Soul 66: Kim

How does family shape your perception of strength? My definition of strength changed drastically when I had my two daughters. While I grew up thinking strength was complete independence and suppressed feelings, I quickly realized that is not the message I want my daughters believing. I want them to know it is ok to endure emotional pain and grow from it. I want them to be brave and confident to do things on their own and know that they can ask for help when needed. Most of all, I want them to believe that they can grow through challenges and to continue moving forward despite risks.

Who is a female role model in your life and why? My mom has always been my role model for strength and determination. She had a very challenging upbringing, with an abusive father, frequent moving and food insecurity. She decided at 10 years old to get a paper route and save money to make a better life for herself. With no support, she went to college, married my dad and went on to create a beautiful, stable home life for my brother and me. I have never heard her complain, she simply works hard and perseveres through whatever happens in life.

How can you be strong and vulnerable? Being strong isn't about being tough and independent, it's resilience. Being vulnerable isn't about being weak, it's about being authentic. To me, strength is being able to admit when you are going through a challenging situation and resilience to persevere even in the hard. Ultimately, the difficult experiences make you stronger.

What advice would you give to the next generation of strong women? Lead with empathy. I am constantly encouraging my 4-year-old daughter to find ways to support her younger sister, befriend someone who seems lonely, and be patient with those having a hard time. Empathy and compassion can bring people together and make the world a better place.

Kim’s Intentional Act of Kindness

How did you use the $100? I gave the $100 a young college student who is expecting a child to use to purchase a car seat for her baby boy. I am so impressed with the bravery and strength of this student to continue her pregnancy. She had limited support from her family and was working two jobs on top of school to provide for her little one when he arrives. Giving her money to purchase a car seat felt like a very practical way to support her in her time of need.

What was the 'Intentional Act of Kindness' process like for you? The Intentional Act of Kindness opened my eyes to ways that I could meet a need for someone I knew. Without this process, it would not have crossed my mind that I could make a difference in this girl's life by this simple act. It has opened my eyes and heart to other ways to love my neighbors. You actually inspired me to do another act of random kindness for a coworker in Serbia. She is running a marathon in honor of her late dad this weekend and I sent her flowers yesterday. Turns out her dad owned a flower shop and it was more meaningful than I could have ever imagined.

Soul 65: Tukey

What does "being strong" mean to you? When reading this question, I started to wonder, am I a strong woman? Reflecting on the "strong moments" in my life, I was surprised to realize there are so many. "Being strong" can mean being able to stay curious and try new things; having the determination to persevere and finish a task, as well as the courage to give up and move on; remaining positive and resilient during difficult times; having the courage to make a tough decision; being able to think beyond myself, to love, and to bring joy to others... Strength comes in many forms.

What keeps you strong in times of trial? This might sound a bit weird: when things get hard, I start to write jokes. I jot down the big things, small things, sweet things, and bitter things in my life, transforming them into funny stories. Then I share them with my friends as if I am a standup comedian. It makes me feel good when thinking about how thick my joke book will be after this trial. Another thing that keeps me strong is my friends. Being a super extrovert, talking things through with someone that I trust keeps me strong in difficult times.

How have your trials made you stronger? Every trial gives me a new book to write, plus my joke book! More specifically, trials push me out of my comfort zone, forcing me to think about new problems, reach for new contacts and opportunities, and gain new perspectives. New project ideas come up during trials. Trials also practice my tolerance of uncertainty and ability to navigate through different situations. Each trial not only tests my strength but also enriches my life in unexpected ways.

How do you encourage other women to be strong? I would usually have 1-on-1 bubble tea dates, listen to their stories, understand and empathize with what they are going through, and offer moral support/help wherever I can. I believe building friendships could be empowering and could help other women navigate through various difficult scenarios.

What’s one thing someone could do today to make them stronger? Weight lifting :] Haha, no, the serious answer, is to take a moment to reflect on what we appreciate and are grateful for in life. It’s so easy to focus on what we don’t have and become bitter, overlooking the beauty that surrounds us. Whether it’s the love of family and friends, the smile of a stranger, an unexpected encounter with a raccoon… Acknowledging the privileges and abundance we already have can help us maintain perspective and strength. This gratitude helps us to keep moving forward with a positive and resilient mindset.

Tukey’s Intentional Act of Kindness

How did you use the $100? I invited 5 international students from various countries on a bubble tea date and treated each of them to $20 bubble tea and/or dessert. I wish this could be the start of our friendship and they will feel more comfortable to hang out and ask for support if they need any.

As an international student, I am aware of how helpful it can be to have friends I can turn to in a new country. I have received help and support in various forms since I came here five years ago, and I wish to pass on the love to others!

What was the 'Intentional Act of Kindness' process like for you? I live in a communal house named "International Friendship House," and we host dinners for international students every Thursday. So I will chat and schedule a bubble tea date with one new international student once every two weeks, have bubble tea/dessert, and continue to build deeper friendships.

