first and foremost by example. For modeling courage and compassion, she is my forever role model.

How can you be strong and vulnerable? I aim to be strong in standing firmly in my values and principles, while also being vulnerable enough to admit when I’m struggling or need help. This requires emotional strength but also honesty about imperfection. I strive for the strength to speak my whole truth, including the messy and imperfect parts rather than hiding behind a exterior of having it all together.

How do you encourage other women to be strong? I encourage the women in my life to build strength by building a support system and being open to both giving and receiving help from it. None of us can or should feel like we need to handle everything alone. Whether it's friends, family, or others, relying on your community makes you stronger. I encourage the women around me to make space for all their emotions- feel your fear, hurt, and stress, you don’t have to always have it all together. Go easier on yourself when you miss the mark. Progress comes from effort over time, not performing flawlessly. Stay anchored in self-compassion along the way. The connections we share lighten every load.

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Palak’s Intentional Act of Kindness

How did you use the $100? While visiting my hometown for the holidays, I wanted to help meet the needs of girls in my community. I donated 32 packs of pads to a local orphanage that provides housing and care for 17 adolescent girls. Menstrual products are essential yet often unaffordable for those facing economic constraints. By donating pads, my goal was to assist the orphanage in accessing menstrual products for some time.

What was the 'Intentional Act of Kindness' process like for you? This act of kindness reminded me that all support - through donations of time, talent, or treasure - makes an impact. My hope was that in some small way, this donation gave the girls both physical products they require as well as the emotional support of knowing their community cares about their health and wellbeing.

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Soul 58: Amélie

Kristen Bales December 14, 2023

How does your culture shape your perception of strength? My ethnicity plays a big role in shaping my perception of strength. Much of this comes from my relationship with my great-grandparents. When I was a teenager, Papken, my great-grandfather, told me the story of how he survived death marches as a child by eating plants and becoming a slave to nomadic communities before escaping to an orphanage in Istanbul. Despite this harrowing experience, Papken's definition of strength has a collective bend. He encouraged me to think of strength as having, and most importantly, enjoying a modest and comfortable life that is rich with joy and a community of very good people. As a result, it's very important to me that I derive true joy and happiness from building my community, engaging in my work, and carving out my space in the world.

How can you be strong and vulnerable? One of my childhood friends, Gina, developed an aggressive type of leukemia in her early 20s. She endured the seemingly endless and crushing cycle of relapse and remission for several years. Her friends, partner, and family coalesced around her, providing support and community when she needed it most. However, something surprising happened amidst this warm bubble of support and care. Some of her friends disappeared. They didn't call. They didn't text. They didn't show up to the hospital. I was furious on her behalf. How could someone vanish into thin air when their friend is suffering? Gina, who often swore like a sailor and was quick to shout at cars in traffic, demonstrated a steely sense of calm. When I asked, she simply shrugged it off and said, "They can't deal with my sickness right now so that's on them." Gina showed me a new kind of strength that centered on forgiveness, even under arguably unforgiveable circumstances. Now, her influence remains imprinted on my as a way to simultaneously hold strength and vulnerability.

How do you encourage other women to be strong? My father is a highly principled person. He taught me that the tension resulting from compromising on my values isn't worth any short-term reward. So, in order to be strong, I want to encourage people to eradicate any internalized pressures to be likable. In this day and age (and I hope this continues to change), expressions of femininity are often met with implicit expectations to be palatable and accommodating. While these are certainly valuable skills, I believe it's important to get comfortable with the idea of being disliked for reasons that we stand for.

What advice would you give to the next generation of strong women? To balance my comment on avoiding compromising on values, I would give the following advice: rectify and forgive your mistakes. For a long time, I thought that being strong meant being so disciplined I never slipped up. Know that you will make mistakes, and that's okay. What matters is that you minimize the negative effects, apologize, clean up your mess if you made one, and forgive yourself.

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Amélie’s Intentional Act of Kindness

How did you use the $100? I donated to the Refugee Artisan Initiative (refugeearts.org). RAI was founded by Ming-Ming Tung-Edelman, an immigrant from Taiwan, who was inspired by her grandmother's skill at sewing. Ming-Ming was driven to support refugee and immigrant women to achieve financial independence in the US, hence RAI was born. Financial independence is the foundation for having career options and lifestyle choices. Having it allows us to set boundaries and make smart decisions about our health and the well-being of our loved ones. Not having it makes us vulnerable to unhealthy power dynamics at work and home. As an American, I know how meaningful it is to have financial independence in the US. I'm impressed with the work that RAI does for those who don't yet have the privilege and cultural context they need to find their footing here. I decided to donate to RAI because I support its mission of creating a prosperous transition environment for refugee and immigrant women here in Washington.

