Soul 55: Kylie

What does "being strong" mean to you? Strength is speaking the truth in love, knowing who you are and walking confidently in that knowledge, and persevering in times of struggle. When I think of strong people, I think of those who have overcome, who have loved when it was easier to hate, who accomplished incredible things through small, habitual actions, who held on to their beliefs despite intimidation, or chosen joy in all circumstances. Life is hard. Strong people know this and still decide to face the day with fortitude and joy.

What keeps you strong in times of trial? Ultimately, knowing there is a God who walks with me through trial and is writing a good story through me brings hope in times of trial. Being a Christian doesn't mean suffering and trial do not happen to you; being Christian means you have a God who has also experienced suffering and walks with you through it. Of course, that statement is infinitely more difficult to remember in those times of struggle, but I am continually reminded that God has never left his people and has always been faithful, no matter how often doubt has crept in.

Who is a female role model in your life and why? When I was in college, I had a female campus pastor who showed me that women could be in the pulpit too. I had grown up thinking there wasn't much of a place for women in the church who felt called to ministry, but Mindy quietly and confidently modeled pastoral ministry. Her preaching was powerful and her mentorship was formational - for all students. As I grew in my own understanding of call, she encouraged the gifts and skills she saw in me. Eventually, I too became a pastor and now teach Christian Studies to young people. As women, the first time we get to see other women breaking the barriers between what is expected and what is possible can be formational in who we can become.

How can you be strong and vulnerable? Growing up, I thought crying and tears were a sign of weakness. I've always been an emotional person - when I'm overjoyed, excited, overwhelmed, gutted, etc., I usually cry. Especially with the negative emotions, I hated that I would cry. But I read this beautiful book that described tears as an expression of mourning for the way the world should be, an acknowledgement that the world is broken and not yet what it is intended to be. They can express the depth of our care for the broken things and not be merely a sign of weakness. I think tears can allow us to see the world with empathy and care in ways that stoicism isn't able to.

How do you encourage other women to be strong? In my classroom, I have the great joy of teaching adolescent women about who God is and who he has created them to be. We get to wrestle with biblical texts dealing with suffering, God's continued faithfulness to a wayward people, and the plans that God has for his world. My hope is that by studying God's love and care for his people of old, that they come to know how deeply he cares for each of them. Insecurity and self-consciousness are prominent issues that they struggle with and I want them to know how deeply God cares for them exactly as they are.

Kylie’s Intentional Act of Kindness

How did you use the $100? One of my good friends has recently become a single mom. She has four kids and just took in her son’s friend who was experiencing an abusive home life. One of my favorite things about her is how fiercely she cares for others even when she has little herself. She is completely selfless, and wholly kind, always looking for ways to love on others. I gave her the money to help make ends meet this month and be able to buy groceries.

When a good friend is constantly meeting roadblocks that stop her from providing for her kids or making rent or having to choose between clothes for the kids or gas, you have to help. As a Christian, I believe that everything we have is really God’s to begin with; our job is to steward our finances and time to give those resources in a way that honors Him and builds His kingdom. Being able to give this gift to care for a wholly deserving family is exactly the kind of action God calls us to.

What was the 'Intentional Act of Kindness' process like for you? To begin with, I was so thankful for Kristen and her generosity to consistently support acts like this. What an inspiring way to empower women, encourage generosity, and give women a platform to share their stories. The intentional acts of kindness part of the project reminded how powerful generosity is to both the giver and the one who receives. This friend has been on my heart for awhile now and this project gave me the opportunity to continue to financially support her and reminded me that giving is such a privilege and blessing. To be able to meet someone’s tangible need has inspired me to recommit to generosity and looking for opportunities to help others.

Soul 54: Blaire

What does "being strong" mean to you? When I think of the word “strong,” the word “unwavering” is the first word that comes to mind. The image that comes to mind is a post or maybe a tree that stands its ground in the middle of a huge storm. The wind may be blowing the branches from side to side, but the trunk is centered and sturdy in the ground. That is how I view strength within myself. Centered, grounded. Unwavering in my beliefs, morals, and how I want to show up in the world no matter what is going on around me.

Who is a female role model in your life and why? I feel so lucky to have multiple women in my life that I consider to be a role model. This spans from people at work, to family, friends, peers, activists, even a few celebrities. It’s hard to name just one, but when I think of why they are role models for me, a few characteristics come to mind:
- Strong in their beliefs
- Immense space for empathy and patience
- Not afraid to speak up
- Kind
- Maintain clear boundaries
- Brings others along as they move up/forward

What’s one thing someone could do today to make them stronger? I would encourage them to look at everything they have to do over the next few days or week. Is there anything that you said yes to that you really don’t want to do? This could be for any reason – because you literally don’t have the time, or perhaps because it really doesn’t fit into what is important to you in this moment in your life or aligned with how you want to show up for the people that are important to you. If so, say no. Creating, and arguably more importantly, maintaining boundaries is one of the strongest and hardest things one can do. Many times, women just automatically say yes for various reasons... much of this is rooted in cultural and societal expectations. Sometimes we need a reminder that we can simply say “no” without explanation.

Blaire’s Intentional Act of Kindness

How did you use the $100? I decided to give the $100 to my older sister. She has been immensely stressed about a wedding for one her best friends, whom she is actually doing the bridal make up for. She wanted to get her hair done in a special way for the wedding, and it ended up being more costly than she had anticipated. The $100 went to offset that cost.

We couldn't be more opposite, but my sister is my best friend. She moved to NYC in 2017 to pursue her dream of musical theater. She was doing ok, but the hit that covid took on NYC as a city and also the performance space hit her very hard. She is working both a day job and still booking gigs here and there, but finances are still tough. She is one of the kindest and hardworking people I know. When she told me about the price of the appointment, I knew that's exactly what I wanted to do with the $100.

What as the ‘Intentional Act of Kindness’ process like for you? I loved this process. It took me weeks to figure out how I wanted to use the money. I had thought and thought, and planned, and planned, so it is a bit ironic that me giving the $100 was a bit "spur of the moment". I just decided to do what felt right in that moment. This is a great reminder for me to stay present - don't try to control every detail. The universe brings you exactly what you need!

Soul 53: Ni

How does your culture shape your perception of strength? I am Chinese. In Chinese culture, Confucianism, Daoism and Buddhism are important philosophical thoughts have great impact on me. Chinese culture emphasizes the importance of filial piety, responsibility, perseverance, and humility. I think these values have shaped the mindset and behavior of many Chinese individuals, influencing how we approach challenges and interact with others in their personal and professional lives. Also, the concept of living in harmony with oneself, others and the nature helped me to foster a sense of inner strength and resilience. By focusing on cultivating inner peace and contentment, I am able to develop the ability to face challenges and adversity with greater equanimity and grace.

What keeps you strong in times of trial? My curiosity towards the world is what keeps me engaged and interested in life. Even during challenging times, I try to remain curious about the world and the people around me. I seek out new experiences and try to learn from them, which helps me to stay motivated and engaged. This curiosity also helps me to maintain perspective during difficult times, as I remind myself that there is a vast world beyond my current struggles.

To me, trying new things can always be a powerful way to help me build resilience and strength. Whether it's a new dish, a new skill, or a new way of thinking about the world, exploring the unknown can help to challenge my limitations and expand my capabilities and possibilities. How to find and maintain strength varies from person to person, and I am just lucky that have already discover what works best for me.

How can you be strong and vulnerable? To be honest, I cry a lot. I always remain high energy and at the same time I can always feel vulnerable. For me, crying is a way to release my emotions and process my feelings. I cry a lot at home and allow myself to feel whatever emotions come up, whether it's sadness, frustration, or even joy. However, I don't let those emotions consume me or define me.