Soul 64: Monica

How does family shape your perception of strength? My family instilled in me the notion that I could do anything I set my mind to. I was encouraged to take risks, try-out for sports teams, audition for theater roles, and chase my dreams. The idea that failure was a part of growth felt comforting, knowing I had my family standing behind me. When I think of strength, I think a lot about my dad’s journey to the US. While born in the states, he was raised in Bogota, Colombia. After spending 3 years at a university in Colombia, he moved to California, learned English, and went on to graduate as an engineer from Cal Poly. I will forever be impressed by his strength, and think about this when going through my own struggles. We are no match for the battles we face if supported and determined to succeed.

What keeps you strong in times of trial? I remind myself of the following: will this matter a day, week, or month from now? It is easy to spiral when something goes wrong. When I initially read the question, my mind jumped back to June of 2021. I was taking flying lessons, and upon take-off, within seconds of each other, the airplane door slightly popped open and it started to rain. In the moment, I was utterly terrified. It was hard enough to handle the flight procedures, but my only option was to keep flying. The instructor helped me shut the door, I landed the plane, and we both laughed. The trial may have mattered that day, but I now look back on that moment knowing perspective helped me through it.

Who is a female role model in your life and why? My mother is a paramount example of strength, someone who I look up to daily and aspire to be like. She is kind, intelligent, supportive, and loving. She balanced being a full-time mom and working, seldom missing a soccer game, dance performance, or school event. She built strong communities around her and always made time for family. She’s played an instrumental role in my growth as a person.

What advice would you give to the next generation of strong women? Do not be afraid to advocate for yourself and learn how to negotiate for what you deserve. Graduate school has strengthened my negotiation and advocacy skills, especially regarding job offers. I recall getting my first internship offer my sophomore year of college. It was a wonderful company and I knew I wanted it. I was so ecstatic, I accepted the role over the phone. Looking back on this moment, I think about what would have happened if I negotiated.
I’ve learned over time how to pair my tendency to be thankful with a growing strength of asking for what I want. I also learned to not accept an offer on the phone, giving yourself time to think about your options. Knowing your worth and accepting nothing less transcends beyond the job market, but plays a large role in your professional trajectory.

What’s one thing someone could do today to make them stronger? Set priorities and protect your time. I had a wonderful conversation with a colleague recently where we discussed our own priorities. They mentioned that when you establish your priorities and protect your time, you develop habits that support your long term goals.

Last fall, I was navigating the shift from full-time work to graduate school. Tasks that were once easier to complete now competed with homework, group projects, and a social life. The best thing I did for myself was set boundaries to ensure that I had what I needed. For me, this looked like going on a run or cooking a nice meal when I needed a break from schoolwork.

Think of the things that bring you joy or help fill your cup. I often get stuck in the circle of overthinking when my plate is full. This mental re-set helps me to find balance in my life, re-focusing on what is important and prioritizing accordingly.

Monica’s Intentional Act of Kindness

How did you use the $100? I donated the $100 to an organization close to my heart, Friday Night Out (FNO). FNO was developed to build community for adults with special needs. They host monthly events in Northern California, creating a safe space for special needs adults to build friendships, have dinner, and enjoy an evening in community.

I thought about how I wanted to donate the funds for some time, and landed on an organization that supported my brother. Growing up with a special needs brother, I've always been drawn to supporting his community. The founder started the organization to grow a community for her own daughter and special needs adults in the area. I have seen the organization grow from a concept to an incredible community. As adults, it can be hard to make friends. Adding the additional hurdle of having an intellectual disability makes it more difficult. Organizations like FNO are dedicated to creating opportunities for friendship and community.

What was the 'Intentional Act of Kindness' process like for you? I always feel lifted when giving. I find that it motivates me to volunteer my time or support a mission financially. I'm appreciative to the 100 Souls Strong project for giving me opportunity to support an important non-profit's mission.

Soul 63: Ramya

What does "being strong" mean to you? For me, being strong isn't just about how tough you can be on your own. It's not confined to the battles we fight alone or the obstacles we overcome in solitude. It's about how we stand by those we care about, how we extend a hand in their moments of need, and how we choose to be a pillar for someone else even when we're grappling with our own storms.

How does family shape your perception of strength? My family is the foundation of my strength, a constant presence that teaches me the true essence of unconditional love. Through both their actions and words, my parents and sister have instilled in me the essence of unconditional love, showing me that the deepest forms of strength stem from the bonds we nurture. Take, for instance, my passion for marathon running and mountaineering, which initially bewildered my family. The thought of me embarking on adventures across unfamiliar terrains and weather, often accompanied by strangers, filled them with concern. My mother, in particular, coming from a modest village background with limited formal education, found it challenging to connect with my enthusiasm for these pursuits. The idea of dedicating countless hours to train for runs across the country or to trek into the mountains was foreign to them.

