Soul 88: Drew

What does "being strong" mean to you? Being strong is complex. I think it’s multifaceted. Humility takes strength, right? …but so does confidence? It takes determination but sometimes also the wisdom to acknowledge when it’s all about to break, when health and well-being are at stake. In my experience, being strong is drawing upon the necessary facets of life in order to continue holding on… sometimes that’s with a tight grip and all the muscle… sometimes it’s a precarious hold by a single finger, preserving that rope that is life. Avoiding the ultimate break. But we use the interwoven chords of faith, relationships, identity, experience, outlook, honesty… to build a rope of life that hold us up in different capacities throughout the challenges and hardships of life. …and sometimes when we do break, it’s an interwoven chord from our relationships (with other humans, or the supernatural.. in my experience, God) that keep us from falling.

How does family shape your perception of strength? My family has shaped my perception of strength in many positive ways. Determination, grit, humility, resilience… those were all modeled for me throughout my upbringing and to this day. Along the way, I had to learn the other side of strength… empathy, gentleness, kindness. Strength isn’t always brute force. If we tug at the rope or fail to recognize where it’s hurting, it’s going to break. While strong certainly requires toughness, I have experienced that there is a gentleness to strength as well.

How does your culture shape your perception of strength? Wow… this one hits home right now. I’m choosing to be a full-time stay at home mom, and I feel the temptation to believe the cultural lie that I am not enough. That recognition, financial success, knowledge, experience, titles, and degrees are what defines me… that they’re what’s strong. … that anything else is “less than”. I am having to renew my mind by the minute that I am not defined by what I do. My identity is rooted in who I being to and out of that, strength arises. Motherhood certainly is a test of strength. Not winning the approval or accolades of others doesn’t make me weak. In fact, some of the strongest humans are the ones in the shadows or behind the scenes. They have to look inward and upward to keep on keeping on.

What keeps you strong in times of trial? In times of trial, my faith in Jesus of Nazareth is what keeps me strong. It is this worldview that helps me make sense of hardship and struggle and provides purpose that drives me when I feel like I cannot withstand any longer.

How have your trials made you stronger? When we were in our early 20’s, my husband and I felt called to foster care. When we were 23, we started getting our first “placements”… kids who needed care. We formed relationships with each of those kiddos and some of the biggest trials in my life occurred when we had to say goodbye (or some extent of goodbye) to some of those kiddos. The soul wrenching grief, misunderstanding, isolation, and brokenness catalyzed by those trials made me stronger because I was forced to feel my own feelings and validate my own difficult circumstances despite what others around me thought or had to say. I had to pare down my life to the only thing that mattered, which was my faith, in order to choose to get up each day. As I look back on that season, I realize just how strong I had to be.

Drew’s Intentional Act of Kindness

How did you use the $100? I was able to gift the $100 to a high school graduate who is heading to do YWAM this fall. I took the time to be sensitive to where this money might make a significant impact, and a couple of weeks in, it just became clear that this amount would be helpful toward their fund raising. It was a trusted individual who we had an existing relationship with!

What was the 'Intentional Act of Kindness' process like for you? It was fun to have money already set aside for this purpose. 1. There wasn’t a financial barrier to generosity as this money was already labeled for a specific purpose. 2. It made me more aware and sensitive to others needs and stories and where I may be prompted to give.

Soul 87: Carlee

How does family shape your perception of strength? When I think about strength, I think about my mom. Throughout my life, she has faced more challenges than most people experience in a lifetime. She navigated financial struggles, divorce, multiple moves, and, most significantly, the serious illnesses of two of her children.

My younger sister was born with a neuromuscular disease, and doctors were unsure if she would survive. She required around-the-clock care, tube feedings, and countless therapies. Against all expectations, she continued to fight and gradually improve. Then, when my younger brother was only two years old, he was diagnosed with neuroblastoma. Over the next five years, our family faced surgeries, chemotherapy, radiation, mounting medical bills, divorce, remarriage, blending a new family, moving into a new home, and the everyday uncertainty of how to make ends meet.

When my brother passed away, it was the lowest point I had ever seen my mom experience. She was consumed by her grief and struggled to be present for anyone else. As difficult as that was for me while navigating my own grief, I cannot imagine the pain she carried as a mother. What stands out to me most is not that she never fell apart, it’s that she eventually found a way to keep going. It took time, but she worked her way through unimaginable loss and rebuilt her life.

Watching her has shaped my understanding of strength. Strength is not about being unaffected by hardship or always appearing resilient. It is about continuing to move forward when life feels impossible. My mom taught me to be independent, resourceful, flexible, and adaptable. Seeing her endure the worst circumstances imaginable and still find a way through them has shown me that even the hardest challenges can be overcome.

What keeps you strong in times of trial? In times of trial, I draw strength from my faith, my relationships, and moments of solitude. While I am grateful for the support of family and friends, some of the greatest peace I find comes when I can step away from the noise, reflect on my thoughts, process my emotions, and focus on what is still good in my life.

When I am struggling, I often take my dog for a walk, spend time outdoors, and pray. Being in nature helps me slow down and stay present, while prayer helps me feel connected to God and reminds me that I do not have to carry every burden on my own. Asking for guidance, strength, and peace gives me comfort during difficult times. My faith has been the foundation that sustains me, but the people I trust also play an important role. Having family and friends who listen, support me, and simply show up when I need them makes challenges feel less overwhelming. Through both faith and relationships, I am reminded that I am not alone.

Most importantly, I have learned that healing and growth often come one step at a time. No matter how difficult a situation may seem, I keep moving forward, trusting that with time, patience, and support, the pain becomes lighter and the path ahead becomes clearer.

How have your trials made you stronger?: My trials have made me stronger by showing me what I am capable of enduring. Each time I face a difficult situation and come out on the other side, I gain a greater sense of confidence in my ability to handle future challenges. When I can look back and think, “That was incredibly hard, but I made it through,” it reminds me that I am more resilient than I often realize.

Trials have also taught me patience, adaptability, and perseverance. They have shown me that growth often comes through discomfort and that strength is built by continuing to move forward, even when the path is uncertain. While I would not choose many of the hardships I have experienced, I recognize that they have shaped me into someone who is better equipped to face adversity.

Most importantly, my experiences have taught me to trust that difficult seasons do not last forever. Knowing that I have overcome challenges in the past gives me hope and confidence that I can overcome them again in the future.

How can you be strong and vulnerable? I believe there is an incredible amount of strength involved in being vulnerable. Being vulnerable means allowing others to see who you really are, the good, the bad, and everything in between. It requires courage to open yourself up to the possibility of judgment, rejection, or misunderstanding. For many people, that can be terrifying.

To me, vulnerability is being willing to say, “I’m not perfect, but this is who I am.” It means acknowledging your struggles, mistakes, and shortcomings rather than hiding them behind a facade of perfection. While it may feel safer to keep those parts of ourselves hidden, I think it takes far more strength to be honest and authentic.I also believe vulnerability helps create deeper connections with others. When we are open about our challenges, we give others permission to do the same. It reminds people that no one has it all figured out and that perfection is not a requirement for worthiness or belonging.

What advice would you give to the next generation of strong women? My advice to the next generation of strong women is to never let your circumstances define who you are or what you are capable of becoming. Life will not always be fair, and sometimes you will be dealt difficult circumstances that are completely outside of your control. Acknowledge the hardship, allow yourself to feel it, and then keep moving forward one step at a time.

I would also encourage young women to invest in themselves. Spend time getting to know who you are, what you value, and what brings you joy. For a long time, I did not prioritize myself enough, and as a result, I struggled with insecurity and self-doubt. Over time, I have learned the importance of recognizing my own worth and building confidence from within. I am continually discovering that I am capable of far more than I once believed.

Most importantly, remember that strength does not mean never struggling. It means continuing to move forward despite the struggles. Trust yourself, give yourself grace, and do not be afraid to take up space in the world. There will be difficult seasons, but there are also so many beautiful experiences, relationships, and opportunities waiting for you. Hold on to those things, keep putting one foot in front of the other, and trust that you are stronger than you know.

Carlee’s Intentional Act of Kindness

How did you use the $100? I used the $100 to purchase fresh-cut flowers and create 12 small bouquets, which I then gifted to members of the stroke survivors group at EvergreenHealth. My goal was to do something simple but meaningful that could bring a bit of joy, encouragement, and beauty to people who are navigating recovery and significant life changes. I chose to use the $100 in this way because I work in the stroke program, and the stroke survivors were the first people who came to mind when I thought about who I wanted to bless. They have experienced life-altering health events that require not only immediate resilience, but ongoing strength in the long recovery process that follows. Many stroke survivors continue to face physical limitations, emotional changes, and often depression, and it takes significant daily strength to keep adapting and moving forward.

While support from family and friends is often strong right after a stroke, it can naturally lessen over time, even though the challenges remain. I wanted to do something small that acknowledged their continued journey and reminded them that they are still seen, valued, and not forgotten. I also thought about how much I personally enjoy having fresh flowers in my home and how they can bring a sense of beauty and comfort, even though they are not something I usually spend money on for myself. I wanted to share that same simple joy with others as a way of offering encouragement and a moment of lightness. Each bouquet also included a single yellow rose in memory of my late brother. Yellow roses were a meaningful symbol between him and my mom, and they serve as a reminder of him whenever we see them. Including that rose felt like a way to carry his memory into something kind and hopeful for others.