After the emotion has passed, I am able to pick myself up and continue on with my day. I don't let my emotions hold me back or prevent me from taking action. I also have a sense of humor and can easily laugh at myself, which helps me to not take things too seriously and keep a positive outlook. I think being vulnerable is part of your strength. Because you need to be honest about your feelings, and being willing to express them to yourself or others. It requires a level of emotional courage and authenticity. I am a person who is easy to cry and easy to laugh, and I find that by allowing myself to be vulnerable, I am able to cultivate a sense of inner strength and self-awareness that helps me navigate life's challenges with more ease.

How do you encourage other women to be strong? 4 years ago, I started a public channel on WeChat to write and promote articles about successful female role models to motivate young Chinese women to pursue their career goals. I personally reached out and interviewed 30+ accomplished women from diverse industries, and published over 100,000 words of article content, attracting half a million views and comments. My interviewees included a female translator from China’s Foreign Affairs Office, an associate NYU Shanghai professor, and a famous tea master dedicated to cultural inclusion. I felt honored and privileged to help share inspirational stories that showcased women’s strength, talent, and ability to achieve their dreams. (Currently I paused the writing for my MBA study, but I will resume after my graduation.) I would also like to mention a 15-year-old girl, Shanshan, from Southeast China, who dropped out of middle school because of poverty. I learned about her during an author interview and immediately reached out to help. Shanshan was forced to quit because her father wanted her to start working to provide for the family. Now, it has been 4 years since I first began sponsoring Shanshan in 2019. We write letters from time to time, and I can feel her joy from her sharing of little things from her school life. Seeing her succeed constantly refreshes my motivation to fight for women’s equality.

Ni’s Intentional Act of Kindness

How did you use the $100? I donated $100 to support a fifth-grade student at the Reshuitang Elementary School in Yunnan Province, China. After her father's death and her mother's recent passing, she, her younger sister, and her younger brother are now living with their elderly grandparents. I wanted to alleviate some of her family financial burden and support her education. Having supported girls in Yunnan Province for several years, I am well aware of the challenges faced by underprivileged families in ensuring their children's education. In my recent efforts, I contacted the school principal to identify other students in need of assistance. By directly donating $100 to a family like this, we can offer immediate financial relief and, more importantly, inspire the girl to strive even harder. This support instills hope, demonstrating that there are caring individuals who believe in her potential and are invested in her future success.

What was the 'Intentional Act of Kindness' process like for you? Engaging in intentional acts of kindness has been a deeply meaningful experience for me. When I embarked on my MBA journey, my primary focus was centered on myself. However, engaging in intentional acts of kindness once again reminds me of my life's purpose, which is to contribute positively to the world and strive to become a better person. This action begins with being mindful and observant of the needs and struggles of others. This awareness fuels my desire to make a positive impact in their lives.

Soul 52: Ansa

How does family shape your perception of strength? Throughout my life, my mother has been a constant source of inspiration, providing me with guidance and support whenever I faced any challenges or stressful situations. Whenever I needed to talk or just be around someone, I found comfort in her presence, and her calming influence helped me see the bigger picture and not get bogged down by the little things. Looking back, I realize that this feeling of calmness and resilience that I experienced all those years was a result of her strength. She always encouraged us to do our best, stay positive, and not worry about things that we cannot control. Her unwavering faith and conviction that everything will work out has been a guiding light for me.

How does your culture shape your perception of strength? Growing up in Pakistan, I was immersed in a culture that placed a strong emphasis on collectivism and community. The idea of being strong was often intertwined with the concept of sacrificing one's own needs for the betterment of others. I witnessed this firsthand in my father, who always put others before himself, whether it was paying for a family member's medical bills or supporting someone's education. The practice of distributing food and groceries to the less fortunate was also common, and there was a strong sense of paying it forward and finding strength in acts of kindness. It helped instill in me a deep sense of empathy and compassion towards others.

How have your trials made you stronger? Moving to the US with my twins for my husband's education was undoubtedly one of the most challenging times in my life. I had to leave behind everything I knew and deal with the added stress of assimilation and isolation due to the Covid pandemic. However, despite the difficulties, I am proud to say that I emerged from this experience stronger than ever. Through it all, I learned how to be self-sufficient and care for my children without the help of a support system. I found solace in the little things, such as taking walks around the neighborhood and perfecting family recipes to ease my homesickness. It gave me a newfound sense of independence and resilience as I worked to reimagine my career in a new country. I took small steps each day towards achieving my goals and, looking back, I see this as a crucial period of growth and strength that helped shape me into the person I am today.

Ansa’s Intentional Act of Kindness

How did you use the $100? I spent $80 on making a care package for my friend who's been going through a really tough time with her daughter's health issues and frequent hospital stays. I wanted to show her some support and brighten her day. The remaining $20 went towards a Starbucks gift card for my brother-in-law, who's been a rock for our family, always there to lend a hand or babysit the kids when we need him.

My friend has been on my mind a lot lately, and I wanted to do something special to let her know I care. She's such a strong and positive person, even in the face of adversity, and I admire that about her. As for my brother-in-law, he's like our own personal village here in Seattle, always looking out for us and spoiling the kids. I thought a little thank you in the form of a coffee gift card would be the perfect way to show him our appreciation.

What was the 'Intentional Act of Kindness' process like for you? It was actually really satisfying, and it made me want to do more of these little acts of kindness. I realized how often I think about doing something nice for someone, but then life gets in the way, and I never actually follow through. This experience reminded me how important it is to make intentional kindness a priority in my life.

Soul 51: Christine

What keeps you strong in times of trial? I consistently fall back on methods of self-care as a way to push past adversity and I am emboldened by the strength of knowing I have faced similarly great challenges already in my life. Sometimes the best self care I can do is a warm bath and an early bed time.

Who is a female role model in your life and why? My mother has always had the audacity to try when others would not. She reinvented herself at 50 years old, after having been a stay-at-home mom to return to school and earn a challenging masters degree in occupational therapy and she now works in that field. I like to say she gave me my Geronimo instinct.

How do you encourage other women to be strong? I try to embody the resources that helped me to where I am today. Resources that are compassionate and tactful in their understanding of unique situations and needs. Resources that are fierce in the application of time, money, connections, or skills to plug those gaps.

What’s one thing someone could do today to make them stronger? I am a strong believer in the power of gratitude and forgiveness to the one who finds the strength to forgive. One of the most empowering yet difficult things I do is say “thank you” even when I am not sure I wanted or needed what I received and to say “I forgive you” even when the person who hurt me does not realize how or why they hurt me.

Christine’s Intentional Act of Kindness

How did you use the $100? I gave the $100 to my Uber driver Mohamed in Cincinnati, Ohio. Mohamed’s strength and spirit inspired me and I felt honored to be able to recognize that at the end of the drive. Throughout the Uber ride from the airport to downtown Cincinnati, Mohamed told me about his family. He spoke with such pride for being able to come to America for 9 months in the year and work to provide for his wife and daughter back home, despite how he had to be away from home for 9 months at a time because his family did not travel with him. He told me about how when he finished his Uber shift he will switch over to driving his box truck. It was clear he was living a frugal life in America in order to send back as much as possible to his family. He inspired me with his graciousness and humility and I hope he was able to take some time for self-care as a result of the $100.

What was the 'Intentional Act of Kindness' process like for you? The process was very intimidating! I carried around the crisp $100 bill for multiple months through multiple trips with it constantly at the back of my mind. I felt as though I needed to be a good steward and at the same time, I was afraid of my own “savior complex” where I felt as though I had to judge the potential recipients for their worthiness.

Soul 50: Cynthia

How have your trials made you stronger? I moved from Mexico to the US on the 4th of July 2016, thinking it would be a great day to move here when everybody is celebrating this country. That celebration soon turned into frustration when I realized that in this nation built by immigrants, immigrants were not welcome.

Moving here meant I had to start from scratch; that fancy school I graduated from back home meant nothing here. After hundreds of rejections, I landed an entry-level position with a salary so low that it was hard to make ends meet, especially with my husband still in school and working part-time at a restaurant. The political climate didn't, the presidential elections of 2016 were in full swing, and the rhetoric towards immigrants was hostile. "Building the wall" and "Mexicans being drug dealers, criminals, and rapists" were common themes. I heard people tell me to "go back to my country" and faced discrimination at work, where I was told not to speak Spanish even though I was hired as a bilingual employee.