Despite their apprehensions, their support never wavered. They saw the joy and fulfillment these adventures brought me and chose to embrace my passions. Their backing came not from an understanding of my interests but from an unconditional love that prioritized my happiness, ready to adjust their comforts and expectations. My parents went to great lengths to support my dietary needs to ensure I was well-fueled to run stronger and recover swiftly. My dad, in particular, played a pivotal role in my training sessions, waking up early to accompany me as I ran laps in the dim morning light. When it was too dark, he would light my path with the car headlights to ensure my safety. Moreover, when I decided to pursue an MBA at 29, a time when many of my peers were settling down, my family's support became a shield against the doubts cast by others. Despite societal pressures suggesting their support was misplaced, they stood firmly by my side, ensuring I had a distraction-free environment to focus on my preparations. These and many other moments with my family have profoundly shaped my perception of strength. They have taught me that true strength is not solely about personal grit and perseverance but equally about the relentless support and love from those dearest to us. Their faith in me, irrespective of the choices I made, has been an inexhaustible wellspring of strength, molding me into the individual I am today.

What keeps you strong in times of trial? My father always taught me a simple yet profound lesson “Do your best, and let the rest be. Success isn't always about reaching the goal.” He instilled in me the understanding that there will always be factors beyond my control. When challenges arise, I lean on this wisdom, asking myself: Have I truly exerted every effort? Have I looked beyond my personal ambitions to see the greater picture, to ensure that my efforts are not just for self-fulfillment but for a larger good? If the answer is yes, I find peace in the knowledge that I have committed my best to the task at hand, regardless of the final result.

Who is a female role model in your life and why? My mom is my role model. Originating from a rural village, her educational journey was cut short due to traditional beliefs that prioritized marriage for women over personal growth. She faced the loss of her father at the tender age of two, and upon marrying at a young age and moving to the city, she encountered the challenge of not knowing any language but her mother tongue—a barrier she still faces today. Despite these hurdles, she carved a path for herself with remarkable resilience. Her talents are exceptional, particularly her passion for designing. She adores creating dresses for me and my sister, dedicating countless hours to stitching, designing, and even hand-painting sarees and dresses with intricate designs. More than her artistic abilities, she’s the linchpin of our family’s social connections, ensuring strong ties with the parents of our friends, relatives and welcoming every guest into our home with unmatched warmth and hospitality. From her, I've learned the true essence of being genuinely excited, warm, and loving toward others without expecting anything in return.

Her determination taught me that language is no barrier to forming deep, meaningful connections. Deprived of a college education herself, she was adamant that my sister and I receive everything she missed out on, constantly encouraging us to pursue education and careers, and to nurture warm relationships. She rejoices in my achievements, often saying, "When you win, I win too." Her steadfast presence beside me, ready to face any criticism, as long as I'm chasing my passions, has been a guiding light. Through her actions, she's taught me the profound lesson of what it means to invest your heart and soul into pursuits you cherish, and equally, the importance of supporting others in their passionate endeavors, despite societal critique. To this very day, there isn't a topic I hesitate to bring up with her. Her genuine interest and eagerness to learn about areas unfamiliar to her not only reflect her supportive nature but also her immense capacity for understanding and empathy. This unwavering support and curiosity make her not just my mother but my lifelong confidante and an endless source of inspiration.

How can you be strong and vulnerable? To me, genuine strength emerges from weathering life's storms, which, in turn, equips us to empathize with and uplift those facing similar trials. Encountering someone ensnared in struggles mirroring my own past, I've learned that people won't truly open up or connect without being given the space to do so. How can I ensure they feel they can depend on me? By fostering a safe environment where individuals feel understood for their values and concerns. This often means being vulnerable myself, sharing my own story, even at the risk of exposing my emotions and laying bare my past challenges. Embracing openness and emotional honesty, allowing one's authentic story to unfold, is never a sign of weakness. Rather, I see it as a testament to incredible strength, the kind that only comes from allowing oneself to be vulnerable.

Ramya’s Intentional Act of Kindness

How did you use the $100? I donated the $100 to my housekeeper, a resilient mother of three, who despite not having received a formal education herself, tirelessly works across multiple households each day to fund her children's schooling. During my recent visit to India, I learned that daughter was being mistreated by a teacher at her current, tuition-free school. Although, she reported this to the authorities, the issue was minimally addressed with only a warning issued. Determined to find a safer learning environment for her daughter, she decided, with assistance from my mother, to move her to a new school that requires tuition. I chose to contribute to the tuition for her daughter’s new school, hoping to alleviate some of their financial stress and ensure that her daughter could continue to learn in a nurturing environment.

I firmly believe that no child or parent should ever feel unsafe or unsupported in an educational setting. Growing up, my family instilled in me the belief that while money may come and go, education remains a lasting asset that no one can take away. This conviction drove me to support her daughter's transition to a secure, respectful, and conducive learning environment.

What was the 'Intentional Act of Kindness' process like for you? : This act of kindness was profoundly impactful for me. It reinforced my commitment to thoughtful giving—choosing causes I believe in and helping those in dire need. It served as a reminder that amidst our busy lives, where personal and family needs often dominate, taking a moment to consider the needs of others can make a significant difference.

Soul 62: Debbie

What does"being strong" mean to you? To me, "being strong" is being tough when life gets tough and it comes in three ways:

1. It's about facing problems with bravery and never giving up, even when things seem really hard. Being strong doesn't mean you can't cry or feel tired; it's okay to have those feelings. To me, its important to understand that crying and feeling weary are not signs of weakness but rather reminders of our shared humanity. And so, amidst tears and tiredness, true strength is about bouncing back after tough times, even when you feel like giving up.