What was the 'Intentional Act of Kindness' process like for you? The Intentional Act of Kindness process was very meaningful to me. I knew right away what I wanted to do, and I felt a strong connection to the idea of doing something for the stroke survivors I work with. I also brought my daughter with me to help pick out the flowers so she could be part of the process and see what it looks like to intentionally show kindness to others. It was important to me to model that giving and thoughtfulness are things we can actively choose and involve the people we love in.

On the day of, I was extremely nervous. It felt vulnerable to show up in that way and offer something so simple, and I worried about how it would be received. I questioned whether it might feel too small or not meaningful enough. But those fears quickly faded when I saw their reactions. Everyone was genuinely happy and appreciative. They loved the bouquets and even took a group photo with them. It was incredibly moving to see their smiles and to realize that something so simple could bring that much joy. In the end, it reminded me that kindness does not have to be large or complicated to matter, it just has to be sincere.

Soul 86: Meg

What does "being strong" mean to you? As an arborist, I rely on a lot of equipment to keep myself, the crew, and clients' property safe. In my work, strength is understood as the dynamic load weight the rope or pulley is capable of bearing without breaking. "Being strong" to me implies the ability to withstand a heavy load without buckling. But sometimes strength is just physical strength -- as in, are you strong enough to move that huge round of firewood?

How can you be strong and vulnerable? : I literally can't!
Many women seem to have this one on lock -- their strength seems to be their ability to be vulnerable. But this has not been my experience. Friends provide a safe space for me to be vulnerable, but the more I show vulnerability outside of my friend group the more the vulnerabilities are actively used against me. I am like a crustacean: my strength is my hard shell that keeps the vulnerable puddle inside me together.

How do you encourage other women to be strong? My lady coworkers and friends are already strong enough to do whatever they set their minds to. Sometimes they just need the reminder, "You got this." Other times, it's merely implied: if no one is questioning or second-guessing their work, they stop doubting themselves; if they're given the opportunity to handle it (whatever it is) themselves, they crush it.

What’s one thing someone could do today to make them stronger? Do the thing you know you need to do that you don't want to. Stop making excuses, procrastinating or prioritizing useless time-sucks. Less talk, more investing energy into the hard stuff that will actually level you up.

When has your strength been personally challenged and how did you respond? Olympic National Park trail crew fired me without any notices, warnings, incidents or talkings-to. I was the only woman on my crew with 4 men, and we worked and camped in the backcountry 8 10-hour days in a row with no cell service. Despite being the only person who ran chainsaw for work outside of trail crew, they refused to let me run saw the entire stint of my employment. I was tough, strong, and opinionated, and occasionally moody. My 4 male coworkers complained that I was "threatening, harassing, and intimidating" despite never exhibiting any of those behaviors, never having a single incident and never being issued a single warning. They couldn't handle a woman who wasn't "camp mom" and who didn't bother with the customer service face. When they unjustly fired me, I took the national park to court myself and settled -- for half of what I was asking and 4x more than what they had originally offered.

Meg’s Intentional Act of Kindness

How did you use the $100? A homie in the community has lived through quite a bit, and she's been struggling to find stability. It's her story to tell, not mine. The $100 went straight to her. $100 can make a big difference in a person's life. I wanted the resource to go to someone who was without resources.

What was the 'Intentional Act of Kindness' process like for you? The homie who received the money was incredulous that someone she didn't even know had given me money "to bless someone with." She couldn't wrap her head around it, and almost didn't want it... but of course she needed it. Kristen's donations also inspired me, and I decided to match her donation to help out the friends who'd been housing and feeding our homie.

Soul 85: Hien

What does "being strong" mean to you? To me, being strong means acknowledging that life is not always smooth or easy, and choosing to move forward anyway. When challenges arise, I believe strength comes from giving myself grace, continuing to work hard, and staying resilient through difficulty. Being strong ultimately means not giving up, even when the path feels uncertain or demanding.

How does family shape your perception of strength? I was born into a family defined by willpower and perseverance. My parents worked tirelessly day and night to ensure their children had access to a strong education. My older sisters became the first finance professional and doctor in our family history, breaking barriers that had never been crossed before. Watching their discipline, sacrifice, and determination deeply shaped how I view strength. I learned from them and was inspired to carry that same sense of responsibility and drive forward in my own life.

How does your culture shape your perception of strength? Vietnamese culture places great value on resilience, determination, and hard work. From a young age, the belief that effort and persistence can overcome obstacles was ingrained in me. The mindset of “where there’s a will, there’s a way” strongly influences how I approach challenges, and it continues to shape how I lead my life and make decisions.

What keeps you strong in times of trial? In difficult moments, I rely on a learning mindset to stay strong. I tend to be very hard on myself when I make mistakes - those moments stay with me, but that discomfort pushes me to reflect, learn, and improve. While this stubbornness can be challenging, it also fuels my determination to grow and to do better each time. The desire to learn from mistakes and not repeat them is what ultimately keeps me moving forward in times of trial.

What advice would you give to the next generation of strong women? I encourage the next generations to recognize the importance of a supportive community. I’ve found that having a strong support system whether through family, friends, or a circle of women who uplift one another, can make a meaningful difference when navigating challenges. I believe that women empower women. By sharing our stories, lessons learned, and experiences openly, we help one another feel seen, capable, and resilient. That collective support strengthens each of us individually.

Hien’s Intentional Act of Kindness

How did you use the $100? I used the $100 to donate to VietSeeds (https://vietseeds.org/), a nonprofit organization in Vietnam that expands access to education for students from disadvantaged backgrounds, particularly those in remote and underserved areas. I’ve been a mentor to several VietSeeds students, supporting them in building skills and shaping their future paths. Through that experience, I’ve come to believe that financial support can be just as impactful as mentorship. Donating to VietSeeds felt deeply personal and closely aligned with my values and long‑term commitment to education.

What was the 'Intentional Act of Kindness' process like for you? The process was a meaningful reflection on what truly matters to me. I initially considered donating to Stop AAPI Hate. While important, it didn’t fully resonate with my personal priorities. Education-especially for children, has always been central to my values, which ultimately led me to choose VietSeeds.

Soul 84: Tess

What does "being strong" mean to you? Everyone has to be strong in different ways at different times. Maybe physically during a health scare or mentally during difficult life situations. Emotionally when everything feels wrong or productively when we are seeking passion for something in our lives. So strength to me simply means to keep going. To keep fighting. To keep surviving. To keep hoping. To keep trying. To keep enduring. Keep going.

What keeps you strong in times of trial? My family. They are my ultimate priority above myself and I know that even if I am facing trials or struggles there is nothing I wouldn’t do to keep them safe and loved. Providing for them means keeping myself safe and strong in order to best support them in growing into confident, kind, and thoughtful humans.

Who is a female role model in your life and why? My one year old daughter. Even before she was born she came with determination and drive. In the little time she has been here she has embodied what it means to try even if you fail, to seek even when you know you can’t achieve it yet, to be joyful even in uncertainty. Her confidence is unwavering and her love is limitless. I hope to one day be more like her.

How do you encourage other women to be strong? I love sharing, communicating, and collaborating. I believe we build strength by learning through each other; whether that be our mistakes or our successes. Being vulnerable and accepting of who we are and how we’ve grown can help others do the same without judgement. Strength doesn’t have to be singular, but built through community, vulnerability, and shared desire for growth.

When has your strength been personally challenged and how did you respond? After a recent health diagnosis I have had to do a lot of self reflection. During this incredibly scary time I had to turn around and ask myself how I have made my family’s life better and if I feel like I am confident in their ability to be successful and joyful even without my support. I also had to ask myself if I was happy and how I would move forward in being intentional about using my time and energy. Being strong during this time meant allowing myself to self-advocate when I knew I could no longer be the person I was before.

Tess’s Intentional Act of Kindness

How did you use the $100? Provided $25 food gift cards to those who lost benefits during the government shut down and matched the donation to be able to support additional families. Sometimes trials come at us in unexpected ways and we have to rely on the kindness of others. This can be incredibly humbling, terrifying, and fortifying. I wanted to do something I knew people needed immediately that’s would alleviate just a little bit of pressure.

What was the 'Intentional Act of Kindness' process like for you? It made me rethink the opportunities and support I have been given. Sometimes I take what I have for granted and forget that the world moves around outside of my little life. I appreciated the opportunity to widen my vision and remember that small opportunities can have big impacts.

Soul 83: Kiara

What does "being strong" mean to you? Being strong to me means knowing your strengths and the areas you’re still growing in and having the self-awareness to recognize when you need support. It’s confidence paired with humility.

How does family shape your perception of strength? My family shaped my early view of strength as being the person who can carry a lot, especially women and keep going with few complaints. As I’ve gotten older, I’ve kept that resilience, but I’ve also learned that strength includes rest, boundaries, and taking care of your mind, body, and spirit. To me, being strong now means making space for vulnerability and being comfortable asking for help when you need it.

How does your culture shape your perception of strength? My culture has absolutely influenced how I define strength. I grew up with a “boot-strap” mentality, when you fall, you get back up and keep going. That mindset built resilience in me, and I’m proud of it. At the same time, I’ve learned that many of us were raised to operate in survival mode, and I’m working on balancing perseverance with support, emotional health, and community. Strength for me now is still resilience but it’s also letting people in, building a support system, and knowing you don’t have to do everything alone.