I struggled with my identity and sense of belonging. I questioned myself a lot and wondered if I had made a mistake by coming here. But I refused to give up. Instead, I turned all the hostility and challenges into motivation to achieve my personal goals: professional growth and graduate education.

Now, years later, I celebrate who I am and where I come from. I'm proud of my heritage, my culture, my accent, and my story. I embrace my identity as an immigrant and am committed to sharing and educating others about our cultures.

What keeps you strong in times of trial? Knowing that I can inspire others.
I can think of no greater example than my journey to business school. This was one of the most challenging experiences of my life. I was met with discouraging test scores, unexpected delays, scams, and personal setbacks, all of which made me question whether or not I was cut out for business school. But, despite it all, I refused to give up.

As a first-generation student, I felt lost when I started my grad school journey. Today, I proudly share my story and lessons learned with other women who may be facing similar obstacles. I mentor and assist them in any way I can; knowing that I can play a small role in other women’s success motivates me to stay strong.

What advice would you give to the next generation of strong women? : Prioritize what matters most to you by setting boundaries and asking for help.

As women, we face many challenges in our personal and professional lives. In our mission to constantly prove ourselves, we end up saying yes to everything, even to things that are not important to us, or worse, that go against the person we want to become. I’m someone who struggles with this very issue, but I've come to realize that saying no to certain opportunities or tasks doesn't make us weak; rather, it helps us prioritize what truly matters to us.

By setting boundaries, we can avoid overcommitting and burning out, and by asking for help, we can delegate tasks, mentor others, and focus on what we do best. Knowing what adds value to our life and letting go of the rest is a true strength.

Cynthia’s Intentional Act of Kindness

How did you use the $100? I donated to the Kitsap Immigrant Assistance Center for their education, advocacy, and social justice fund for immigrants in Kitsap County.

Last year, I had the privilege of working with KIAC for my Service Corps elective. I met the passionate people behind the organization who are dedicated to making sure that immigrants in Kitsap County have a better life. Being an immigrant, I have a personal connection to the cause and wanted to spend my $100 supporting that cause.

What was the 'Intentional Act of Kindness' process like for you? It was an absolutely rewarding experience, not only because I witnessed firsthand how much the KIAC and the people in that community are working to grow the organization, but because it also felt like I was completing a cycle. I'm committed to lending a hand to other immigrants and refugees who come here to start a new life but need help getting settled.

Soul 49: Ni

How does family shape your perception of strength? I did not grow up with a strong nuclear family. Instead, I had my grandma, aunts, uncles, cousins, grandaunts, first cousins once removed - the list goes on. I drew strength from the countless people in my life whom each provided some bit of themselves to help sustain my brothers and me through many challenging years. It is through all these individuals, that I experienced firsthand the synergistic power of strength. We are stronger when we both lean on and prop up those around us. And you never have to give everything, but every bit does matter.

Who is a female role model in your life and why? My grandmother was the strongest person I knew. She taught me what it meant to live a life serving others. I watched her grieve after my father - her only son - passed, but she never let this hurt get in the way of caring for her four grandchildren who needed her now more than ever. Her pain peeked through in how she continued to cook my father's favorite meals or held on to his old passports and licenses. Despite her evident suffering, there wasn't a single need that my brothers and I had that she did not prioritize and try her best to fulfill. She spent the rest of her life caring for us and through the pain, managed to teach us great lessons about gratitude, humility, and empathy.

How can you be strong and vulnerable? The Asian culture encourages individuals to control and suppress their emotional expressions. It has taken me years to unlearn this practice and understand the benefits of communicating feelings and expressing needs. If you do not share your needs, you then become the only person aware and capable of fulfilling them, and it begins to feel like a very lonely world when you come to rely on just yourself. By inviting others to share in this load, you allow yourself to be built up by another person, an act that can foster a powerful relationship between humans.

What’s one thing someone could do today to make them stronger? We can all benefit from being mindful, communicating more clearly, and letting our intentions be known. From my experience, communication often breaks down when two parties make incorrect assumptions and do not dispel them. Assumptions are a natural tendency in human exchange which can greatly help to make conversations more efficient but can also break down an interaction if two people are not aligned. Something we can all do when we feel we are losing someone in a conversation is clarify our assumptions and share what we were hoping to get out of the interaction. Clear communication and tight alignment help to strengthen working relationships.

Ni’s Intentional Act of Kindness

How did you use the $100? I bought school supplies for my second grade teacher through her online wish list. I really wanted to take this opportunity to thank someone whom I have not had the opportunity to thank yet, but I know I owe much of my success. I was not always a great student. Up until the second grade, I often skipped homework assignments and did poorly on tests. My second-grade teacher was the first person who acted on my disinterest and helped to turn me around. She was the only teacher in my school who spoke Chinese and therefore could communicate with my family. By taking the time to connect with my home life and making my family aware of the issue, she helped to get the people whom I cared about invested in my academic performance.

What was the 'Intentional Act of Kindness' process like for you? It was really rewarding to give back to this classroom and help my teacher continue to serve her students. I imagine there are others in her class, like second-grade me, who need her help and I’m hopeful that my small act of kindness will make her job just a little bit easier.

Soul 48: Fanny

What does “being strong” mean to you? For me being strong represents:

• continuing to go forward without necessarily knowing how things will turn out

• being vulnerable

• possessing an unwavering belief in self to be able to try things even when it scares me

• the ability to love, have faith, say no, and know when to walk away

How does family shape your perception of strength? My grandmother arrived in the U.S. and worked as a nanny for a wealthy family in the upper west side of Manhattan. My mother, upon arriving in the US until retirement, worked as a home attendant, caring for elders. Despite how busy or tired, their love and dedication to us were unwavering. That’s strength to me. My family has taught me the importance of faith, unity, love, honesty, and humbleness and for me these things also culminate into strength.

What keeps you strong in times of trial? Ultimately, I want to make my parents proud. I also want to serve as a role model and source of inspiration for my nephews and niece, and those who identify as first-gen or are from underserved communities. So although at times it is hard being away from family and friends, traveling constantly for work, living in new cities, etc… I know there’s a bigger goal.

I saw education as my way to break the generational cycle and my interest has been in providing that guidance to the next generation. I will continue to take action to democratize access to education and career mobility for underrepresented minorities. My passion for driving diversity and inclusion and giving back to those from underrepresented communities fuels my involvement and serves as a continual source of inspiration.

How have your trials made you stronger? I cut it all off. I stood in front of the mirror crying, feeling ugly and ashamed, thinking my beauty was gone, but the long-lasting lie prevailed. Telling my story to my family and  friends was challenging, but also healing. The process was painful, lengthy, months full of self-doubt and insecurities. Inch-by-inch the pain and self-doubt gave way to confidence, empowerment, freedom, strength and pride. Through it all, I’ve come to realize that happiness only comes from being authentic and going after what matters most, a realization that is, on its own, extremely valuable.

Most of the time, I wear my hair natural because I love who I am. I hope that the Afro-LatinX’s and others who, for generations, have been forced to strip and hide who they are, may be encouraged. My renewed confidence in who I am comes to being comfortable in my own skin, and realizing that natural hair is whatever I want my hair to be - whether it’s curly or straight.

Who is a female role model in your life and why? My mother serves as the biggest source of inspiration. (Good thing I’m writing in English and the question specifically asks for a female role-model, otherwise my dad would be jealous)

Fanny’s Intentional Act of Kindness

How did you use the $100? I donated to Teleton USA Foundation; a non profit which provides care to children with neurological, muscular and skeletal disabilities. Teleton's mission is to raise awareness to create a more inclusive world for children with disabilities. This nonprofit organization holds a very special place in my heart, largely due to my mother's unwavering support and encouragement for us to donate to their cause. Every year, we support their annual fundraising event, which is broadcasted on Univision, a prominent Spanish television network. The impact this nonprofit has on the community is truly remarkable and I am grateful for the opportunity to be a part of such a meaningful and inspiring cause.