2. It's about believing in yourself and finding the courage to keep going, no matter what. It means having the courage to face our fears, doubts, and tough times. When we're feeling lost or unsure, strength is like a small light of hope that helps us keep moving forward, even in the darkest times. And when we push on, we only become stronger.

3. Strength isn't just about avoiding tough situations or simply enduring them. It's about meeting challenges head-on, facing them with courage, and finding ways to turn them into opportunities for growth. Instead of just enduring hardships, true strength involves actively engaging with them, learning from them, and using them as stepping stones toward a brighter future. It's about seeing obstacles as chances to learn, adapt, and become stronger versions of ourselves. By confronting struggles directly and embracing the lessons they offer, we not only overcome them but also emerge from them stronger and more resilient than before.

How does family shape your perception of strength? My mum has been a constant source of inspiration and strength in my life. Having lived with her most of my life, she's really shaped my perception of strength. Despite facing numerous challenges, she has always remained resilient and determined. I've admired her ability to see beyond immediate problems and navigate through tough situations with grace. One incident that stands out is when our home was invaded by armed robbers. While my dad and I were in shock, she remained calm and spoke words of encouragement, emphasizing the importance of resilience and focusing on the future rather than dwelling on the past. Her unwavering positivity and ability to persevere through adversity have not only influenced my perception of strength, but also shaped my whole family's perception of strength. I've learned from her example that strength isn't just about enduring hardships but also about facing them head-on with courage and optimism. She has taught me that true strength lies in being able to rise above challenges and remain hopeful even in the face of adversity. Because of her, as a family, we've come to a point where we keep pushing on despite the negativities in our surroundings.

What keeps you strong in times of trial? In times of trial, my faith serves as my anchor, providing the strength I need to persevere. Believing in a higher power beyond my control, I turn to prayer for inner strength and guidance. When I first moved to the United States in 2017, facing cultural shock and loneliness, it was my faith that sustained me. Despite moments of doubt and wanting to return home, I held onto my belief that God would see me through. Through prayer and reliance on Him, I emerged from that challenging period even stronger. Today, as I navigate new challenges such as motherhood, entrepreneurship, and pursuing an MBA, my faith continues to sustain me. I attribute my resilience and ability to overcome obstacles to the grace of God, who has been my constant source of strength and support.

How have your trials made you stronger? I would say I have faced two major trials in my life that have enriched my character, fostering personal development and determination while emphasizing the importance of seeking support. They have equipped me with the strength and confidence needed to face future challenges with grace and inner resilience.

Firstly, my move to the US presented diverse challenges. Navigating a different culture and overcoming various hurdles have taught me the importance of speaking up for myself. This assertiveness has become a fundamental aspect of my character enabling me to succeed not only in US but amongst the international community.

Secondly, starting an MBA came with challenges ranging from new motherhood to facing immigration complications that cost me job opportunities. My experience here really helped me learn the importance of reaching out to others for support. To me, it highlighted the strength found in vulnerability and the power of community. I've really come to understand that seeking help is not a sign of weakness but rather a demonstration of resilience and self-awareness.

Both experiences have been incredibly transformative, and today, I am able to say I am much stronger and a better person than I was many years ago.

What advice would you give to the next generation of strong women? I have three advice I would like to share:

1. Embrace your differences: Reflecting on my experiences navigating different cultures and overcoming challenges, I encourage the next generation of strong women to embrace their differences. Our unique backgrounds, perspectives, and experiences are sources of strength and resilience. However, be open minded and willing to learn new things. There is nothing wrong unlearning certain things or values you already hold on to and learning new things that shapes you in a better way.

2. Seek support: Drawing from my journey of seeking help during challenging times, I urge young women to prioritize building supportive networks and seeking assistance when needed. Surround yourself with individuals who uplift and empower you, and don't hesitate to lean on them for support. Remember, strength is found in vulnerability and the bonds we share with others. We sometimes fall in the myth of we can do it alone, but i believe we can move faster if we have a community of supporters cheering us on.

3. Build your faith: Reflecting on the belief in a higher power beyond our physical abilities, I encourage the next generation to build their faith. Whether through spirituality, religion, or personal beliefs, cultivating faith provides a source of hope, guidance, and strength during difficult times. Trust in the presence of a supernatural power that supports and sustains us, even when faced with seemingly insurmountable challenges. I personally believe in the grace of God and its played a major role especially in areas where other humans have failed.

Debbie’s Intentional Act of Kindness

How did you use the $100? I used the $100 to bless two people who have been a great source of inspiration and have impacted my life positively - Grace and Pearl. I split the $100 equally and used it to buy gifts that they needed to honor them on their birthdays. I decided on this because I felt both had to be honored for the hard work they do and I wanted to purchase something that they needed. Grace has an NGO called Lift Ghana that focuses on uplifting one another to thrive in life, and be good agents of socialization at home and change agents in all spheres of life. Since she has given her life to many others, I believed that blessing her in this way was worth it.

Pearl on the other hand has always placed herself in a position to help others. Months before I gave birth, she came to stay with me and has since been there supporting me in managing my baby while I also school.