What keeps you strong in times of trial? Community keeps me strong, along with the values I’ve learned from my family and elders. I stay grounded by remembering I’m here because of the strength of the people who came before me and I lean on my community for perspective, guidance, and support when things feel heavy.

How have your trials made you stronger? My trials have made me stronger because they’ve taught me where I can find hope and how to cope in healthier ways. It’s like building any muscle, the more I practice navigating hard moments, the more capable I become the next time something tough shows up.

Who is a female role model in your life and why? My grandmother and my mom. My family doesn’t talk about everything they went through, but I know both women faced a lot when they were young, and they still built meaningful lives and cared for others. My grandmother was illiterate, yet she could bring large communities together and cook for big groups with skill and confidence. I’ve always been amazed by how she navigated life as a single mom and raised her children. Because of her strength, I feel like I’m a product of her resilience, wisdom, and the legacy she created.

How can you be strong and vulnerable? I’ve learned you can be strong and vulnerable at the same time by leading with honesty. When you show up as a real person, not pretending to have it all together, it builds trust with the people around you. And when trust is present, teams collaborate better and confidence grows.

How do you encourage other women to be strong? I encourage other women to be strong by reminding them they don’t have to carry everything alone. It can be hard to let people in, but community is built through small moments of openness and support. When women share wisdom with each other, it creates a kind of safety net, a space to heal, feel seen, and keep moving forward.

What advice would you give to the next generation of strong women? There’s so much I would say, but first, I’d say, you don’t have to do it alone. You can keep building your aspirations, career, and life goals while still leaning on the wisdom of your elders and the community around you. If you’re not sure where to start, begin with one supportive relationship whether that’s a trusted mentor, a health practitioner, or a therapist and let your circle grow from there. And most importantly, don’t be ashamed to ask for help. It doesn’t make you weaker, it makes you more self-aware and more equipped.

What’s one thing someone could do today to make them stronger? Protect your peace and be intentional about where you spend your time and who you give access to your energy.

When has your strength been personally challenged and how did you respond? My strength has been challenged at times at work and by external circumstances. I’ve learned that I can shoulder a lot both professionally and personally but I don’t have to carry everything by myself. I’m getting better at asking for support sooner and giving myself space to process my emotions instead of pushing through on autopilot.

If you could ask a question to other women regarding strength, what would you ask? What helps you stay grounded and keep going when things get tough?

Kiara’s Intentional Act of Kindness

How did you use the $100? More to come…

What was the 'Intentional Act of Kindness' process like for you?

Soul 82: Deborah

What does "being strong" mean to you? It’s about showing up, even when things don’t go as planned, and choosing to keep moving forward. Strength isn’t about having all the answers or never feeling discouraged—it’s about resilience. It’s the quiet decision to rise again, to keep leading, loving, and living with purpose, even when the path is uncertain. My strength shows up in how I continue, how I care, and how I hold space for others while honoring my own journey.

How does family shape your perception of strength? Family has everything to do with that.
Family is everything to me. It’s not just a part of my life—it’s the heartbeat of who I am. As a mother, daughter, wife, and friend, I draw strength from the people I love most. I think about my children, especially on the days when I feel stretched thin. Their laughter, their curiosity, their need for me—it reminds me that I have a purpose beyond the momentary challenges. My mother’s quiet strength, the way she held our family together through difficult times, taught me that resilience doesn’t always roar. Sometimes, it whispers, “Just one more step.”
There have been days when I’ve had to lead a meeting with a smile while carrying the weight of personal struggles. Days when I’ve had to be the calm in the storm for my team, even when I felt uncertain myself. But I’ve learned that vulnerability doesn’t cancel out strength—it enhances it. Being able to say, “This is hard, but I’m still here,” is one of the bravest things we can do.
So when I think about what it means to be strong, I think about the women who came before me, the children I’m raising, and the community I’m part of. I think about the power of showing up, again and again, with love, with purpose, and with the quiet confidence that I can handle whatever comes next.

What keeps you strong in times of trial? What keeps me strong in times of trial is my family—they are my anchor and my motivation. When life feels overwhelming, I remind myself that this is just a phase, and like all things, it will pass. That simple truth helps me hold my head high and keep moving forward. I’ve learned to be creative in how I navigate challenges. Whether it’s finding new ways to manage my time, asking for help, or simply reimagining what success looks like in the moment, I try to stay flexible and open. I’ve also learned that strength doesn’t mean holding it all in. Sometimes, I cry. I let the emotions out. That release is part of my healing—it clears space for clarity and peace. And when I feel like I’m at my limit, I remind myself: everything with a beginning has an end. Trials are temporary. They may shape me, but they don’t define me. That perspective gives me the strength to keep showing up—with grace, with hope, and with the quiet confidence that I’ll make it through.

How can you be strong and vulnerable? I’ve come to believe that strength and vulnerability are not opposites—they’re partners. Being strong doesn’t mean having it all together all the time. It means having the courage to be real, even when it’s uncomfortable. As a mother, there have been moments when I’ve had to hold it together for my kids while quietly navigating my own fears or exhaustion. I’ve learned that letting them see me cry or admit I’m having a hard day doesn’t make me less strong—it shows them that emotions are human, and that strength includes honesty.
In my work, I’ve found that vulnerability builds trust. When I’ve shared my own challenges with my team—whether it’s navigating change, balancing motherhood and leadership, or simply saying, “I don’t have all the answers”—it’s opened the door for others to do the same. That’s when the real connection happens. That’s when we grow together. Strength is in the showing up. Vulnerability is in showing up as your full self. And when you do both, you create space for others to do the same.

How do you encourage other women to be strong? I encourage other women to be strong by first reminding them that strength doesn’t have to look one specific way. It’s not always loud or bold—sometimes it’s quiet, steady, and deeply rooted in love and purpose. I try to lead by example. I share my own journey—the wins, yes, but also the moments of doubt, the times I’ve had to pick myself up, and the lessons I’ve learned along the way. I’ve found that when I’m open about my own challenges, it gives others permission to be real too. That’s where true strength begins—in authenticity.

I also make it a point to see women—to acknowledge their efforts, their growth, and their resilience, especially when they don’t see it in themselves. Whether it’s a colleague navigating a tough project or a friend balancing motherhood and career, I try to be the voice that says, “You’re doing better than you think.” And I create space. Space for women to speak, to lead, to rest, to ask for help, and to rise. I believe in the power of community, and I know that when women support each other, we all grow stronger. At the end of the day, encouraging strength in others is about being present, being real, and being willing to walk alongside them—reminding them that they’re not alone, and that their strength is already within them.

What’s one thing someone could do today to make them stronger? One thing someone could do today to make themselves stronger is to pause and acknowledge where they are—without judgment. Strength begins with self-awareness. When you take a moment to check in with yourself—emotionally, mentally, physically—you create space to respond with intention instead of reacting from overwhelm.
A few things I try to do:
1. Name your emotions. Say it out loud or write it down: “I feel tired,” “I feel anxious,” or “I feel hopeful.” Naming your emotions helps you process them instead of suppressing them.
2. Let yourself release. Cry if you need to. Journal. Go for a walk. Call someone you trust. Letting it out is not weakness—it’s how we make room for clarity and healing.
3. Remind yourself: this is a phase. Trials are temporary. Say it to yourself: “This will pass.” That simple truth can shift your mindset and help you breathe a little easier.
4. Do one small thing that moves you forward. It could be making a to-do list, sending that email you’ve been avoiding, or simply getting out of bed and making your favorite tea. Small steps are still progress.
5. Get creative. Ask yourself: “What’s another way I could approach this?” Strength often shows up in our ability to adapt and reimagine.
6. Speak kindly to yourself. Replace self-criticism with compassion. Try saying, “I’m doing the best I can, and that’s enough today.”
7. Connect with someone. Reach out to a friend, mentor, or loved one. Sometimes, just knowing you’re not alone is the strength you need to keep going.

Deborah’s Intentional Act of Kindness

How did you use the $100? I made a donation to two child care centers. After relocating and starting school, I needed to enroll my 20-month-old child but couldn’t find a center that was both available and affordable. Then the UCC center stepped in for my family, offering a scholarship that covered 80% of the tuition—a tremendous relief for us. They weren’t just a childcare center; they became like family. Later, when we relocated again, the second center welcomed us with open arms, providing a sense of community and stability. For this, I am deeply grateful, and giving back is my way of honoring their support.

What was the 'Intentional Act of Kindness' process like for you? This process prompted me to reflect deeply on what kindness truly means and how we define it. I’ve encountered many acts of kindness throughout my life, and choosing these two centers felt significant because it allowed me to give back—helping them continue to be a source of support for other families.

Soul 81: Connie

What does "being strong" mean to you? Being strong means accepting the full version of myself. It’s not about resisting change, but rather creating space for growth through self-acceptance. I believe improvement happens when you feel safe and appreciated as a person. Life is a journey of learning who you are, understanding the world, and finding peace in your heart. Strength is the confidence to be yourself, and from that foundation, you can learn, achieve, and unleash your potential.

