What does "being strong" mean to you? Being strong means accepting the full version of myself. It’s not about resisting change, but rather creating space for growth through self-acceptance. I believe improvement happens when you feel safe and appreciated as a person. Life is a journey of learning who you are, understanding the world, and finding peace in your heart. Strength is the confidence to be yourself, and from that foundation, you can learn, achieve, and unleash your potential.
How does family shape your perception of strength? I was born and raised in China, where my grandparents played a significant role in shaping my values. Their lives were peaceful and routine, yet filled with accomplishments, health, positivity, and hobbies. They showed me that strength isn’t loud—it’s steady. It’s in resilience, in living well through both calm and difficult times. Their hope, acceptance, and peacefulness taught me that strength is everywhere, and it’s often quiet and enduring.
What keeps you strong in times of trial? In difficult times, it’s natural to feel lonely, doubtful, or overwhelmed—and that’s okay. I’ve learned to welcome those feelings as part of who I am. But I also believe in the power of action. There’s a saying in China: “The boat has passed thousands of miles.” When facing hardship, I keep my head down and take one step at a time. Eventually, I look back and realize I’ve crossed rugged mountains—and ahead lies a vast, open landscape. That’s the strength of experience.
How have your trials made you stronger? I remember the feelings I had during those difficult times—fear, uncertainty, doubt. But I also remember what I did. I took action. And each time I faced a new challenge, even if fear returned, I felt more confident. I developed my own way to get through it. That’s how trials shape strength—not by removing fear, but by teaching you how to move through it with courage and clarity.
Who is a female role model in your life and why? My maternal grandmother is the strongest female role model in my life. She is wise, positive, and resilient. After college, she was assigned to one of the poorest areas in China. Due to historical circumstances, she couldn’t pursue work related to her studies, but she adapted with grace. She learned new skills, managed the family with care, developed interest with passion, and patiently waited for the opportunity to showcase her talents professionally. She is incredibly smart and democratic in her approach—giving me space to explore the world as a child, while always being there when I needed her. Even when facing health issues, she remains calm and positive. Her peaceful routine and life attitude have deeply influenced me. She taught me that strength lies in the quietest determination.
What advice would you give to the next generation of strong women? Accept everything—good or bad—and still choose to do the right thing. If something happens to you, even if it causes trouble or unhappiness at the time, it’s still a good thing. That’s life—and that’s why experiences are so valuable. Strength isn’t about perfection; it’s about embracing your humanity and acting with integrity. When you accept yourself fully, you create space for growth, peace, and confidence. That’s the foundation for becoming strong and helping others rise with you.
Connie’s Intentional Act of Kindness
How did you use the $100? I used the $100 to support my grandmother’s volunteer work. She is over 85 years old and has dedicated nearly 30 years to creating community for retired people in her neighborhood. She organizes and leads choir groups and exercise groups, helping elderly individuals stay active, healthy, and socially connected. Her efforts reduce loneliness and foster mutual support among seniors. Despite challenges like bad weather or fatigue, she persists—arranging venues, managing communication, handling equipment like sound amplifiers. Her dedication has brought joy to countless people. Inspired by her, my grandfather also started groups for calligraphy and painting, further enriching the community.
My grandmother has always been my role model. Growing up with her, I learned the value of self-discipline, kindness, and generosity. Over the years, I’ve witnessed the profound impact of her actions—hundreds of elderly people and their families have expressed gratitude for the sense of belonging she created. She has funded most of these activities herself. This was a meaningful opportunity for me to give back and support her mission, which aligns with the values she instilled in me.
What was the 'Intentional Act of Kindness' process like for you? There’s a saying in China from Lao Zi that “When in humble circumstances, cultivate personal virtue; when in a position of ability, help the world.” This philosophy resonates deeply with me. The process reminded me to always strive for personal growth, remain humble, respect others, and, whenever possible, extend help—whether big or small. Supporting my grandmother was not just about the money; it was about honoring her lifelong commitment to kindness and continuing that ripple effect in my own way.