What was the 'Intentional Act of Kindness' process like for you? I believe the process made me very thoughtful in thinking about who I wanted to be a blessing to. The word "intentional" pushed me into making sure that my kindness was not in vain. I am actually happy about his and I believe moving forward in my life I will really be intentional about my kind acts. I'm really grateful for such an opportunity.

Soul 61: Ravali

What does "being strong" mean to you? To me, being strong means being open to adversity and ready to deal with challenges, having the courage to face any situation, acknowledging vulnerabilities, and embracing that they are part of life. Being strong means inspiring others to be strong through your actions, giving hope to the people around you that anyone can overcome challenging situations and that it's not the end of one's life.

What keeps you strong in times of trial? During challenging times, initially, I feel discouraged. I tend to allow myself to be affected by the difficulties because I don't want to confront them immediately, though this feeling doesn't last long. Once I regain my energy, I remind myself to be strong. I motivate myself to confront the situation head-on and rely on friends and family for support to help distract me from it. I just accept the situation, and then think about ways to come out of it. It's not easy, but I strongly believe we all can overcome adversity.

Who is a female role model in your life and why? My Mom! I know it may sound clichéd, but I consider myself lucky to have a mother like her. Despite facing challenges during my childhood, she remained remarkably resilient. She shielded my brother and me from the impact of those tough times, ensuring our education was unaffected. Even though she hasn't been part of the workforce, she consistently encouraged us to dream big, providing all the resources we needed to thrive. Her selflessness and strength make her the most admirable woman I know. She stood by us, unwavering, in every situation.

What advice would you give to the next generation of strong women? I was fortunate to have grown up in a supportive family, especially with my mother encouraging me to pursue higher education and enter the workforce. Unfortunately, not every girl or woman experiences this support. My advice to them: don't let others determine your worth or dictate your path. Follow what brings you happiness—whether it's painting, writing, or directing. Remember, you are already strong! Take the first step!

Once you are ready, be supportive. Give back by supporting women who may feel trapped. Encourage them to break free from their constraints and inspire them to do the same.

Ravali’s Intentional Act of Kindness

How did you use the $100? I donated a bicycle to a girl who required transportation for school but lacked the means, which was hindering her education. My mom is part of an international women's group called the Inner Wheel Club. They do service work and raise funds for various causes like schools, orphanages, old age homes, etc. I asked her if there was anyone who needed money for education, and she mentioned this cause. I wanted to donate to a girl especially to enhance her chances of becoming a strong independent woman.

What was the 'Intentional Act of Kindness' process like for you? I really appreciated going through this process. It helped me reflect on my past and reminded me of the importance of supporting women, especially considering the challenges many face in pursuing their aspirations. Thank you, Kristen, for giving me the opportunity to do this.

Soul 60: Rabeea

What does "being strong" mean to you? Being strong to me is akin to the sturdy oak tree that withstands fierce storms. In the face of adversity and uncertainty that can leave your soul feeling paralyzed, giving yourself the room to be knocked down for a moment and grieve before standing up again with a belief in yourself and whoever else you fall back on. It's not merely about physical capabilities or an absence of vulnerability, instead, it is a deep-rooted resilience that allows one to weather life's challenges with grace and fortitude. I've come to understand strength as the ability to stand tall in the face of adversity, to hold steadfast to one's values and convictions even when the winds of change threaten to uproot us. It's about summoning the courage to confront our fears, to navigate uncertainty with unwavering determination, and to emerge from the crucible of trials stronger and more resilient than before.

How does family shape your perception of strength? Family has always been the cornerstone of my perception of strength. I was raised in a close-knit household where love, support, and solidarity were the bedrock of our existence. From my earliest memories, I witnessed the sacrifices my parents made to provide for our family, the quiet resilience with which they faced life's challenges, and the unbreakable bond that held us together in times of adversity. It was within the embrace of my family that I learned the true meaning of strength – not as an individual attribute, but as a collective force that binds us together, sustains us through life's trials, and fills us with the courage to face whatever lies ahead. My family has defined for me the meaning of resilience and smiling despite all kinds of challenges. Growing up with limited resources, it was very easy for things to go wrong very often but my mother, who has been one of the biggest pillars of strength in my life, would always say: as long as we're all together and healthy- there is nothing we cannot figure out. Her voice rings in my head every time I am in a tough spot and this shift in perspective gives me the strength to keep going.

How does your culture shape your perception of strength? Growing up in a Pakistani household, strength was synonymous with resilience and perseverance. Our culture celebrates the indomitable spirit of those who endure hardship with dignity, who rise above adversity with grace, and who find solace and strength in the bonds of community and kinship. I was raised on stories of courage and fortitude, of women who defied societal expectations, shattered glass ceilings, and blazed trails for future generations. It was through these cultural narratives that I learned to embrace my own inner strength, to draw upon the collective wisdom of my ancestors, and to know that you don't have to go through life alone- your family, friends and community of people who support you are always there to pick you up and walk alongside you.