How does family shape your perception of strength? I was born and raised in China, where my grandparents played a significant role in shaping my values. Their lives were peaceful and routine, yet filled with accomplishments, health, positivity, and hobbies. They showed me that strength isn’t loud—it’s steady. It’s in resilience, in living well through both calm and difficult times. Their hope, acceptance, and peacefulness taught me that strength is everywhere, and it’s often quiet and enduring.

What keeps you strong in times of trial? In difficult times, it’s natural to feel lonely, doubtful, or overwhelmed—and that’s okay. I’ve learned to welcome those feelings as part of who I am. But I also believe in the power of action. There’s a saying in China: “The boat has passed thousands of miles.” When facing hardship, I keep my head down and take one step at a time. Eventually, I look back and realize I’ve crossed rugged mountains—and ahead lies a vast, open landscape. That’s the strength of experience.

How have your trials made you stronger? I remember the feelings I had during those difficult times—fear, uncertainty, doubt. But I also remember what I did. I took action. And each time I faced a new challenge, even if fear returned, I felt more confident. I developed my own way to get through it. That’s how trials shape strength—not by removing fear, but by teaching you how to move through it with courage and clarity.

Who is a female role model in your life and why? My maternal grandmother is the strongest female role model in my life. She is wise, positive, and resilient. After college, she was assigned to one of the poorest areas in China. Due to historical circumstances, she couldn’t pursue work related to her studies, but she adapted with grace. She learned new skills, managed the family with care, developed interest with passion, and patiently waited for the opportunity to showcase her talents professionally. She is incredibly smart and democratic in her approach—giving me space to explore the world as a child, while always being there when I needed her. Even when facing health issues, she remains calm and positive. Her peaceful routine and life attitude have deeply influenced me. She taught me that strength lies in the quietest determination.

What advice would you give to the next generation of strong women? Accept everything—good or bad—and still choose to do the right thing. If something happens to you, even if it causes trouble or unhappiness at the time, it’s still a good thing. That’s life—and that’s why experiences are so valuable. Strength isn’t about perfection; it’s about embracing your humanity and acting with integrity. When you accept yourself fully, you create space for growth, peace, and confidence. That’s the foundation for becoming strong and helping others rise with you.

Connie’s Intentional Act of Kindness

How did you use the $100? I used the $100 to support my grandmother’s volunteer work. She is over 85 years old and has dedicated nearly 30 years to creating community for retired people in her neighborhood. She organizes and leads choir groups and exercise groups, helping elderly individuals stay active, healthy, and socially connected. Her efforts reduce loneliness and foster mutual support among seniors. Despite challenges like bad weather or fatigue, she persists—arranging venues, managing communication, handling equipment like sound amplifiers. Her dedication has brought joy to countless people. Inspired by her, my grandfather also started groups for calligraphy and painting, further enriching the community.

My grandmother has always been my role model. Growing up with her, I learned the value of self-discipline, kindness, and generosity. Over the years, I’ve witnessed the profound impact of her actions—hundreds of elderly people and their families have expressed gratitude for the sense of belonging she created. She has funded most of these activities herself. This was a meaningful opportunity for me to give back and support her mission, which aligns with the values she instilled in me.

What was the 'Intentional Act of Kindness' process like for you? There’s a saying in China from Lao Zi that “When in humble circumstances, cultivate personal virtue; when in a position of ability, help the world.” This philosophy resonates deeply with me. The process reminded me to always strive for personal growth, remain humble, respect others, and, whenever possible, extend help—whether big or small. Supporting my grandmother was not just about the money; it was about honoring her lifelong commitment to kindness and continuing that ripple effect in my own way.

Soul 80: Jesi

What does "being strong" mean to you? Showing up for the ones you love with genuine care and consistency. And showing up for yourself with that same care and consistency. This past year, I’ve been navigating my first year of business school. I’ve learned that strength lives in small acts, like staying present for my partner after a long day, checking in on classmates, or keeping up with my commitments to clubs. In an environment where so much pulls for your attention, strength is choosing care even when it’s 'inconvenient', and giving that same grace back to yourself.

How does family shape your perception of strength? My parents left China to build a new life in a place where they didn’t yet know the language or the culture, guided only by a dream. I think that’s pretty fearless. While they were in grad school, they had my sister and me and began to build a life of their own. From them, I learned that strength can be quiet: learning, adapting, and choosing love even when it’s hard. They taught us independence and curiosity, but also the importance of slowing down to share a meal, to laugh, to just be together. Strength, to me, is being steadfast and consistent while knowing how to make your own happiness along the way.

What keeps you strong in times of trial? Finding a tether to the things that matter. For me, that often takes the shape of a small ritual. A routine, a hobby, a habit, etc. Lately, it’s been long walks with an audiobook in my ears.

When has your strength been personally challenged and how did you respond? During undergrad, I rode the cutest little moped around campus. One evening, just a few blocks from home, a speeding car came around a bend and sent me flying twenty feet across the road. I was lucky that only my ankle was hurt, though recovery took months and left lasting effects. At first, I wasn’t used to tending to something that required slow, consistent care. Healing became an exercise in patience and self-discipline. Over time, I began to see movement as a form of strength rather than something I had taken for granted. I got more into working out and became deeply tuned into my mobility, learning how to build stability and confidence from the ground up. That experience reshaped my idea of strength. It is not about toughness or speed but about showing up for yourself through discomfort, staying patient, and rebuilding one steady step at a time.

If you could ask a question to other women regarding strength, what would you ask? As I step into my career after business school, how do you stay true to yourself while growing into something new?

Jesi’s Intentional Act of Kindness

How did you use the $100? I used the $100 to contribute to a community fund supporting the children of a server at a neighborhood restaurant who passed away suddenly earlier this year. The restaurant had started a fundraiser to help his two young kids with future education costs, and I added the $100 to that collective effort. When I first moved for grad school, I didn’t know many people here. One of my earliest meals was at a small burger spot, and the server who helped me that night made me feel unexpectedly welcomed. It was such a small exchange but with genuine warmth and light conversation. I didn’t know him well, but his kindness stayed with me, and I found myself returning to that spot often over the next year.

A few months ago I learned he had passed away suddenly, leaving behind two children. The community around him immediately came together. The restaurant shared memories, customers contributed, and people told stories about how he made them feel seen. His everyday kindness had created this humming network of care, and now that same network was supporting his family. Contributing the $100 to this fund honored a small but meaningful moment from my early days in a new place and allowed me to extend comfort to the people he loved most.

What was the 'Intentional Act of Kindness' process like for you? This is a really special part of this project. The process made me pay closer attention to the small threads of connection around me. It reminded me that we often underestimate how a simple moment of warmth can stay with someone, and how those small gestures become part of the legacy we leave behind. It helped me see that kindness does not end with a single moment. It continues through the people who carry it forward, and participating in that ripple felt like a way to honor the legacy of someone who made the world a little better simply by being in it.

Soul 79: Hannah

What does "being strong" mean to you? To me, being strong means showing up as the best version of yourself when life gets tough. I think I’ve learned this from watching people like my mother, father, and grandmothers persevere through some of their hardest moments, all while maintaining their character, grace, and compassion—no matter how difficult things became.

How does family shape your perception of strength? My family is full of women, from my mother’s sisters to my dad’s aunts. I grew up surrounded by women who set the standard of strength for me. Their willingness to face challenges, resolve conflicts, and serve as the backbone of our family deeply influenced me. I’ve learned so much from them, not just about conflict resolution, but also about what true strength looks like: the ability to be both vulnerable and strong at the same time.

What keeps you strong in times of trial? What keeps me strong in times of trial is knowing I have support, no matter where life takes me. Whether I’m moving across the country or just having a tough day, I know my parents, despite being in different parts of the world, will always be there for me. That foundation keeps me grounded. Knowing they would go to great lengths for me, and that I would do the same for them, gives me the strength to keep going.

Who is a female role model in your life and why? My mother is the strongest person I know. She’s incredibly quick to solve problems and remarkably open. When there’s an issue, she doesn’t hide from it and she faces it head-on. That’s what makes her such a powerful role model to me. She handles challenges with both compassion and honesty, and that balance is something I deeply admire.

If you could ask a question to other women regarding strength, what would you ask? What has made you strong during your toughest times, and what are two things you learned from those experiences that you have taken with you through life?

Hannah’s Intentional Act of Kindness

How did you use the $100?: I gave the $100 to my pottery instructor back in Georgia. She took the leap and owns a small pottery studio and she is incredibly talented and kind. I wanted to give back to her because she’s given so much to me. When I started pottery in 2022, I wasn’t in the best mental space. While many people just attend class, this instructor and her studio became my community. It had been a long time since someone offered me a space to create without judgment. She supported me through tough times at work and with family, and gave all of us a safe, welcoming place at the end of a busy day. She truly deserves great things in life, and I wish I could still attend her class

What was the 'Intentional Act of Kindness' process like for you? It was very easy for me to decide who the person was going to be because, outside of my family she was one of the people who has had a major impact on my life. She was the first person that came to mind and when I travel home we always connect.