What was the 'Intentional Act of Kindness' process like for you? It was wonderful to take some time to reflect on where I wanted to put my $100. I found myself reflecting on what is meaningful to people across a spectrum of life experiences, and how I wanted to deliver this contribution of mine.

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Soul 57: Cheryl

Kristen Bales September 25, 2023

What does "being strong" mean to you? Willingness to acknowledge weakness & need turning first to God for the strength, wisdom and direction needed. A strong person takes responsibility and ownership of their attitudes and actions. They also are able to forgive others when wronged instead of holding on to hurts. A strong person seeks to grow and mature through both the good and difficult circumstances of life.

What keeps you strong in times of trial? Trusting in God’s faithfulness and the promises in His Word. Knowing God is sovereignly in control over all aspects of my life I can rest in the fact that He will bring good out of any situation. He promised we’d have trials but that He would be with us in them. It’s about allowing God to work in us and through us. The following quote by Elisabeth Elliott sums it up, “ The fact is, as believers, it is not about us. It is not about my happiness, my joy, my wellbeing. It is about the glory of God and the kingdom of Christ. The only means to real joy and contentment is to make His glory the supreme objective in my life”

How have your trials made you stronger? What stands out is the year of 2012. During that year there were 5 deaths and 7 instances of crime. 6 of the crimes were in or near my home. There was something every week for a two month period. I saw God’s faithfulness and protection. When my front door was kicked in and also when my car was stolen, a dear friend was staying at my place, neighbors came over to help. It was nice not to be alone. No one was harmed...just things.

God drew my attention to scriptures, devotionals, songs and a book that gave me a different perspective of the trials. The tendency is to dread them and see them as an awful thing to be endured. God taught me to see them as His gifts wrapped in an unexpected package and to look for His purpose in them. Maybe a lesson to learn, character to be developed, a deeper relationship with Him, the opportunity to share God’s faithfulness with an unbeliever that wouldn’t necessarily be interested in hearing about God otherwise. I did feel that I emerged from that period with a different perspective and increased strength..

Who is a female role model in your life and why? I have known Liz Ostby for about 51 years. She is one that has been faithful to the Lord and His Word and always has words of wisdom or insight to share. She sees spiritual lessons in everyday circumstances and in the world God has created. Even though Liz has walked with the Lord for many years she continues to learn and grow. She knows how to laugh, have a good time, relax and read a good book. At age 86 she is still walking half marathons annually, learning to do new things, sets goals as to what she wants to accomplish in the coming year. She chooses not to be limited by her age but continues to be active serving God and being a blessing to others.

What advice would you give to the next generation of strong women? It’s about making the right choices. What is the main focus and priority? What do we fill our mind with? Make it a priority to ready/study/obey God’s Word. Cultivate an intimate relationship with the Lord and allow Him to build strength and other qualities in your life.

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Cheryl’s Intentional Act of Kindness

How did you use the $100? I gave the full $100 to a friend with Parkinsons to help her with the high cost of the medication prescribed for her. This new medication is very costly. She is a faithful Christian that continues to trust and serve God. Among other things she is involved in discipleship and prayer ministries even with the limitations of the Parkinsons disease and other unrelated health issues. I wanted to be able to help her in her time of need.

What was the 'Intentional Act of Kindness' process like for you? It's always a blessing to be in a position to be able to help someone whether it be a friend, casual acquaintance or perfect stranger. My friend was thankful to be receiving the funds to help her in her time of need. It gave me pleasure to be able to help her in this way.

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Soul 56: Ally

Kristen Bales September 16, 2023

How does family shape your perception of strength? People say that when you have kids you “love them so greatly that you would die for them”. This is true, but this love is so much deeper than that. It’s like the moment they are yours, a hook catches deep in your soul, and if anything were to happen to them those hooks would tear you apart and you would be wounded so deeply and gravely you can hardly imagine it.

And now that you have them and you love them, you are open, exposed, vulnerable to the deepest hurt anyone can know—loosing them.

This wound is similar with a spouse, but so much deeper when you have a tiny dependent soul that looks to you for everything they need. It takes such great strength to love so deeply and know that you are now vulnerable to greatest wound a person can know. I think this is a much deeper vulnerability and strength than I ever imagined. It makes me so grateful for the strength of my own parents in loving me and caring for me as well.

What keeps you strong in times of trial? God’s grace is sufficient for me and is my strength in my time of weakness. My hope and trust in God is what anchors my soul.

How have your trials made you stronger? Every trial I have gone through has shown me that I can experience great pain, but still come through whole. Every trial I have gone through has shown me that though I may walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I am not alone.

How can you be strong and vulnerable? Allowing yourself to be vulnerable = strength. Vulnerability means being open to harm. If you willingly open yourself up to the possibility of being hurt, you are saying I understand that I can be hurt, and I am willing to risk that and endure that for a greater purpose. It takes great strength to knowingly take a step that may cause you pain, even if there is great gain to be achieved.