What keeps you strong in times of trial? In times of trial, what keeps me strong is my faith. It is such a privilege to have something to fall back on and knowing that there is a bigger plan and everything will make sense in the long run. It is also the unwavering belief that within every challenge lies an opportunity for growth. I draw strength from the reservoir of resilience that resides within me, from the knowledge that I have overcome obstacles before and emerged stronger on the other side. It is also the recognition of my privilege and knowing that so many others are facing so much worse in this world and still refuse to give up. Being involved in helping those who are faced with bigger challenges than yours, makes you appreciate the resources you have and gives you the zeal to make the most of those.
But perhaps more than anything, it is the love and support of my family and loved ones that sustains me through life's darkest moments. Their encouragement and their steadfast presence remind me that I am never alone, that I am capable of weathering any storm, and that within every trial lies the seeds of resilience and renewal.

How have your trials made you stronger? My youngest was born during the peak of COVID-19 in March 2020 and faced major health scares within the first few months of her birth. Due to covid restrictions, I would be the only person going through all the testing and diagnoses with her, talking to all her doctors and advocating for her to receive all the services she qualified for. The combination of being in a global pandemic, having an infant whose mental and physical abilities and teh quality of her entire life were a big question ad being her primary advocate in a country that I wasn't born or raised in was more paralyzing and scary than I would have imagined. I didn't have an option other than picking myself up, coming out of my comfort zone and do whatever was required in continuing to fight this battle for my daughter's wellbeing. It was only when we had emerged on the other side of it one long year later, that I realized how this trial had made my entire family so much more stronger and grateful for everything we had in life. This experience made see the invisible ceilings we set for ourselves and I realized I am capable of so much more than I give myself credit for.

What advice would you give to the next generation of strong women? To the next generation of strong women, I would say please embrace your uniqueness, trust in your abilities, and never underestimate your potential. I would encourage them to draw upon the collective wisdom of those who have come before them, but remember to find strength in their vulnerabilities, and to forge their own path with courage, grace, and resilience. It is very easy to lose yourself in the noise around you and the expectations of society. It is imperative to know what matters most to you.

Rabeea’s Intentional Act of Kindness

How did you use the $100? I used the $100 to donate a few items needed to the Family Study Space at the University of Washington Allen Library. It's super exciting to hand-pick toys, books and other essential items to make sure the place is cozy and welcoming for all families. Being a parent student, I realize how challenging it is to balance life as a student with the needs of your family. I really appreciate this initiative by the UW to dedicate a space which allows student parents and caregivers to get some work done while children play or read quietly nearby and wanted to contribute to this cause. I am also always keen on making spaces more inclusive and love getting books and toys that help in making these spaces more welcoming to the underrepresented communities. I loved being able to use the donation to do that.

What was the 'Intentional Act of Kindness' process like for you? Kindness and sharing are at the heart of my faith and I absolutely loved being part of this process because it helped me get ready for the month of Ramadan coming up. This process encouraged me to make a list of acts of service I had been wanting to do and act on each one of them one by one. It felt nice to be more intentional in my approach, having a plan to make a difference in people's lives and creating opportunities to do that instead of waiting for them to come by.

Soul 59: Palak

What does "being strong" mean to you? To me, "being strong" means being comfortable with who you are as a person. It's having the courage to be your authentic self even when it's difficult or when others don't understand. It's also about finding inner resilience in the face of challenges. I strive to have the self-assurance to stay true to my values and priorities rather than conforming to unreasonable expectations. Being strong is also about accepting yourself, failures and all. It means realizing that mistakes and setbacks are part of the journey, and seeing them as opportunities for growth. Ultimately, being strong is about standing firmly in your identity with compassion and confidence, while embracing both your successes and your imperfections.

What keeps you strong in times of trial? In difficult times, what anchors me is faith in my own abilities and faith in the support from my loved ones. I take strength from remembering my inner resilience - all the previous challenges I have navigated and grown from. Most of all, during trials, I try to be kind and caring towards myself, like I would be towards a close friend in the same situation. Offering myself that warmth and understanding helps me feel calmer in difficult situations. I know I have the hope that this will pass and the grit to keep pushing through. No matter what comes, I will meet it with compassion for myself and the resolve to keep moving forward.

Who is a female role model in your life and why? My female role model in life is my mother. She is a homemaker who embodies selflessness and lives modestly just to invest in my brother and me. I'm inspired by her humility and grounded nature. Even though she didn’t work outside the home, she always encourages me to dream big and set ambitious goals. The security and confidence she gave me through her selfless care allows me to fearlessly follow my passions today. I admire her quiet strength and the dignity with which she leads our family. Whether standing up for me or making personal sacrifices, my mother leads first and foremost by example. For modeling courage and compassion, she is my forever role model.

How can you be strong and vulnerable? I aim to be strong in standing firmly in my values and principles, while also being vulnerable enough to admit when I’m struggling or need help. This requires emotional strength but also honesty about imperfection. I strive for the strength to speak my whole truth, including the messy and imperfect parts rather than hiding behind a exterior of having it all together.

How do you encourage other women to be strong? I encourage the women in my life to build strength by building a support system and being open to both giving and receiving help from it. None of us can or should feel like we need to handle everything alone. Whether it's friends, family, or others, relying on your community makes you stronger. I encourage the women around me to make space for all their emotions- feel your fear, hurt, and stress, you don’t have to always have it all together. Go easier on yourself when you miss the mark. Progress comes from effort over time, not performing flawlessly. Stay anchored in self-compassion along the way. The connections we share lighten every load.

