How does family shape your perception of strength? My family instilled in me the notion that I could do anything I set my mind to. I was encouraged to take risks, try-out for sports teams, audition for theater roles, and chase my dreams. The idea that failure was a part of growth felt comforting, knowing I had my family standing behind me. When I think of strength, I think a lot about my dad’s journey to the US. While born in the states, he was raised in Bogota, Colombia. After spending 3 years at a university in Colombia, he moved to California, learned English, and went on to graduate as an engineer from Cal Poly. I will forever be impressed by his strength, and think about this when going through my own struggles. We are no match for the battles we face if supported and determined to succeed.
What keeps you strong in times of trial? I remind myself of the following: will this matter a day, week, or month from now? It is easy to spiral when something goes wrong. When I initially read the question, my mind jumped back to June of 2021. I was taking flying lessons, and upon take-off, within seconds of each other, the airplane door slightly popped open and it started to rain. In the moment, I was utterly terrified. It was hard enough to handle the flight procedures, but my only option was to keep flying. The instructor helped me shut the door, I landed the plane, and we both laughed. The trial may have mattered that day, but I now look back on that moment knowing perspective helped me through it.
Who is a female role model in your life and why? My mother is a paramount example of strength, someone who I look up to daily and aspire to be like. She is kind, intelligent, supportive, and loving. She balanced being a full-time mom and working, seldom missing a soccer game, dance performance, or school event. She built strong communities around her and always made time for family. She’s played an instrumental role in my growth as a person.
What advice would you give to the next generation of strong women? Do not be afraid to advocate for yourself and learn how to negotiate for what you deserve. Graduate school has strengthened my negotiation and advocacy skills, especially regarding job offers. I recall getting my first internship offer my sophomore year of college. It was a wonderful company and I knew I wanted it. I was so ecstatic, I accepted the role over the phone. Looking back on this moment, I think about what would have happened if I negotiated.
I’ve learned over time how to pair my tendency to be thankful with a growing strength of asking for what I want. I also learned to not accept an offer on the phone, giving yourself time to think about your options. Knowing your worth and accepting nothing less transcends beyond the job market, but plays a large role in your professional trajectory.
What’s one thing someone could do today to make them stronger? Set priorities and protect your time. I had a wonderful conversation with a colleague recently where we discussed our own priorities. They mentioned that when you establish your priorities and protect your time, you develop habits that support your long term goals.
Last fall, I was navigating the shift from full-time work to graduate school. Tasks that were once easier to complete now competed with homework, group projects, and a social life. The best thing I did for myself was set boundaries to ensure that I had what I needed. For me, this looked like going on a run or cooking a nice meal when I needed a break from schoolwork.
Think of the things that bring you joy or help fill your cup. I often get stuck in the circle of overthinking when my plate is full. This mental re-set helps me to find balance in my life, re-focusing on what is important and prioritizing accordingly.
Monica’s Intentional Act of Kindness
How did you use the $100? I donated the $100 to an organization close to my heart, Friday Night Out (FNO). FNO was developed to build community for adults with special needs. They host monthly events in Northern California, creating a safe space for special needs adults to build friendships, have dinner, and enjoy an evening in community.
I thought about how I wanted to donate the funds for some time, and landed on an organization that supported my brother. Growing up with a special needs brother, I've always been drawn to supporting his community. The founder started the organization to grow a community for her own daughter and special needs adults in the area. I have seen the organization grow from a concept to an incredible community. As adults, it can be hard to make friends. Adding the additional hurdle of having an intellectual disability makes it more difficult. Organizations like FNO are dedicated to creating opportunities for friendship and community.
What was the 'Intentional Act of Kindness' process like for you? I always feel lifted when giving. I find that it motivates me to volunteer my time or support a mission financially. I'm appreciative to the 100 Souls Strong project for giving me opportunity to support an important non-profit's mission.