What was the 'Intentional Act of Kindness' process like for you? Participating in this process was truly humbling and an introspective experience. It allowed me to delve deep into my understanding of what strength truly means and the kind of impact I wish to have in this world. As I pondered how to allocate the $100, I found myself grappling with the weight of responsibility that came with the decision. I wanted to ensure that whatever I chose to do with the money would be "worthy" of its purpose.

I suddenly had an epiphany - that the act of donating itself is a powerful and meaningful act of kindness. In this way, I came to realize that every act, big or small, carries value and can create a ripple effect of positive change.

As I contemplated where to direct my donation, my heart swelled with a sense of purpose and intention. The process helped me to not only feel a deeper sense of connection, but also reminded me of the strength and beauty of the human spirit. It inspired me to be more mindful and purposeful in my actions, and to never underestimate the power of acts of kindness.

Soul 47: Becky

What does ‘being strong’ mean to you? Strength is not one thing, it’s many things. It’s preserving through tough situations. It’s living one’s values in spite of pressure to conform. It’s pursuing dreams, knowing that it will not be easy, but that we will figure it out along the way.

It is rooted in an appreciation of my own value and worthiness and seeing it in others.
Strength can be loud and expressed in all its glory. Or sometimes, our strength is even more evident when gracefully shared through quiet restraint. It can come in the form of a big action or something seemingly small that permeates an experience without being obvious. Strength can be steadfast and unrelenting when needed, or flexible and adaptive in others. It can be building up, standing down or even letting go.

With all these different tentacles, I struggled to come up with one life story that encapsulates my own strength. No one experience seemed to do the topic justice. I came to the conclusion that for me strength is the sum of daily life choices to show up to what life offers to the best of my ability. It’s not a trait that some of us have or don’t. It’s a choice. Every day, I have the opportunity to decide how will I be strong?

How did family shape your perception of strength? I came from a ‘pull yourself up by your boot straps’ kind of family that honored hard work and independence. Early on I understood the recognition that comes with achievement. Good report cards landed me twenty-five cents for an A, fifteen cents for a B and a nickel for a C. I think by high school it was increased to a $1.00 for an A, but by then the intrinsic reward of a job well done had been instilled.

Both of my parents were first generation college graduates, navigating this feat through sacrifice and persistence. Growing up we did not buy fancy things or take expensive trips as my parents were building up a nest egg to support the education of their three daughters.

My parents exemplified strength to me in different ways. My dad showed me how to remain calm under pressure and make thoughtful decisions. We looked to him in times of distress to provide sound and sage advice. Outgoing and at times a bit fiery, my mom taught me that women can speak up and make an impact. She didn’t follow my dad, they were partners. Together they provided a solid foundation that enabled me to believe in myself and go after my dreams. What an amazing blessing and privilege! To honor this gift, I strive to pay it forward. My aim is to build into and be there for my family and friends in ways that make a difference like my parents did for me.

What keeps you strong in times of trial? My story takes me back to when I was 22 and heading to grad school. I had just graduated from college and got married to Mark that following summer. That’s what we used to do in those days. Two weeks later, we packed up a U-Haul and my 1980 used Ford Granada and headed to IU for me to get an MBA and for my husband to do anything he could to pay the rent.

We were so excited to be setting out on this new life adventure. Unfortunately, it was rather short lived because when we arrived in Bloomington our place was a dump. I don’t mean just kind of bad; I mean really bad. It was a step down from dorm life living for sure with bugs and all. We (I) couldn’t live there and now we were on a hunt to find a new place quickly. I remember it being hot and sticky…and how crabby we were after several hours of stressful searching with no luck. We kept driving around, that is, until my husband drove right through a stop sign and into a taxi. At that point, I lost it and had a meltdown. (I cried so hard the cops took pity and didn’t give us a ticket – silver linings).

Feeling defeated and without a place to stay or a plan of action, I wanted to call it quits. I thought it was a sign that this wasn’t meant to be. What does a young girl do in this moment? Call her dad. After giving me the space to share my long tirade, I recall his calming assurance and advice…”Becky, take a breath. It will work out; just give it 24 hours…and I think you will find that things will turn around.” I have to say that in that moment, I wasn’t feeling all that hopeful or confident… but as it turns out, he was right. The next day, armed with coffee and some fresh perspective, we explored new areas and found a furnished apartment, that while no means fancy, suited us just right.

Life is filled with roadblocks and unexpected twists and turns. As I face these moments, I remember this day and my dad’s advice to take a breath before reacting or drawing a conclusion. It’s amazing how this one small action can make all the difference in the world.

Who is a female role model in your life and why? While there are many women I admire, my mom’s influence has been the most profound. Among many life lessons, she has taught me the value of tenacity, connection and living in the present moment. It wasn’t so much what she said, but rather seeing how she lived that made such an impact. My mom came from humble beginnings and carved her own path in the world. She didn’t wait for things to happen; she was intentional about making them happen and believed in herself to do it.

As she reflects back, she relishes the unique mix of childhood experiences of living in the big city during the school year paired with summers spent on her grandma’s farm. When in Milwaukee, she lived in what she describes as a tough, inner city Italian neighborhood. Being one of the few non-Italians, she quickly needed to figure out how to fit in, and at times, not back down. Being at the farm was a totally different world. She worked really hard, but also enjoyed freedom to explore. She shares stories of milking the cows, driving a tractor and riding horses early in her life, sparking in her a fiery independence and confidence. In her teenage years, she caught sight of my dad when he came to do some electrical work with his dad on the farm. The rumor is that during that visit, she supposedly mentioned to her cousin that someday she would marry him. After years of being high school sweethearts, they ultimately did marry in 1955. Their marriage lasted over 50 years and together they raised 3 daughters, 9 grandchildren and now 7 great grandchildren and growing.

While devoted to her family, my mom also pursued her own passions of being a high school English teacher. She was made for it and devoted to her students. Whenever we go out in her hometown, mom inevitably runs into a student who stops to say hello and thanks her for what she did for them. My mom has been the heart and glue of the family. Over the years, she’s made time to connect, listen and be present for each of us. She truly cares about what’s going on in our lives and finds a way to form a unique bond that makes us feel valued and loved.

My mom is now 88 and living on her own. While there are some sweet moments, this final phase of life can be difficult and scary. I see how hard things are and can empathize with the loss of independence so embedded in her bones. Accepting the reality of her limitations is especially challenging for someone like my mom who has lived a life in breaking through them. At this point, I am learning from my mom about how to navigate the end of life with strength and grace. I am so very grateful for my mom and how she has shaped my life. She continues to teach me and I still have much to learn.

What advice would you give to the next generation of strong women? This question is very relevant given that I mentor young women within my career as a qualitative researcher. My advice is best summed up in the mantra Shine Bright. I share this message with each person on their first day and many times thereafter. For one thing, I like the simplicity and how easy it is to remember. Yet, even more so, are the deeper life lessons it embodies.

Shine Bright is…
- Rooted in being oneself and recognizing the gifts we each bring to this world.
- Inspires us to live vibrantly and boldly and actively role model this for others.
- Challenges us to seize opportunities with our face directed toward the sun.

No matter where we are in our journey, there is an opportunity for growth. We just need to be intentional about what we are bringing and gaining from every situation to tap into and expand our potential. Leadership is not about titles; it’s about serving as a light for others that contributes to our shared success.

Mentoring has been one of the most fulfilling aspects of my career. As much wisdom I hope to have imparted, I have gained (and then some) through my relationships with each of them. I am honored to have played a role in their lives and will forever be cheering them on to Shine Bright.