Soul 78: Emily

What does "being strong" mean to you? Strength to me is believing in myself, and having confidence in my convictions and my decisions. If I start to feel insecure about a business decision, or I'm just feeling vulnerable about something in my personal life, I ask myself, "Is there something I haven't said out loud that I should? Someone's point of view I haven't considered?" Very Libra behavior, maybe, but more often then not if I'm feeling the rumblings of insecurity it's because I left some emotional stone unturned. Back when I worked as a footwear designer, if someone ever hesitated in reviewing a design, we'd poke at the problem and be like, "Why? Why? Why?" Because to make a strong design you had to understand why someone had misgivings about something, and the root of those misgivings. And I kind of use that same template in how I approach life. I'm pretty sure I drive my family crazy with it, though! It's something I think I'm continually developing.

What keeps you strong in times of trial? Reconnecting with nature is always my go-to when times are tough. Growing up, we'd spend the summers at my family's cabin in the Gulf Islands of British Columbia, and we had no running water or electricity and 70 acres to roam. It was basically homesteading, and even basic everyday tasks took forever to do ("doing the dishes" involved chopping wood/starting a fire, fetching water, boiling it, etc.…). It felt like the exact opposite of the everyday suburban grind. During my summers there I feel like I entered a flow-state of boredom -- all my best thinking happened there -- all the best creativity, the problem solving, the daydreaming. I remember I once asked my Uncle Ranny why it was so relaxing at the cabin and he said, "It's the absence of 60 cycle hum." And I thought, What the heck is Uncle Ranny ranting about? But he was talking about the constant low buzz of electricity that surrounds modern life, and now that I'm older I kind of feel like he was on to something. So when times are crazy I tell my family (in my Uncle Ranny voice, of course) -- "Let's go find somewhere with no 60 cycle hum!" That usually means a hike. I'm glad to carry that torch for him.

Who is a female role model in your life and why? My mom has always been a huge inspiration. She became pregnant with my sister during her freshman year of college and was forced to drop out. This was 1970, and at the time there really was no clear pathway forward. She eventually put herself through undergrad as a single mom, and then through law school at University of North Carolina, where she met my dad. She faced a lot of discrimination as a single mother and also as one of the few female students in the law program at the time. She famous retells a story of a meeting with one of her professors where he gave her the ultimatum -- "Do you want to be a lawyer, or a mother?" As if those were mutually exclusive options. For my early childhood she was a SAHM and occasionally a highly overqualified paralegal, then eventually ran for our local city council. By the time I was in high school she was the mayor of Kirkland, and then went on to work as both a legislator and a judge. She's a shining example of paving the way of the next generation -- nothing came easy for her and I'm so impressed with her accomplishments.

What advice would you give to the next generation of strong women? I think there's some hardwiring biologically that makes women incredible at multi-tasking, and also a tendency (perhaps because of our impostor syndrome?) to overprepare. As a result, I feel like every single woman I've mentored has either been headed towards burnout, in the midst of burnout, or recovering from a burnout. And I have experienced it myself as well! During COVID I was working really long hours -- starting a 5am just to get some work done, and sitting in zoom meetings all day and then starting up the work again. And the kids were home, so they were running around and we were balancing that, as well. One day I attempted to block my calendar to sit and have lunch with my daughter, and right before that window someone senior to me threw a meeting on the calendar and that window of free time was gone. After her lunch, my daughter came in to me and passed me a note -- she was outside and saw some spring flowers blooming and her note described what they looked like. She said, "I wrote this down for you since you don’t have the time to see them." And that just hit me really hard -- that I missed that moment, and also that she was thoughtful enough to try to capture it for me. I was so focused on keeping all of the balls in the air that I missed this simple life moment, so I started asking myself -- what happens if I "drop the ball"? Would it have been the end of the world if I declined that meeting? So the "art of dropping the ball" is what I advise, and how to evaluate the important balls to keep in the air versus the ones you can probably drop. Bringing those things into balance brings strength to how you show up in both your personal and professional life.

If you could ask a question to other women regarding strength, what would you ask? I would be so curious to know how others define strength, and if their definition has changed over time. For me, strength comes from identifying what my weaknesses are and working on them. They've been largely constant over my lifetime. I think that's probably unique to each person, and so their approach to building strength is likely different, too. My weakness is indecision, or feeling insecure about my decisions, and so I feel most strong when I have confidence in my convictions. And my tools for getting to that moment -- seeking the input of others, making space for what's important and taking time to delve into my own thoughts in nature -- are so tailored for that desired outcome.

Emily’s Intentional Act of Kindness

How did you use the $100? Initially, I was inspired to use the $100 to fill the pantry of a local church that hosts safe parking -- I had seen a post on a neighborhood group about their store getting low and I thought it would be a good experience to take the $100 and shop for essentials with my two daughters. However, when I called to ask what they most needed, they told me someone has already stocked them up and now they were overwhelmed with donations! So it was back to the drawing board. My youngest daughter had the idea to use a portion of the money to fund a lemonade stand in order to multiply our donation, and to use it to fund a hunger program more generally. She researched and choice Action Against Hunger USA, which helps feed children in emergency situations like natural disasters or conflict zones.

I thought it was fitting to use entrepreneurship to multiply our impact -- Enid definitely has the business bug like me, and loves to come up with summer activities that revolve around little start-up businesses. She's also incredibly giving and very sensitive to the issues of the world, so I know she was focused on making sure we could donate as much as possible. We chose hunger as an area of focus because it is, of course, one of the most fundamental of human needs, and I think also one of the most profound ways to show someone that you care.

What was the 'Intentional Act of Kindness' process like for you? We used about $15 of our $100 to buy cups and lemonade supplies. Enid also picked berries and zucchini from our garden and rounded out the offering with homemade jam and zucchini muffins. We set up on a sunny evening near a local high-traffic dog park and walking area. I posted on social media to let our neighborhood know where she was set up. Her sign offered lemonade, muffins and jam for any donation amount. Unfortunately, our first day didn't go as planned -- Enid received only one $5 donation in return for a cup of lemonade over two hours. She was disheartened (as was I), but it was a good moment of reflection. That night, she wasn't sure she had it in her to try again the next morning. Overnight, a few out of town friends saw my social media post and Venmo'd her donations from afar, which bolstered her spirits. We set up in a new location for another 2 hour window and she had much more success. At the end of the day she was able to raise $232 -- which, combined with the initial $100, resulted in a $332 donation.

Soul 77: Pam

What does "being strong" mean to you? To me, "being strong" means being resilient, open, empathetic, and honest. Instead of always having the right answers or feeling like you need to hide your emotions, strength is believing in yourself, what you can do, and being able to connect with others authentically through that. When I was younger, I would often be ashamed of my emotions, but as I've gotten older, I've come to realize that my empathy is a strength that should be celebrated.

How does family shape your perception of strength? When I was growing up, my family didn't say "I love you" very often, which was something that my parents learned from their parents. Love was always more an assumption. With my children, I voice my love to them often. I smother them with hugs, and make it clear how much they mean to me. Strength for my family has shone through in the ways that I have chosen to shift behaviors from generation to generation for the better.

What keeps you strong in times of trial? My family is my anchor when things are hard. The ability for the ebb and flow of leaning on them and having them lean on me just makes our connections stronger. I am also an advocate of journaling. Especially when things get hard, writing down my frustrations takes them out of my head so I can fully process what has happened, and I can start to move forward.

How can you be strong and vulnerable? I firmly believe that vulnerability *is* a strength. The willingness to be open and human is a superpower, and while it's important to be careful who you fully trust with all of yourself (the good, bad, ugly), the ability to open up to someone else and connect is such a gift, and vulnerability is the key to that deeper connection.

What advice would you give to the next generation of strong women? Be yourself: it may sound cliche, but diversity and uniqueness make the world a better place, and you bring something special to this world. Don't take life too seriously. Laughter is important. Try new things. Take a moment to do one thing that brings you joy each day - even if it's something small. Take time for yourself. Learn about what motivates you, and what kinds of things bring you peace.

Pam’s Intentional Act of Kindness

How did you use the $100? There are so many incredible causes that deserve support, which made this exercise particularly difficult. In lieu of donating online, I decided to put the $100 in my purse to see if anything presented itself. A few days later, my 12-year-old daughter and I decided to go to Redmond High School Drama's "Miscast Cabaret" which is a one-night event featuring RHS students performing songs from roles they are unlikely to ever be cast in (due to gender, race, age, voice type, or other variable). My daughter and I are both self-declared "theater kids", but this was so much more! As we walked into the show, we saw that they were raising money for the Trevor Project. I mentioned having some money that I could donate and asked her what she thought. She was ecstatic - I handed her the $100 and she put it in the donation box with the biggest smile on her face. Not only was the show in June (and we were celebrating Pride Month!) but knowing that The Trevor Project does so much for so many vulnerable people made the choice easy. They provide crisis services, are advocates for young LGBTQ+ individuals, provide public education, peer support, advocacy, and also run a suicide hotline. These services are so important for so many people who need support.

What was the 'Intentional Act of Kindness' process like for you? It was so moving! When my daughter put the $100 in, my eyes welled up with tears. I am so grateful to have been able to donate that amount to such an incredible cause and also able to share that moment with her. <3

Soul 76: Nicole

What does "being strong" mean to you? To me, "being strong" means standing up for your beliefs, for yourself, and for other people. It means finding a way to do things that challenge you, and using these challenges as opportunities to grow. It means being able to face trials and adversity in your life without losing sight of who you are or what you stand for, and lending your strength to others in times of need.