Palak’s Intentional Act of Kindness

How did you use the $100? While visiting my hometown for the holidays, I wanted to help meet the needs of girls in my community. I donated 32 packs of pads to a local orphanage that provides housing and care for 17 adolescent girls. Menstrual products are essential yet often unaffordable for those facing economic constraints. By donating pads, my goal was to assist the orphanage in accessing menstrual products for some time.

What was the 'Intentional Act of Kindness' process like for you? This act of kindness reminded me that all support - through donations of time, talent, or treasure - makes an impact. My hope was that in some small way, this donation gave the girls both physical products they require as well as the emotional support of knowing their community cares about their health and wellbeing.

Soul 58: Amélie

How does your culture shape your perception of strength? My ethnicity plays a big role in shaping my perception of strength. Much of this comes from my relationship with my great-grandparents. When I was a teenager, Papken, my great-grandfather, told me the story of how he survived death marches as a child by eating plants and becoming a slave to nomadic communities before escaping to an orphanage in Istanbul. Despite this harrowing experience, Papken's definition of strength has a collective bend. He encouraged me to think of strength as having, and most importantly, enjoying a modest and comfortable life that is rich with joy and a community of very good people. As a result, it's very important to me that I derive true joy and happiness from building my community, engaging in my work, and carving out my space in the world.

How can you be strong and vulnerable? One of my childhood friends, Gina, developed an aggressive type of leukemia in her early 20s. She endured the seemingly endless and crushing cycle of relapse and remission for several years. Her friends, partner, and family coalesced around her, providing support and community when she needed it most. However, something surprising happened amidst this warm bubble of support and care. Some of her friends disappeared. They didn't call. They didn't text. They didn't show up to the hospital. I was furious on her behalf. How could someone vanish into thin air when their friend is suffering? Gina, who often swore like a sailor and was quick to shout at cars in traffic, demonstrated a steely sense of calm. When I asked, she simply shrugged it off and said, "They can't deal with my sickness right now so that's on them." Gina showed me a new kind of strength that centered on forgiveness, even under arguably unforgiveable circumstances. Now, her influence remains imprinted on my as a way to simultaneously hold strength and vulnerability.

How do you encourage other women to be strong? My father is a highly principled person. He taught me that the tension resulting from compromising on my values isn't worth any short-term reward. So, in order to be strong, I want to encourage people to eradicate any internalized pressures to be likable. In this day and age (and I hope this continues to change), expressions of femininity are often met with implicit expectations to be palatable and accommodating. While these are certainly valuable skills, I believe it's important to get comfortable with the idea of being disliked for reasons that we stand for.

What advice would you give to the next generation of strong women? To balance my comment on avoiding compromising on values, I would give the following advice: rectify and forgive your mistakes. For a long time, I thought that being strong meant being so disciplined I never slipped up. Know that you will make mistakes, and that's okay. What matters is that you minimize the negative effects, apologize, clean up your mess if you made one, and forgive yourself.

Amélie’s Intentional Act of Kindness

How did you use the $100? I donated to the Refugee Artisan Initiative (refugeearts.org). RAI was founded by Ming-Ming Tung-Edelman, an immigrant from Taiwan, who was inspired by her grandmother's skill at sewing. Ming-Ming was driven to support refugee and immigrant women to achieve financial independence in the US, hence RAI was born. Financial independence is the foundation for having career options and lifestyle choices. Having it allows us to set boundaries and make smart decisions about our health and the well-being of our loved ones. Not having it makes us vulnerable to unhealthy power dynamics at work and home. As an American, I know how meaningful it is to have financial independence in the US. I'm impressed with the work that RAI does for those who don't yet have the privilege and cultural context they need to find their footing here. I decided to donate to RAI because I support its mission of creating a prosperous transition environment for refugee and immigrant women here in Washington.

What was the 'Intentional Act of Kindness' process like for you? It was wonderful to take some time to reflect on where I wanted to put my $100. I found myself reflecting on what is meaningful to people across a spectrum of life experiences, and how I wanted to deliver this contribution of mine.

Soul 57: Cheryl

What does "being strong" mean to you? Willingness to acknowledge weakness & need turning first to God for the strength, wisdom and direction needed. A strong person takes responsibility and ownership of their attitudes and actions. They also are able to forgive others when wronged instead of holding on to hurts. A strong person seeks to grow and mature through both the good and difficult circumstances of life.

What keeps you strong in times of trial? Trusting in God’s faithfulness and the promises in His Word. Knowing God is sovereignly in control over all aspects of my life I can rest in the fact that He will bring good out of any situation. He promised we’d have trials but that He would be with us in them. It’s about allowing God to work in us and through us. The following quote by Elisabeth Elliott sums it up, “ The fact is, as believers, it is not about us. It is not about my happiness, my joy, my wellbeing. It is about the glory of God and the kingdom of Christ. The only means to real joy and contentment is to make His glory the supreme objective in my life”

How have your trials made you stronger? What stands out is the year of 2012. During that year there were 5 deaths and 7 instances of crime. 6 of the crimes were in or near my home. There was something every week for a two month period. I saw God’s faithfulness and protection. When my front door was kicked in and also when my car was stolen, a dear friend was staying at my place, neighbors came over to help. It was nice not to be alone. No one was harmed...just things.