Becky’s Intentional Act of Kindness

How did you use the $100? I gifted my $100 to two women who in many ways represent what it means to be strong. Authentic, determined and generous in spirit, their exuberance shines through in how they live their lives. One is my friend, who despite many health and personal hardships, has embodied a positive drive enabling her to move forward. Today, she is in a happier place and uses her time, talent and treasures to bless others. Whether it is caring for her mother or mother in law, helping a friend or watching her grandbaby, she brings comfort, support and a whole lot of fun. The other person I chose, is her daughter who recently had a baby, and finds herself in a position of raising her as a single mom. That's a lot to manage and navigate. I thought they both would appreciate a rare moment to treat themselves.

Why did you decide to use your $100 in that particular way? I was inspired to share this gift with them not so much because they needed the money, but more so to encourage them to take a moment to treat themselves. While it doesn’t solve the struggles, these small acts of kindness can make a big difference. We experienced this first hand in our own hardships in 2012 when my husband Mark lost his battle with cancer. Mark was such a beautiful soul and we miss him dearly. During this time, so many people in our circle blessed us with support. My friend was among them, often stopping over with a kind word and gift cards for us to grab a meal. While we appreciated the practicality of the gift, the bigger impact was about knowing that she cared and reminding us that we were not alone. Once Mark passed away, she hosted us all at her home on his birthday where we shared fond memories and sent balloons to the sky in his honor. This celebration of his life made a lasting impression for me and my boys and I will be forever grateful.

What was the 'Intentional Act of Kindness' process like for you? It reminds me of the importance of being in intentional with our lives. It is so easy to get caught up in the daily to-dos and crossing things off my list to feel accomplished. This helped to refocus me on what’s most essential. Taking a moment to actively think about how I can bless the life of someone else, was a blessing to me in return.

Soul 46: Krystal

How does family shape your perception of strength? I was born and raised on the island of O'ahu to my Filipino immigrant parents that moved here for a better life. Even though finances were difficult, family, faith, and an abundance of hope kept them looking forward to strive for bigger and better things. Growing up, I have always been very aware of my parents' strengths, even if they often shielded their worries and concerns from me. They really worked hard to raise my sister and I well, but to provide us the opportunities they never had growing up. By working multiple jobs, saving up, and teaching me the values of hard work and integrity, I understood the weight of their sacrifices and hardships at an early age. My parents do not have college degrees, but still worked so hard in order to support our family get by. The strength I've learned from my family also stems from my grandparents on my mom's side of the family. They also immigrated here to pave a better life for us, and without their strength, I would not be where I am today. Through their hard work and resilience, they continuously inspire me to be strong regardless of whatever I face. Last but certainly not least, my family are truly strong in their faith and has used that as a pillar to lean on during our trials and tribulations. Because of their sacrifices and the countless prayers over our family, we were able to overcome our hardest moments together. I am truly blessed with the many ways they taught me strength, courage, faith, and hope.

Who is a female role model in your life and why? My older sister has been a constant role model for me through out my life. Despite our 17-year age difference, she has been my truest confidante, mentor, and biggest cheerleader. Being the first in my entire immediate and extended family to go to college, my sister paved the way for me to embark the similar educational aspirations. As a child, I distinctly remember her juggling school and part-time work, as there have been times where I had to go into work with her because she was also babysitting me while my parents were working. She had no choice but to do so because she was also helping my parents financially during that time. Through her actions, she showed me the importance of giving my 100% and how to be a reliable person for others, no matter how challenging. She is the epitome of strength as she heavily relies on her faith, but works so hard to reach the goals she set her mind to. She taught me the importance of charting your own path and always encouraged me to get out of my comfort zone o try new things. Because of her, I have been able to stretch in ways I've never thought I could or would. To this day, she is the first person I go to when I face challenges. Without my sister, I really would not be where I am today. She walked so I could run.

What advice would you give to the next generation of strong women? It takes a village to support and uplift each other up as women. For all the many ways that other strong women have supported, empowered, and uplifted you, it is so important that we also pay it forward to the next generation. Whether it is through friendship, mentorship, economics, education, sponsorship, or more, this support can be exemplified in so many ways. In addition to all the strong women in my family, I also would not be where I am today without the network of women (former professors and college staff, former managers, etc) that supported me in my own personal and professional growth. I am grateful that.I have been able to pay it forward in my former job supporting many community college students, who were majority women. We can all continue to advocate and amplify other women, and by doing so, we empower all women to reach their potential and make a difference as well.

Krystal’s Intentional Act of Kindness

How did you use the $100? I used the $100 in two ways: First, I gave $75 of it to a close friend of mine that I knew since freshman year of college that has been working as a nurse through out the pandemic. Second, I contributed $25 to a Gofundme that was set up to support the wife and children of the late Central District community member and leader, D'Vonne Pickett Jr, who was tragically taken away from them.

First, I chose to give $75 to my close friend because she is one of the strongest and most compassionate people I've ever met. She showed up for her community during the pandemic and continuously shows up for her patients. Last year, her team became so understaffed as a result of people leaving due to burnout. Not by choice, she became a lead and dealt with a lot of challenges from patients, doctors, and hospital administration alike. This led her to feel so exhausted and discontent to the point where she was not acting like her normal self. Because of all that she has done for others, I wanted to uplift her spirits in hopes that it would support her and encourage her to keep going. I admire her resilience so much, and she continues to me an inspiration for me. I'm so grateful she is one of my closest friends.

My second contribution was donated to support the family of (the late) D'Vonne Pickett Jr. Although I never knew him personally, he attended my undergraduate alma mater and graduated a year after me. I was so moved by the impact he made in the Central District area, especially for the Black and Brown community members. He was also a mentor to so many BIPOC youth in the area. He and his wife also owned a community-focused business that served the people in Central District. My heart broke for his wife and children when the news of his passing that shook the community. This compelled me to make this small contribution. I am certain that his wife and children will continue to make an impact and live out his legacy.

What was the 'Intentional Act of Kindness' process like for you? At first, it was difficult for me because I was initially indecisive of how I wanted to use the $100. I also wanted to make a direct impact on the lives of other women. When the moment came to make the decisions, my discernment took over and confirmed how I should go about using it. For example, a simple catch-up session with my friend and hearing how difficult work has been for her made the decision straight-forward. For the other one, hearing the news and ripple effect of his passing also compelled me to support his family. That said, in the moment and when the opportunities came up, I was able to make the decision instantly.

Soul 45: Hannah

How does your culture shape your perception of strength? I am half Finnish and in Finland we have the word sisu which holds an almost magical meaning. The term is unique to the Finnish language but can be roughly translated into English to be "all encompassing strength of will, determination, perseverance, and acting rationally in the face of adversity."

What I love most about sisu is that it is "not momentary courage, but the ability to sustain that courage." This has translated into how I perceive strength within myself and others. Strength is not a one time thing, it is a sustaining collection of tangible and intangible actions that allow you to preserver no matter what you are up against.

How have your trials made you stronger? They have given me perspective. When life seems tough, I remember that I have survived 100% of my toughest days. When I am really tired or feel myself wavering, I think back to my days thru-hiking the Pacific Crest Trail or working as a night shift nurse in New York City during the start of the COVID-19 pandemic. I proceed to ask myself a few questions: 1) do you have to walk 30 miles? 2) is anyone going to die because of this decision? The combination of these two questions put things into perspective and allow me to push through with perspective.

How can you be strong and vulnerable? I tend to wear my heart on my sleeve. This has turned out to be one of my of my biggest strengths. I am able to easily connect with individuals and build relationships by giving them a little bit of myself. This has proved to be effective when riding horses with veterans in the Tobacco Root Mountains of Montana to families in Detroit. By letting people see who I am, it creates a level of comfort and understanding of the human condition that lead to common ground.

Hannah’s Intentional Act of Kindness

How did you use the $100? I have a coworker who came into my life when my job had become a bit too much for one person. On her first day, we instantly connected and became an unstoppable team for the remainder of my tenure. Up until now, I didn’t know how to thank her. However, this was the perfect way to say thank you for so many things. She is a mom, incredible community member, and big heart. I hope she spends it on herself but know she will likely spend some to better her community.