What keeps you strong in times of trial? My family keeps me strong in times of trial, and they have helped me to define my character and my perception of strength. They are my inspiration and my support system, and they help to ground me so I know that even in times of trial, I can always find my way back to myself.

How have your trials made you stronger? My trials have made me stronger by helping me to understand that I can and will get through any future challenges that I may face. These trials have taught me how to manage and handle stress, grief and other forms of pain. Whether it is by facing these challenges head on, finding mindful activities or exercises for myself, or learning how to connect with other people that can support me, I have learned something new each time. My trials have also helped me to hold onto a certain level of optimism, or a certainty that even in times of hardship, I will find a way to get through it. My trials and experiences have helped me to develop my own strength and become the person that I am today.

How can you be strong and vulnerable? It takes a lot of courage in order to be vulnerable, but there is strength in the willingness to open up, seek support, and acknowledge our own limitations—allowing us to connect more deeply with others and grow through shared understanding.

What’s one thing someone could do today to make them stronger? Opening yourself up to new experiences or ideas, and finding ways to get out of your comfort zone.

Nicole’s Intentional Act of Kindness

How did you use the $100? I used the $100 to purchase nutritious food and first aid/hygiene projects for a community kitchen in my neighborhood. I decided to use the $100 in this way because I felt closely tied to the community in my neighborhood, and I wanted to have a direct impact on those around me. I walk by this community kitchen almost every day, and couldn’t help but notice the dynamics of the shared lunches, which help to provide both free lunch and a shared space to foster community. I had talked to one of the organizers of the community lunch previously and we had discussed certain items that they were frequently asked for or running low on, so I decided to focus the $100 on paying for those items.

What was the 'Intentional Act of Kindness' process like for you? The process was a good reminder to keep my eyes open to the needs of those around me, and stay actively mindful in searching for other ways to give back. In addition, the strengths portion of the form provided a valuable opportunity for self-reflection and awareness.

Soul 75: Christa

How does family shape your perception of strength? My mother is the strongest person I know. She has faced unimaginable hardships with unwavering grace. As a Middle Eastern war refugee, she came to the United States at just seven years old after her family was forced out of Lebanon due to religious persecution. Later in life, she raised me and my sisters on her own after my father left. There are countless other challenges she has endured, but what amazes me most is how she moves through life seemingly unshaken. She is selfless, caring, fair, kind, genuine, and deeply influential. Everything she has endured has shaped her into who she is today; the strongest person I know.

However, my understanding of strength has not come from her alone. I am the youngest of three girls, and I have been fortunate to grow up with three extraordinary role models: my mom and my two older sisters, Grace and Sarah. Watching them navigate life with resilience, compassion, and courage has shaped me in more ways than I can count. I can confidently say I would not be the person I am today without them. Their presence, support, and examples have been, and continue to be, a true blessing in my life.

What keeps you strong in times of trial? For me, strength in difficult times comes from a combination of many things. First and foremost, having role models and a strong support system makes all the difference. As I mentioned earlier, I deeply admire the people in my life who have faced adversity with strength and dignity. Their resilience reminds me that it is possible to get through even the most trying circumstances. My faith also plays a central role. It gives me a steady foundation to lean on when life feels uncertain, offering both comfort and a reminder that I am never truly alone. Alongside that, I naturally tend to be very optimistic. I believe hardships are temporary, and that brighter days are always ahead. I remind myself that difficult situations are not the end all be all, but rather part of a larger journey.

A piece of advice that has stayed with me came from a role model who once asked, “Will you remember this in five years?” Over time, I began to apply that question to many situations, realizing that even five months, or sometimes five days later, what once seemed enormous no longer held weight. Now, I ask myself that same question whenever I feel stuck, and it helps put things in perspective. Last, but definitely not least, is that I firmly believe everything happens for a reason. This belief helps me find meaning even in pain. Even when I do not understand why something is happening, especially in times of trial, I remind myself of this saying and I realize what I am going through is part of a larger plan.

How have your trials made you stronger? Let’s be real, life is not fair. I have taken what life has given me and genuinely made the most of it. While I will not go into too much detail about the trials themselves, I can say with confidence my trials have shaped me into the person I am today. Upon much time and reflection, I would not change it for the world. There are still moments when I feel the weight of what I have lost, and I do sometimes find myself reminiscing. However in those moments, I choose to focus on what I have gained. Through my trials, I have learned how to be independent, how to love others deeply, and how to truly appreciate the little things. I have learned to focus on the good, to believe that family can be chosen, and that comparison is the thief of joy. I have also learned resilience, empathy, and the quiet strength that comes from enduring and rising. I would not trade these lessons for anything. The trials I have faced did not break me, they built me. They did not define my limits; they revealed my strength and propelled me toward a better version of myself.

How can you be strong and vulnerable? I firmly believe that strength and vulnerability go hand in hand. In fact, I do not think it is possible to build true strength without first allowing yourself to be vulnerable. Vulnerability is what opens the door to growth, connection, and self-understanding. It allows us to reflect, to feel deeply, and to face our fears with honesty. When we allow ourselves to be vulnerable, we begin to uncover who we truly are and what we genuinely believe. This gain in self-awareness becomes the foundation of lasting strength. It takes courage to show up fully, to risk being hurt, or to admit we do not have all the answers, but that is where real strength lives. Not in perfection, but in authenticity. Empathy is a powerful example of being both strong and vulnerable. Empathy allows a person to step into someone else’s shoes, to truly feel what they are feeling and understand what they are going through. It requires strength to set aside your own perspective and be fully present for someone else. At the same time, it demands vulnerability, because it means opening your heart, feeling deeply, and sometimes carrying emotions that are not your own. Choosing empathy is not a sign of weakness, it is a courageous act that reflects both compassion and inner strength.

If you could ask a question to other women regarding strength, what would you ask? I would ask, “If it were easy, would you still do it?” Strength is often built through struggle, not comfort. If something comes easily, it loses its significance. If it were easy, everyone would do it and then it would not stand out as something powerful or meaningful. The good things are rarely easy. They require effort, resilience, and heart. That is what makes them, and the individuals who pursue them, so strong.

Christa’s Intentional Act of Kindness

How did you use the $100? While standing in line for food at a bodega, I noticed two men helping a woman in a wheelchair shop. They were going up and down the aisle with her, grabbing things she pointed to and putting them in her basket. I had assumed they were just helping her shop and that she would pay at the end. However, when they brought everything to the register, I quickly realized they were going to buy all the items in her basket for her. That is when I decided to use the $100 to pay for the groceries instead. When I offered the money to them, they would not take it. After moments of insisting that I really wanted them to accept it, the two men still declined, but they told me to give the money to the woman directly instead. I explained that I wanted to thank them for what they were doing, and they finally agreed to accept the money, only if they could pass it on to her. The woman’s name was Gail. She had no legs, was homeless, and told us she often felt misunderstood. She was elated when they handed her the money. We chatted for a bit after and I got the pleasure of learning a lot more about her story. She gave us hugs and explained how much we blessed her.

The right moment had come. I was waiting for my friend’s food to be ready, when the two men were putting the basket up to checkout. The entire group we walked in with had already come and gone, others we did not know that came in after us had gotten their food as well. That is when we asked and realized they had somehow forgotten to put in my friend’s order. However, I firmly believe everything happens for a reason and it all clicked at that moment. The reason they had forgotten her order was because we needed to be there to witness this act of kindness, so that I could bless the two men and Gail. I was genuinely moved by what I saw. It was late on a Saturday night, and these two men did not even know Gail prior. Yet they chose to help her shop, pay for her groceries, and did it all so naturally, without expecting anything in return.

What was the 'Intentional Act of Kindness' process like for you? It truly changed my perspective on how I view the world. It was a powerful moment, one of those rare instances that shows how kindness spreads. Everyone around us felt it: the friend I was with, the store clerk, the two men, and especially Gail. It made my entire day, maybe even my month, and left me with the feeling that I was exactly where I was meant to be, at exactly the right time.

Before this moment occurred, I had been thinking about how I could use the money to bless others. I had been considering different ways to give, just in case the right moment did not present itself. Doing this mental exercise helped me become more creative and intentional with my giving, which I will strive to do more of because of this experience.

Soul 74: Gabby

What does "being strong" mean to you? To me being strong means having conviction in your values, trusting your intuition, and making peace with who you are.

How does family shape your perception of strength? To me the word female is synonymous with strong. My family is filled with highly educated women who lead by example. I am so lucky to have grown up surrounded by women who are courageous mothers, inspiring educators, independent breadwinners, competitive athletes and almost always… know-it-all daughters.

What keeps you strong in times of trial? When I am struggling, I always check-in with my core values. For me that means, play, passion, connection, authenticity, sustainability, and being my best. Also… in times of trial… a steaming bowl of sundubu-jjigae from my favorite spot in Koreatown always hits the spot.

What’s one thing someone could do today to make them stronger? Ask yourself: "What is one thing I can do to take care of myself today?" And follow through with it. By showing up for yourself first, you build strength and trust with yourself, which shines through to how you present yourself to the rest of the world.

If you could ask a question to other women regarding strength, what would you ask? I would ask, how has you perception of strength changed throughout your life, and why?