What’s one thing someone could do today to make them stronger? Talk about your weaknesses with someone you love and trust and who will point you to the truth. Be vulnerable and open yourself up.

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Ally’s Intentional Act of Kindness

How did you use the $100? I contributed the funds to help sponsor a girls Bible study retreat at my local church focused on raising up wise and strong young women. Young girls (8-12), can easily be overlooked or considered too young or immature to grasp concepts of wisdom and strength. But theses beautiful souls are ready to learn and be poured into. This retreat is a time for them to bond and time for their moms who are leading them to pour into them specially without the distractions of other siblings or responsibilities. I felt like it was the perfect opportunity to help raise up more strong women in my community.

What was the 'Intentional Act of Kindness' process like for you? I really appreciated having a set amount that I was supposed to spend by a certain time. Having funds set aside and dedicated helped me see opportunities to spread love and generosity all over my community in ways that I would normally shut down because I “don’t had the money..” This process helped me to be more mindful and intentional throughout the month and just consider ways I could help or encourage others.

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Soul 55: Kylie

Kristen Bales August 23, 2023

What does "being strong" mean to you? Strength is speaking the truth in love, knowing who you are and walking confidently in that knowledge, and persevering in times of struggle. When I think of strong people, I think of those who have overcome, who have loved when it was easier to hate, who accomplished incredible things through small, habitual actions, who held on to their beliefs despite intimidation, or chosen joy in all circumstances. Life is hard. Strong people know this and still decide to face the day with fortitude and joy.

What keeps you strong in times of trial? Ultimately, knowing there is a God who walks with me through trial and is writing a good story through me brings hope in times of trial. Being a Christian doesn't mean suffering and trial do not happen to you; being Christian means you have a God who has also experienced suffering and walks with you through it. Of course, that statement is infinitely more difficult to remember in those times of struggle, but I am continually reminded that God has never left his people and has always been faithful, no matter how often doubt has crept in.

Who is a female role model in your life and why? When I was in college, I had a female campus pastor who showed me that women could be in the pulpit too. I had grown up thinking there wasn't much of a place for women in the church who felt called to ministry, but Mindy quietly and confidently modeled pastoral ministry. Her preaching was powerful and her mentorship was formational - for all students. As I grew in my own understanding of call, she encouraged the gifts and skills she saw in me. Eventually, I too became a pastor and now teach Christian Studies to young people. As women, the first time we get to see other women breaking the barriers between what is expected and what is possible can be formational in who we can become.

How can you be strong and vulnerable? Growing up, I thought crying and tears were a sign of weakness. I've always been an emotional person - when I'm overjoyed, excited, overwhelmed, gutted, etc., I usually cry. Especially with the negative emotions, I hated that I would cry. But I read this beautiful book that described tears as an expression of mourning for the way the world should be, an acknowledgement that the world is broken and not yet what it is intended to be. They can express the depth of our care for the broken things and not be merely a sign of weakness. I think tears can allow us to see the world with empathy and care in ways that stoicism isn't able to.

How do you encourage other women to be strong? In my classroom, I have the great joy of teaching adolescent women about who God is and who he has created them to be. We get to wrestle with biblical texts dealing with suffering, God's continued faithfulness to a wayward people, and the plans that God has for his world. My hope is that by studying God's love and care for his people of old, that they come to know how deeply he cares for each of them. Insecurity and self-consciousness are prominent issues that they struggle with and I want them to know how deeply God cares for them exactly as they are.

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Kylie’s Intentional Act of Kindness

How did you use the $100? One of my good friends has recently become a single mom. She has four kids and just took in her son’s friend who was experiencing an abusive home life. One of my favorite things about her is how fiercely she cares for others even when she has little herself. She is completely selfless, and wholly kind, always looking for ways to love on others. I gave her the money to help make ends meet this month and be able to buy groceries.

When a good friend is constantly meeting roadblocks that stop her from providing for her kids or making rent or having to choose between clothes for the kids or gas, you have to help. As a Christian, I believe that everything we have is really God’s to begin with; our job is to steward our finances and time to give those resources in a way that honors Him and builds His kingdom. Being able to give this gift to care for a wholly deserving family is exactly the kind of action God calls us to.

What was the 'Intentional Act of Kindness' process like for you? To begin with, I was so thankful for Kristen and her generosity to consistently support acts like this. What an inspiring way to empower women, encourage generosity, and give women a platform to share their stories. The intentional acts of kindness part of the project reminded how powerful generosity is to both the giver and the one who receives. This friend has been on my heart for awhile now and this project gave me the opportunity to continue to financially support her and reminded me that giving is such a privilege and blessing. To be able to meet someone’s tangible need has inspired me to recommit to generosity and looking for opportunities to help others.

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