It took me a long time to figure out how to best use my $100. I wanted to give locally in Seattle but, being so new to the community, I didn’t know anyone locally to have a person to person impact. However, when I thought of my past homes and community, the perfect person came to mind. I’ve never met someone so kind, warm, and and overall team player for her community.

What was the 'Intentional Act of Kindness' process like for you? It was tough at first. I put a lot of weight on myself to make the right choice. I think I had a list of 30 different ideas. However, when I came to the right choice for me, the act was obvious. From this, I learned that there are at least 29 other Acts of Kindness I want to work towards paying forward. I think each one will get easier. Once I made the decision, my persons reaction was so positive and I was at peace with my decision.

Soul 44: Christie

What does ‘being strong’ mean to you?: Simply put: the power to endure. When struggles arise and you fall, do you get back up and keep going, or do you stop and become defeated? Strength is enduring the obstacles and continuing on to grow and develop, regardless of if that’s physically, mentally, or spiritually.

How did family shape your perception of strength? Family of origin drastically affects how you perceive the world and therefore respond to it. Our brains respond in ways to keep us safe and that is mostly learned via family of origin. When trials and tribulations occur what you saw modeled is usually how you yourself will respond until you are aware enough to consciously make an effort and decide otherwise.

How can you be strong and vulnerable? There is power in vulnerability, truly! They are actually better together than one without the other. Allowing others to see the vulnerable human side is what joins us. Regardless of people’s viewpoints or opinions, we all share the same emotions and sharing those emotions creates connection. It takes strength to be willing to take that risk though and open those hidden sides, but when you do, you discover that you are actually far from alone.

What’s one thing someone could do today to make them stronger? “What motivates you to get back up and continue?” I personally have tended to be more internally motivated; so when I fall, my way of thinking is “life goes on whether I stay down or not.” I have a choice to dwell in my “pit” or get up and take one step at a time keeping my gaze on what’s right in front of me.

Christie’s Intentional Act of Kindness

How did you use the $100? I decided to spilt the funds up and give it randomly. A few times I bought the Starbucks orders of the people behind me in line, and also bought groceries for a single mother. I enjoy random acts of kindness where for most of the acts, people don’t actually know that someone is doing it until it happens and I remain anonymous.

What was the 'Intentional Act of Kindness' process like for you? It felt really good knowing that I could help make someone’s day by doing a simple act.

Soul 43: Maria

What advice would you give to the next generation of strong women? Believe in yourself, but remember that we’re better together. Help each other rise up and draw strength from your community. I recognize that some of my greatest achievements can be traced to an opportunity that someone else brought to my attention, so I try to do the same for others. When we set each other up with a chance to thrive, we all flourish together.

What’s one thing someone could do today to make them stronger? That thing you want that you think is out of reach? Identify the steps to make it happen. When a big goal is laid out into smaller increments, perspective can change and you might see just how attainable that dream can be.

When has your strength been personally challenged and how did you respond? There was a time in my life when I was living paycheck to paycheck with a salary that placed me below the poverty line in an already expensive city. I had a bachelor’s degree and a resume with experience, but the pay scale for the corporate job I had with a Fortune 500 company dictated compensation based on length of service. Regardless, I put forth my best effort each day which was largely disproportionate to the amount of compensation I was receiving. In the months following the company made exceptions for me that broke the pay scale not once but twice to recognize and reward my work ethic. I couldn’t have done this alone, I had the support of a conscientious manager who fought on my behalf. Although I gained valuable experience from this company, I could see that a long-term trajectory with them did not match what I wanted for myself. I scraped together funds from my already meager budget to purchase a laptop and enroll in a certificate program at the University of Washington. Four years later, I’m two years into a new career and my investment in continuing education paid off far more than I ever dared imagine. I’m with a new company in a markedly different field and they’re paying my way through a Masters program. I am grateful each day for how far I’ve come and that I didn’t settle. Most of all, I’m beyond thankful for the people who believed in me and set me up with opportunities to succeed: the referrals for interviews and grad school applications, the ones who went to bat for me when I didn’t have a voice, the generous souls who covertly covered my share when I turned down invitations due to budget constraints… I can’t thank you enough.

Maria’s Intentional Act of Kindness

How did you use the $100? I donated $50 to Mary’s Place through NEDDIE (www.neddie.co), a social impact platform. NEDDIE has a 0% platform fee for charities, so I tipped $50 to help them continue providing this service. My employer has a generous matching program, so to comply with their policy I made a separate $100 donation of my own money to Mary’s Place. To sum it up: the original $100 was matched by my $100 which will be matched by my company’s $100 to make $300 total. Mary’s Place will receive $250 while NEDDIE was given $50.

I had a few ideas for how I wanted to use the $100 to enrich the community, but I posed the question to my inner network on how they would invest it. A friend connected me with NEDDIE, a female-led social impact platform that connects nonprofits, individual donors, and companies to collaborate on causes that matter to them. One of the co-founders is my friend’s cousin, whose passion for nonprofits and helping others inspired her to leave her job at Amazon to create this startup. While browsing through the nonprofits and fundraisers listed on NEDDIE, I found a cause that I already had in mind. Mary’s Place helps women and children in King County meet basic needs such as hygiene, shelter, food, and clothing; and provides access to tools, information, support groups and resources to find employment, housing, medical, and financial services.

According to the Mary’s Place website: A $35 donation will cover the cost to bring a child in for one night. A $76 donation will cover the cost to support a mom and her newborn by providing a safe place to stay and access to nursing care, meals, diapers, and supplies. A $266 donation will cover the cost to provide two families with shelter, meals, and access to 24/7 wraparound services (collaborations between state or local government agencies and organizations that provide behavioral healthcare and management services) for one day. By donating to Mary’s Place through NEDDIE, my goal was to maximize my impact by supporting a local nonprofit, a local female-led startup, and local women in need. Since I have access to a corporate matching program for charitable donations, I knew my own additional donation plus the corporate match would be worthwhile and make a significant difference. It was also while discussing 100 Souls Strong and Intentional Acts of Kindness that another friend pointed out how nonprofits through their connections and expertise can make my donation stretch further than what I could do on my own. By reaching out to my network I was able to make a bigger difference and I’m deeply appreciative of those who participated in these Intentional Acts of Kindness with me.

What was the 'Intentional Act of Kindness' process like for you? At first, I didn't think $100 was enough to make a meaningful impact but then I remembered how much that would have been for me just a few years ago. When I’m having a tough time, I remind myself how easy I have it compared to others. I imagine working moms who might also be in school that do it all then tend to their families on top of that already heavy workload. Then I think about the struggles of other women like in Stephanie Land’s memoir "Maid: Hard Work, Low Pay, and a Mother's Will to Survive" where as a young single mother Stephanie was barely getting by despite her hard work and was trying desperately to keep her child insulated from the struggle. The donation to Mary’s Place was the best way I could think of to provide an opportunity to a local woman and her child to rise to a better place. It’s a small foothold, but it’s a start.

Soul 42: Micheii

How did family shape your perception of strength?When I think of the word strength, the first thing that comes to mind is my family. Particularly my mom and my bachan (grandma). My bachan spent her high school years in a Japanese internment camp during World War II. After the war and her release, she endured more discrimination and the only job she was able to maintain was working as a housekeeper for a wealthy white family. Since then, she has built her life up and raised four strong children who all went on to start businesses, become doctors, and go to graduate school. I don't think her kids would be in the same position if they hadn't been raised by such an admirable person who pushed them to value their education- because she was not afforded those same privileges in her childhood/young adulthood.

What keeps you strong in times of trial? My older sister, Tiana. As an adult I try to find other outlets so I'm not 100% leaning on Tiana- I'll talk to close friends, my partner, journal, spend time with myself. But since literally day one Tiana has looked after me and has supported me. Over the years she's written to me in times of need, and sometimes I'll just reread the letters she's given me and they make me feel better. She makes me feel valued and loved, which always gives me a feeling of strength!