Gabby’s Intentional Act of Kindness

How did you use the $100? I used the $100 dollars to buy my little cousin her cap and gown for UCLA graduation. I remember what it was like to be a senior at UCLA, and the graduation costs add up! I am so proud of how hard my cousin has worked throughout the past four years balancing work and schoolwork. She is smart, tenacious, and most importantly, takes care of the world and the people in it. I wanted to use the money to support the next generation of strong women, and as a double bruin myself, I am so proud to see her graduate from UCLA!

What was the 'Intentional Act of Kindness' process like for you? I absolutely loved participating in the 'Intentional Act of Kindness' process. It gave me the push I needed to wake up from my day to day and seek out opportunities to be kind to others. There are endless choices each day to show up intentionally for others, I just needed a little reminder.

Soul 73: Tiffany

How does family shape your perception of strength? My parents have been a role model of strength for me. They both were the first in their families to immigrate to the US, for higher education and career opportunities. I can only imagine the amount of strength and tenacity it took for them to leave their homes, families, and everything they knew for a world of unknown. Their experiences shaped the way they raised me, elevating the importance of hard work, staying true to yourself, and persevering in the face of challenges.

How does your culture shape your perception of strength? In Chinese culture, it is common to suppress feelings and in many ways, expressing emotions is a sign of weakness. A common example in Asian American culture, that rings true from my own experience, is that parents don’t say “I love you” but instead prepare home-cooked meals and cut up bowls of fruit to express their love to their children. As someone who feels very deeply, I was often told that I had too many feelings growing up. For many years, I viewed this as a flaw to overcome and not a valuable personality trait that makes me who I am. It wasn’t until later, through my experiences with great female leaders at work, and also a lot of Brené Brown 🙂, I realized that my empathy and perceptiveness are actually strengths. And being strong can also look like having the courage to express yourself authentically.

How have your trials made you stronger? With time and reflection comes perspective. Over the recent years, I’ve been able to shift my thinking about situations that I previously viewed as mistakes or failures. While I used to think of those experiences as painful memories or regret my choices, I’ve come to accept them as valuable opportunities for learning about myself and others.

What’s one thing someone could do today to make them stronger? Take time to reflect and care for yourself. It’s easy to get caught up in the day-to-day stressors and to get overwhelmed by the responsibilities of work, home, family, and more. In order to be strong, you also need to rest. Give yourself the space and permission to do so.

If you could ask a question to other women regarding strength, what would you ask? What is a moment or experience that changed how you thought about strength?

Tiffany’s Intentional Act of Kindness

How did you use the $100? I made a donation to the Awakening Mind Chan Center, a nonprofit Buddhist organization run by a close family friend. I also wrote and mailed a thank you card to the monk. My grandma was Buddhist and this monk was a significant figure to her at the temple she attended. When she passed many years ago, the monk helped lead my family through the traditions and has since been a close friend to my mom and her siblings. Last year, I was able to visit the temple he runs in Taiwan and learn about the scholarships and programs they offer for youth. That experience and his hospitality during our visit was meaningful to me, especially as it occurred during a challenging time in my life. I wanted to thank him for his kindness and contribute to the student scholarships.

What was the 'Intentional Act of Kindness' process like for you? This was something I had been wanting to do for awhile, and this process forced me to prioritize this action! I'm grateful for this experience and the self-reflection that also came with it. A good reminder to consider small ways I can incorporate intentional acts of kindness into my daily life.

Soul 72: Alexis

How does family shape your perception of strength? For a long time, I believed that strength meant never showing others that you were bothered by a situation. Many of my admired family members seemed to embody this trait. When issues arose, they remained calm and focused on gathering information to find a solution. I admired the strength it took not to react in these situations. As I grew older, I realized that maintaining such composure for the sake of others can take a toll on one's mental health. It also creates distance in relationships, as others may feel you are indifferent or withholding your true feelings.Now, I understand the importance of balance. There are times where it is necessary to remain strong, and others where it is okay to show vulnerability. Losing control makes you human and can help you recognize when you need support to overcome particularly challenging times.
I make it a point to express my feelings when my family asks how I am doing. While they know I can show strength, it is also important to let them know when I need them for support.

How have your trials made you stronger? My trials have strengthened my belief in my capabilities. When I was applying to graduate school, many people assured me, "You’ll get into any school you want!" While encouraging, I struggled internally with self-doubt, which impacted my focus while studying for the GMAT. I often considered postponing my application to allow more time for preparation, thinking I could apply next year and increase my chances of acceptance. However, connecting with other graduate students and sharing our goals and stories helped me believe in my potential. This shift in mindset made me more disciplined in my studies, as I now had a clear end goal. Ultimately, I received a full-ride scholarship to UW-Madison for an MBA with a specialization in Strategic HR.
This experience reminds me of the saying, "Whether you think you can or you think you can’t, you’re right." I often reflect on this when facing challenges at work or in my personal life. Positive thinking empowers me to pursue my goals with full commitment.

How can you be strong and vulnerable? When I think about being both strong and vulnerable, I reflect on my personal relationships. Growing up as a military kid, I moved every 3-5 years, which taught me how to build and end relationships. I've learned the importance of showing up authentically, even though it requires vulnerability. In the end, I'm always glad I did because it's the only way to determine if a relationship is mutually energizing.However, if I show up vulnerably and the other person isn't receptive, supportive, or doesn't share my values, I need to draw on my strength to end the relationship, even if it's difficult. Strength means sticking to my values and ensuring I have what I need to be my best self. I can control who has access to me and to what extent. Once I'm clear on that, it's easier to balance vulnerability with the strength to uphold my boundaries.

What advice would you give to the next generation of strong women? My advice to the next generation of strong women is twofold. First, surround yourself with people who uplift you and speak highly of you in your absence. These individuals form your support system, so nurture those relationships. Second, embrace the opportunity to reinvent yourself with each new chapter of your life. Personal growth is what makes life fulfilling. Although change can be daunting, don't let it prevent you from living as the best version of yourself.

What’s one thing someone could do today to make them stronger? One powerful way to become stronger today is to prioritize deepening your self-understanding. This year, I embarked on a new chapter in life – I turned 30, started a new job, and moved to a new city. Feeling that I had outgrown my previous life and old habits, I wanted to be intentional in this new era. I began asking myself, “How should I show up at work? In my personal relationships? For myself?”
These were significant questions, so I sought help through journaling via voice memos and seeing a therapist. These activities allowed me to truly see myself by recognizing patterns in my behavior and setting realistic goals for personal growth. By taking time to deepen my self-understanding, I’ve gained clarity on my values and boundaries. This clarity makes it easier to stand up for myself and give myself grace when things go wrong because I know exactly what I need to process any given situation. Deepening your self-awareness can take many forms, such as establishing a routine, taking self-assessments, or seeing a therapist. No matter how you choose to do it, this journey will ultimately help you build strength.

Alexis’s Intentional Act of Kindness

How did you use the $100? I used the $100 to bless my older brother during the holidays. My brother is someone who has shown resilience through a number of difficult situations. He hardly asks for help when navigating challenges and I admire his strength and willingness to find a solution on his own. At the same time, I like to remind him I am here to help in small ways along the way.

What was the 'Intentional Act of Kindness' process like for you? I like to be thoughtful about where my acts of kindness can go far. I considered donating to an organization that I am passionate about, but sometimes helping out can be a little closer to home.

Soul 71: Meredith

How does family shape your perception of strength? I am the youngest of my immediate and extended family, so there's countless examples of strength that have been demonstrated to me my entire life. My family is diverse in every way, giving me a first crucial lesson: everyone has their own, unique way they are able to be strong, whether that means moving across the globe, fighting cancer, working to give your kids a better life, volunteering in your free time, or being the one to make everyone smile. Secondly, it is obvious to me that there is really no other option but to be strong. I have so many people who worked so hard to give me the opportunities I have, and therefore I must be strong for them.

Who is a female role model in your life and why? My mom has always been my role model. I'm sure most people say that, but I do really mean it. As I've gotten older, it's easier for me recognize her incredible qualities. She is grounded, level-headed, and driven. These traits manifest in a very subtle yet effective power. She demonstrates immense empathy and humility in her day-to-day life while not compromising herself in the process. Lastly, and most importantly to me, she finds time for joy and silliness. I watch with such admiration as she seemingly ages backwards, hoping I do too.

How can you be strong and vulnerable? I believe these traits are inherently related, as holding space for vulnerability requires strength. Someone who is able to exert strength with a possibility of embarrassment, disappointment, or regret demonstrates a higher capacity for strength than someone who cannot be vulnerable. To be both strong and vulnerable, you need to allow yourself to fail sometimes and treat yourself kindly when you do.

What’s one thing someone could do today to make them stronger? I am a firm believer that visualization and affirmations help me succeed. Maybe it's rooted in me being an overplanning or worrisome person sometimes, but both help me get over mental barriers that prevent me from doing something. First, I like to think about my near future, whether it be the next day or week, and either make a to-do list or visualize completing what I need to get done.

Second, I have a favorite exercise for when I need a pick-me-up. Grab a small piece of paper or index card and start writing down things that you're proud of and that you're grateful for. Cover it top to bottom, then turn it 90 degrees and start over. Rotate, flip, and repeat until you can't make out any of the words and the card is completely covered. At some point, it will probably become difficult to think of things to add, and that is where the magic happens. Actively looking for your favorite, less-obvious characteristics about yourself or the smallest thing that made you smile that day is wonderful to practice.

If you could ask a question to other women regarding strength, what would you ask? I just graduated from college this past May. What strengths should I look forward to gaining as I join the "real world"?

Meredith’s Intentional Act of Kindness

How did you use the $100? My friend was driving some friends and I around to run errands and her tire popped. She pulled over in front of an apartment complex, but none of us knew how to change the tire. We were completely blocking the way for this man who lives in the apartment, but he got out of his car and helped us change the tire. After he was done, I gave him the $100.

Giving the $100 to this man felt like the perfect time for many reasons. Not only did he help us for probably over 45 minutes with no complaints, but he was an incredibly kind person who we enjoyed getting to know. He taught us every step of the tire-changing process while telling us the stories of all the times he's done it in the past. We joked about how we thought he was getting out of the car to yell at us for being in the way, and he responded with "life is too short to get mad." He told us his job in limb salvage, working with pre-amputation patients and trying to help them avoid the procedure if possible. He was not only an angel helping us in the moment, but a refreshing reminder to not take things too seriously and to find joy in unfortunate circumstances.

What was the 'Intentional Act of Kindness' process like for you? For a while, I had no idea how to use my $100. I tried to think about times in the past few months where I've encountered people who I thought deserved some extra kindness. After a lot of thinking, I realized that an opportunity would come to me, and I didn't have to reach into the past. I kept the money on me as much as possible and waited for a sign or a feeling that it was time to give back. This alone was an incredible experience. There is so much to be grateful for and so many people who deserve some extra love, and both so often goes overlooked. With a constant intention of looking for these opportunities, I felt a clear perspective change in myself when going about my normal day. As I expected, a beautiful moment did come up and I was excited to share the kindness. It has been about a month now since I got the money, and I believe that I continue to not only look for places to be kind, but see a lot more kindness around me in other people as well.

Soul 70: Latrice

What does "being strong" mean to you? To me, being strong is to be aware. I think leading with self-awareness while also having awareness of others, of your surroundings, of situations, etc., can contribute to a person’s strength. Additionally, having the awareness to know when to handle situations independently vs knowing when to lean into your network for support are also important contributing factors to being strong.

What keeps you strong in times of trial? Journaling has played a significant role in keeping me strong in times of trial. I also lean into my faith, family, and friends during those times as well.

How can you be strong and vulnerable? Vulnerability is a strength. It is not easy to be vulnerable, especially with others. I honestly struggle with vulnerability sometimes but I’m getting more comfortable with it as I get older and as I practice. I've realized that vulnerability is needed to improve relationships, to negotiate, to learn, or to simply express yourself, which allows one to have a better understanding of where they are strong and where they could use more support.

How do you encourage other women to be strong? I encourage women to know themselves. Understanding who they are as a person can unlock so many opportunities to find areas where they are excelling, where there is room for improvement, and help them figure out the next steps to becoming stronger. Self-awareness is the baseline, where they take it from there, is up to them.

If you could ask a question to other women regarding strength, what would you ask? What do you think is your greatest strength and what does your best friend or closest mate say is your greatest strength?

Latrice’s Intentional Act of Kindness

How did you use the $100? I used the funds to support two local, Atlanta based groups, that focus on providing safe spaces and resources to queer and trans people of color. I decided to use the funds this way for a couple of reasons. The first reason is because I'm a queer person of color. The second reason is because these groups had initiatives to provide blankets, socks, gloves, etc. to those affected by homelessness, which was incredibly important with the colder weather approaching.

What was the 'Intentional Act of Kindness' process like for you? The process was slightly difficult at first because my initial thought was to split the funds between people. Since I'm new to the area, I don't know many people but still wanted the money to be used for a great purpose. I've been personally involved with one of the groups because they host events, including volunteering opportunities, which has helped me meet more people. So, when their initiative to give back to the community via the donations was activated, I decided that donating the money to their initiative would be great.

Soul 69: Leanna

What does "being strong" mean to you? To me, being strong means being open to new experiences. To be confident in yourself to take on challenges, however large or small they may be, and to embrace the outcomes. It means that in the face of rejection, you have the strength and grit to continue with the re-direction. There are times when I get in my head and build up all the ways something could go wrong and how much I don’t want to do it. When I start to spiral, I take a step back and work on quieting my mind and allowing myself to feel for a bit, but then to remind myself that I am strong enough to continue on the path. An example of this would be the trepidation I felt when moving to Seattle. It was something I wanted while also being something that scared me - the idea of starting over far away from family and needing to find new friends made me extremely anxious in the weeks leading up to the move and even more so when Cory started his MBA program. It took time, and I felt lost for a few months (re-direction!) but I eventually found a wonderful community with incredible friends who love and accept me - flaws and all.

How does family shape your perception of strength? All my life, I have been surrounded by strong women. I was taught that if you want to achieve a goal, you are the one who holds the tools to get there. Only you are able to shape your strength in yourself. My mom found a better life for herself when she immigrated from the Philippines and so did my godmothers - they worked hard and were able to come to the US through jobs and careers. I’ve learned that strength comes from within yourself and community. Yourself through true grit and a determination to survive trials and errors, and your community through finding friends, family and mentors who support and push you to your goals.

Who is a female role model in your life and why? My female role model is my best friend, Dr. Anissa Cervantes. As the eldest daughter and first-generation graduate from her family, Anissa has constantly impressed me with the strength, tenacity and love she posses. Anissa grew up bilingual and has constantly used this skill as her family’s translator and, more recently, uses this to connect with and help Spanish-speaking patients in underserved communities during her OBGYN residency. I first met Anissa my sophomore year of high school when we had 5/7 classes together and ended up being lab partners for 3 of those classes (shoutout alphabetical order, haha) and I have been her #1 supporter ever since. Anissa has had her fair share of hurdles as she went through med school such as moving away from her family and taking on a heavy course load, which requires strength in itself. But what sets her apart from others is the way she makes time for the people she loves. Even under the demanding load of her career, she takes time to check in with friends and is there to support her family. She prioritizes the things that matter most to her through grit, compassion and strength. At her core, Anissa is a true and constant friend.

How can you be strong and vulnerable? I believe that strength and vulnerability are 2 sides of the same coin. I think you can be strong through vulnerability by growing self-confidence in yourself and being strong enough to open yourself to others. It means to have faith in your stance and who you are and yet be able to open yourself to criticism and embrace it. To wear your heart on your sleeve and be able to face the trial head on. One of the most interesting things I learned while in consulting is a lesson that can be applied to life: embracing the ambiguity. I think being strong and vulnerable can fit into this idea that you are strong enough to embrace the unknown.

When has your strength been personally challenged and how did you respond? Early in 2020, I was a burnt-out consultant and it was affecting my life outside work - I was unhappy and anxious all the time. In my unhappiness, I decided to make a career change to UX design. I wanted to get back to my roots of creating something worthwhile and designing for others. I built up a design portfolio (a first for me), started applying like crazy…and was faced with a solid wall of rejection. Weeks turned into months, and I was nowhere close to finding a way out. By 2021, I was mentally exhausted and had several times when I wanted to give up, but I felt like I couldn’t. I couldn’t just accept the situation I was in, so doubled down on applications. Then, I got an interview for a small biotech startup for a product manager position - I didn’t get the position, but asked the woman interviewing me for feedback on my application - and she did! She was the shining star that pushed me to continue. Just a simple conversation helped me feel much better about the path I was on. She inspired me to continue to ask more women in the tech industry for advice and after a few months, I was able to be successful in my transition to UX design.

Leanna’s Intentional Act of Kindness

How did you use the $100? I used a portion of the money to build a care basket for my friend who is having a rough time in med school. She's stressed and has been spending long hours at the hospital, and I bought some of her favorite things to let her know I was thinking about her! The 2nd portion went to my friend, Kelsey, who is a 1st grade teacher in the greater Seattle area. Kelsey is an inspiration for being so strong and gracious despite all the curveballs thrown her way as an educator. She is a wonderful teacher and I wanted to help her and her kids by buying some classroom supplies!

The reminder went to Food Finders in West Lafayette, IN. Food Finders has a program called the Mobile Pantry which brings fresh food to food desert communities around Lafayette, IN. While I was at Purdue, my senior capstone project team designed our project to help Food Finders improve their Mobile Pantry program. I wanted to continue to give back to that specific community because it's so uniquely special to me.

I knew right away I wanted to use it to impact multiple groups of people, but wasn't sure how. Thinking more deeply about it, I wanted to help uplift communities that are special to me. Donating to Food Finders was especially exciting to me because while I'm no longer physically there in West Lafayette, IN, the community is still very special to me.

What was the 'Intentional Act of Kindness' process like for you? Participating in this process was very thought-provoking and took me a long time to decide what I wanted to do. I felt a great deal of pressure to make a good choice. Thinking of Kelsey's classroom came so easily, but being (still) relatively new to Seattle, I struggled a little to decide on the rest. It forced me to look introspectively and I thought back to previous communities I love and have lived in. West Lafayette is so important to the person I am and have become, that Food Finders was the clear and natural choice! I'm very happy with how this process ended, and feel inspired to be more active in my community in Seattle.