Who is a female role model in your life and why? My mom. She is the hardest worker I know and I have not once heard her complain. She recently retired, but her entire career was dedicated to creating programs that help victims and survivors of sexual assault. She worked for a non-profit organization that provided services for those who have been sexually abused, these services in many cases, saved lives. In times of crisis, my mom always keeps a level head and thinks about solutions. She is calm, creative, and incredibly loving. I will always look up to my mom as a strong role model.

What advice would you give to the next generation of strong women? In 1976, historian Laurel Thatchel Ulrich wrote that "well behaved women seldom make history". Our society sets expectations on women, and I think in order to be a strong women, you have to break those rules to a certain extent (especially because society often equates femininity to weakness, so by being a strong women, you're already breaking the rules!). I suggest the next generation to challenge the system and lean on other women along the way - it's good to question the expectations from time to time, because chances are, they were created by someone who didn't have you in mind.

Micheii’s Intentional Act of Kindness

How did you use the $100? I gave the money to a close friend I met during makeup school years ago. I had plans to donate the money in various ways, but the day after I received the $100, I spent the night at a close friend's apartment. She cooked a beautiful dinner for me and when we were chatting she mentioned how she is living paycheck to paycheck, and how stressful it is. A little backstory - She recently moved out of her parents place to her own apartment. A week after she moved out, she lost her esthetician job at a spa. She was able to get a new job, but she lost all of her clients due to a non-compete contract. Now she has to rebuild her clientele in order to make any money. It felt serendipitous to have the $100 in my purse as she was telling me her financial burdens.

What was the 'Intentional Act of Kindness' process like for you? I loved it! Especially since I gave the money to a close friend, it felt so good to see how it affected her. It was a good reminder that everything is relative, currently, $100 doesn't feel significant to me personally, but it brought tears to my friend's eyes and really impacted her day. It was a true gift to be able to help out someone so important to me.

Soul 41: Liz

What does "being strong" mean to you? At this point in my life, "being strong" correlates to endurance. Remaining in the Lord, staying the course regardless of culture, environment, challenges, setbacks, discouragement and loneliness.

How did family shape your perception of strength? Like most kids, when I was young, I continually had new ideas of what I wanted to be when I grew up. When a new idea came to mind, I'd share it with my dad. I wanted to be a teacher, a valet, a Nascar driver, a nurse, an attorney, a judge, a baker, a mom, a professional basketball player ... the list went on and on. Each time I presented a new idea, my dad responded the same: We need Christian women in ____________(fill in the blank). So my conclusion was not that I could do anything I wanted but rather that Christ-in-me was critical in whatever I did. Without lecturing, my dad helped me to see that strength comes by following Jesus in all I do.

What keeps you strong in times of trial? In my hardest years of trial -- parenting three young children, separated from extended family, limited supports, relational tensions, managing extreme behaviors, exhaustion and depression -- I found renewal by pulling away by myself to refresh. In this period of my life, it was usually 4 hours early Saturday morning. Mark 6:31 says, "Come with me by yourself to a quiet place and get some rest." And my favorite verse is Matthew 11:28-31 "Come to me all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest." Because my strength is in the Lord, apart from him and get tired, weary, overwhelmed and depressed. So these times of refreshing have been critical.

Liz’s Intentional Act of Kindness

How did you use the $100? I sent $100 in the mail to my friend who just discovered she's pregnant with a son with Down syndrome. Having a son with Down syndrome and KNOWING how beautiful life is with DS, I was celebrating while her heart grieves. I understand her response to the unknown. It's familiar. And I know without a doubt, she will feel differently when she meets her son! I decided to send her $100 for a massage -- it's so important that she take care of herself emotionally and physically through her pregnancy. And they are a very hard working family (in ministry) making ends meets with very little margin. I believe wholeheartedly this will bless her as they continue to process this gift they are being given -- a son who needs two parents who love him like crazy.

What was the 'Intentional Act of Kindness' process like for you? I had several individuals come to mind -- but my heart was compelled to encourage my grieving friend who had just received a DS diagnosis. My prayer is she will soon find delight in the wonder growing inside her and feel surrounded by support through this journey. It's just the beginning of an amazing life.

Soul 40: Farris

How have your trials made you stronger? A huge trial for me was overcoming my social anxiety at a young age. I remember being very shy through my mid teenage years, which often held me back from engaging in certain social and extracurricular activities. Despite this, I was still heavily involved in competitive sports. This ranged from gymnastics to soccer to competitive jump rope. I still clearly remember having the terrifying realization that in order to raise the money needed to travel to Cape Town with Team USA (jump rope), I would have to burst out of my safety bubble to establish and lead jump rope classes. This was a scary process for me, but through that experience I gained so much confidence in expressing myself. I never would have realized how personally fulfilled I am through sharing my love for this sport, supporting children’s gross motor development and encouraging others to reach their potential. And now, 15 years later I am a pediatric physical therapist doing just that!

Who is a female role model in your life and why? My grandma is, and always has been a strong female role model in my life. She earned her Bachelor’s in Psychology in 1959, and decided to pause her academic pursuits to raise a family (of 4 kids) with her husband. During that time, she and my grandfather opened their home to adopt a local child whose parents struggled with alcohol addiction. One of my grandma’s children also struggled and eventually overcame substance addiction, which lit a fire in her to write a book to share her experiences in the hopes of helping other families of troubled teens. My grandma went on to pursue her Master’s in Family Studies and became a licensed mental health counselor in her early 40’s. This amazing woman has since owned and operated her private practice for over 30 years! My grandma’s passion for helping at-risk populations, using her personal trials to help others overcome theirs and her constant encouragement to pursue higher education have been large driving factors in my decision to pursue my Doctorate in Physical Therapy. Without her ambitious example, and support before and during PT school, I wouldn’t be where I am today. She continues to be the strong glue our family and extended family revolves around. It has been such a blessing to have my grandma as a strong female role model through all life’s stages.

What’s one thing someone could do today to make them stronger? Carve out intentional time for self-reflection! I have found journaling and writing letters to myself to be very therapeutic, as I often write down what I won’t say aloud. I challenge you to find the strengths buried within your perceived weaknesses. For example, being an empath can be overwhelming at times. I often struggle with setting personal boundaries for how much I allow myself to carry those around me. However, through reflection I realize my empathy has helped me build strong rapport with the patients and families I work with and enabled a level of closeness with friends and family that I couldn’t live without. Many of us have more strength than we allow ourselves to realize!

Farris’s Intentional Act of Kindness

How did you use the $100? My aunt and uncle have been going through difficult times lately, and were recently granted custody of my cousin's baby when he went missing after falling back into drug addiction. She and her husband were nearing retirement, but found themselves beginning the unexpected journey of parenthood again in their 60's, and needing to continue to work to cover expenses. I decided to surprise them with clothing and toys for her upcoming birthday, as they have been struggling to make ends meet.

My aunt and uncle are wonderful, wonderful people. They have loved this little girl as their own, and graciously accepted this unexpected role. I immensely admire their strength, grit and generosity. Hardship can be isolating, and I felt this gesture would be a reminder of the community of support around them.

What was the 'Intentional Act of Kindness' process like for you? I really appreciate how this process challenged, and continues to challenge me to look into the needs of my community. Although it was more difficult than I thought to decide on a single act!

Soul 39: Taylor

What keeps you strong in times of trial? I have had a close group of friends that originated in 4th grade and have continued to accumulate over the years. This group is my go to group of women in times of trial who always know how to best support me whether that means gathering for a weekend of fun or telling me what I need to hear when I need to hear it.

Who is a female role model in your life and why? My female role model is Julia Hjelte. She is vulnerable and strong and continues to grow as a person. Not many people continuously seek out ways to grow emotionally and intellectually the way Julia does. She has helped me in many ways recognize areas I need to grow in while always lifting me up and finding the good in me and everyone around her. She’s simply the best!

How do you encourage other women to be strong? I try to encourage others to be strong by showing them it is okay to put themselves first and sometimes that is what is needed to be strong for others.

Taylor’s Intentional Act of Kindness

How did you use the $100? I used the $100 to gift my friends a drink at dinner to celebrate our friendship and celebrate everyone being together.

What was the 'Intentional Act of Kindness' process like for you? Honestly, it was challenging to decide the best way to use the money. I wanted to make it perfect and for the best use. I am glad I chose to use it on my closest friends and share the love and joy of this project with others.

Soul 38: Jessi

How have your trials made you stronger? I moved to Japan when I was 12 and had to make new friends during a very vulnerable time of adolescent life. To make matters worse, I entered a school where most kids had been together since kindergarten. I soon realized my classmates had no interest in having me join their cliques. I had to adapt, find ways to express myself and gain confidence in ways I never had to in my comfortable life in England. I joined the basketball team, even though I had almost no experience, and made friends by approaching people from myself. The outgoing-ness of it all felt foreign to me at the time but with every small win came confidence and strength to keep doing more.

What’s one thing someone could do today to make them stronger? Ask for help. I’ve learned that not everything is meant to be done on your own. Asking for help allows you to focus on things you need to do or are better at. Asking for help allows others to feel strong by being helpful. It’s almost never a burden to someone being asked.

When has your strength been personally challenged and how did you respond? Becoming a mom. I have never been the type to ask for help and always want to get things done myself whenever I can. Becoming a mom challenged my ability to do everything. I needed help and at times I felt weak for not being able to take care of things on my own. It took a few months of raw emotions to realize that being strong isn’t about doing things all on my own, that it was about being vulnerable to ask for help.

Jessi’s Intentional Act of Kindness

How did you use the $100? I gave the $100 to an acquaintance in Poland who is currently housing refugees from Ukraine in her home. The war in Ukraine is heartbreaking. All war is heartbreaking but the war in Ukraine felt closer to home (half my family lives in the UK). With social media, I feel more connected to what is going on and it hurt me to learn about people leaving their homes, unsure if they could return. Many with young kids who are having to experience this hardship during a period of growth. I felt this donation was a small way of lending a hand.

What was the 'Intentional Act of Kindness' process like for you? I could think of many ways to give the $100 but it wasn’t as easy to make it personal. I wanted to make sure it was used directly to help someone. It was harder than I thought to find a meaningful and personal cause to give to that didn’t feel awkward. I thought about giving to a random stranger who looked like they could use the money but that also didn’t feel right. The process was eye opening for me to realize that we live in such a physically disconnected world. Partly due to the pandemic but partly just how our lives have shifted more online. I don’t walk outside of my own neighborhood enough to see how people are, how the world is moving. It’s easy to get caught up in your own world but there is a lot more “out there”. This process has made me want to be more connected with my community and find ways to give back more.

Soul 37: Anna

How does family shape your perception of strength? I'm Ukrainian--my heritage and family's experiences greatly influenced my perception of strength. Often times I need to remind myself that my family members experienced greater obstacles than I. I can overcome whatever the world throws at me. For example, one set of grandparents are survivors of the Ukrainian genocide when Russian communists falsely created a famine. Other family members were disowned by their parents for accepting the Christian faith, while others sat in prison. My own parents saw their fair share of discrimination as accent-speaking immigrants in the US. And yet, did that sway the confidence or joy of those family members? Surprisingly...no. Strength is more than your circumstances.

What keeps you strong in times of trial? Easy. I'm not the first. I'm the last. I'm not alone. It's a silly example, but before my first child, a friend told me in those first few months--I will go crazy. I will lose it at some point in time. However, to remember, I'm not the only mother in the world at that point in time exhausted and upset. That there were so many women before me who had it worst and who will experience the same as me in the future. And we all got through it.

How can you be strong and vulnerable? I used to be a competitive runner. I know that my muscles only increased when I broke them down. It wasn't a one-time event either. Every single day. I pushed myself. I broke. I came back stronger. In life, we grow when we share the piece of us that is soft. I do this with my work colleagues, I do this with my church family, with my closest friends. I share my "uncomfortable", painful, and failure moments. It is in these where I grow, where my community encourages me, rallies around me, where I do the same--and I truly come out stronger.

Anna’s Intentional Act of Kindness

How did you use the $100? Donated to #Bake4Ukraine. This is an active organization in the suburbs of Kyiv, Ukraine. They provide bread to those in need, for free, during the active Russian invasion.

I had all of these ideas for my $100... And then Russia invaded Ukraine. Not only did Russia invade Ukraine, it invaded, bombed, started to destroy my hometown of Kyiv. My mind tried to process the chaos. I'm still clawing on to any whim of control. Donating to Ukrainian needs is that sliver of control in my life.

My uncle is a country manager of a bread company. He also started a café that employs adults with Down Syndrome and Autism. My uncle lives right outside of Kyiv. He and his family decided to stay and self fund the production of bread so that people had food.

As a family, they put on their bullet proof vests, and provided much needed sustenance to the elderly, disabled, and local fire and police departments. Ingredients have been trucked in from Western Europe. Former marketing managers now operate various bread machines. Everyone is doing their part.

This $100. It did its part too.

What was the 'Intentional Act of Kindness' process like for you? Not what I expected!!! The war truly changed everything for me. I feel guilty every single day for the freedom I have while my people suffer. I am so thankful for it and for 100 Souls Strong for helping me feel like I can make a difference.

Soul 36: Rachel

How does your culture shape your perception of strength? I believe culture has focused so much on "self care" and finding strength within yourself. Culture has had such an individualistic view of strength and encouraging solitude in order to regain strength and peace. While there is some truth to that and some time of reflection is necessary - isolation is not the key to strength. We are strong when we link arms, love our brothers and sisters, and build a team around us that love and encourage us.

Who is a female role model in your life and why? My mom is my biggest role model. I still remember her encouraging me to tithe to the church on money I made from picking up leaves in the yard. At a young age, she taught me how to give and why it's important. She is still the most giving, kind, and humble individual I know. She took some time with her husband and lived in a little RV so they could help with disaster relief organizations. They have never been rich in possession but they are the richest people I know.

What’s one thing someone could do today to make them stronger? Giving is one of the best ways we can strengthen ourselves. Giving to someone else bonds you to another person so you strengthen your relationships and friendships - and I believe we aren't just strong on our own. We are strong because of our support systems - our family, our friends, our faith. Strength is never a one man band - it's an orchestra.

Rachel’s Intentional Act of Kindness

How did you use the $100? I felt pretty strongly for a few days to give my $100 to my worship pastor and his wife. I knew they had been dealing with a lot lately, I just wasn't aware of the full scope of things. After speaking with the wife more I found out they had been sick for quite some time, had overwhelming medical bills, and she had felt discouraged. I knew right away I was to bless them with this money. It was amazing to be able to bless such an important part of our body of Christ here in Colorado Springs. They are a crucial part to our church family and it was an incredible blessing to extend my appreciation for them in that way. She was so grateful. Giving really brings people together in a special way.

By giving this money to them it opened up conversation to the extent of the hardships they have been facing. I am usually someone who loves to give to the poor - more so people who are hungry and living on the streets - so it was a bit of a stretch for me to give to someone who I felt was very blessed - and they are. But I know God used this to bring us even more into our church family and build our relationship with our leaders. They give out so much spiritually and I think we overlook sometimes how much our church leaders need. We can assume they have people they confide in or they are "good." But if everyone is thinking that then they can get overlooked.

What was the 'Intentional Act of Kindness' process like for you? It helped me to see the needs in the people I'm closer to - even though they may not need a roof over their head or food on their table - we have a role to encourage and build up our neighbors. The word my husband and I are living by this year is hospitality - and more so in our church body. This felt like a stepping stone for us to step into this new role God has us in for this season. We are still passionate about giving to the poor and serving in Haiti - but I am glad the Lord has planted us in such an amazing church family and is teaching us how to serve in our home.