God drew my attention to scriptures, devotionals, songs and a book that gave me a different perspective of the trials. The tendency is to dread them and see them as an awful thing to be endured. God taught me to see them as His gifts wrapped in an unexpected package and to look for His purpose in them. Maybe a lesson to learn, character to be developed, a deeper relationship with Him, the opportunity to share God’s faithfulness with an unbeliever that wouldn’t necessarily be interested in hearing about God otherwise. I did feel that I emerged from that period with a different perspective and increased strength..

Who is a female role model in your life and why? I have known Liz Ostby for about 51 years. She is one that has been faithful to the Lord and His Word and always has words of wisdom or insight to share. She sees spiritual lessons in everyday circumstances and in the world God has created. Even though Liz has walked with the Lord for many years she continues to learn and grow. She knows how to laugh, have a good time, relax and read a good book. At age 86 she is still walking half marathons annually, learning to do new things, sets goals as to what she wants to accomplish in the coming year. She chooses not to be limited by her age but continues to be active serving God and being a blessing to others.

What advice would you give to the next generation of strong women? It’s about making the right choices. What is the main focus and priority? What do we fill our mind with? Make it a priority to ready/study/obey God’s Word. Cultivate an intimate relationship with the Lord and allow Him to build strength and other qualities in your life.

Cheryl’s Intentional Act of Kindness

How did you use the $100? I gave the full $100 to a friend with Parkinsons to help her with the high cost of the medication prescribed for her. This new medication is very costly. She is a faithful Christian that continues to trust and serve God. Among other things she is involved in discipleship and prayer ministries even with the limitations of the Parkinsons disease and other unrelated health issues. I wanted to be able to help her in her time of need.

What was the 'Intentional Act of Kindness' process like for you? It's always a blessing to be in a position to be able to help someone whether it be a friend, casual acquaintance or perfect stranger. My friend was thankful to be receiving the funds to help her in her time of need. It gave me pleasure to be able to help her in this way.

Soul 56: Ally

How does family shape your perception of strength? People say that when you have kids you “love them so greatly that you would die for them”. This is true, but this love is so much deeper than that. It’s like the moment they are yours, a hook catches deep in your soul, and if anything were to happen to them those hooks would tear you apart and you would be wounded so deeply and gravely you can hardly imagine it.

And now that you have them and you love them, you are open, exposed, vulnerable to the deepest hurt anyone can know—loosing them.

This wound is similar with a spouse, but so much deeper when you have a tiny dependent soul that looks to you for everything they need. It takes such great strength to love so deeply and know that you are now vulnerable to greatest wound a person can know. I think this is a much deeper vulnerability and strength than I ever imagined. It makes me so grateful for the strength of my own parents in loving me and caring for me as well.

What keeps you strong in times of trial? God’s grace is sufficient for me and is my strength in my time of weakness. My hope and trust in God is what anchors my soul.

How have your trials made you stronger? Every trial I have gone through has shown me that I can experience great pain, but still come through whole. Every trial I have gone through has shown me that though I may walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I am not alone.

How can you be strong and vulnerable? Allowing yourself to be vulnerable = strength. Vulnerability means being open to harm. If you willingly open yourself up to the possibility of being hurt, you are saying I understand that I can be hurt, and I am willing to risk that and endure that for a greater purpose. It takes great strength to knowingly take a step that may cause you pain, even if there is great gain to be achieved.

What’s one thing someone could do today to make them stronger? Talk about your weaknesses with someone you love and trust and who will point you to the truth. Be vulnerable and open yourself up.

Ally’s Intentional Act of Kindness

How did you use the $100? I contributed the funds to help sponsor a girls Bible study retreat at my local church focused on raising up wise and strong young women. Young girls (8-12), can easily be overlooked or considered too young or immature to grasp concepts of wisdom and strength. But theses beautiful souls are ready to learn and be poured into. This retreat is a time for them to bond and time for their moms who are leading them to pour into them specially without the distractions of other siblings or responsibilities. I felt like it was the perfect opportunity to help raise up more strong women in my community.

What was the 'Intentional Act of Kindness' process like for you? I really appreciated having a set amount that I was supposed to spend by a certain time. Having funds set aside and dedicated helped me see opportunities to spread love and generosity all over my community in ways that I would normally shut down because I “don’t had the money..” This process helped me to be more mindful and intentional throughout the month and just consider ways I could help or encourage others.

Soul 55: Kylie

What does "being strong" mean to you? Strength is speaking the truth in love, knowing who you are and walking confidently in that knowledge, and persevering in times of struggle. When I think of strong people, I think of those who have overcome, who have loved when it was easier to hate, who accomplished incredible things through small, habitual actions, who held on to their beliefs despite intimidation, or chosen joy in all circumstances. Life is hard. Strong people know this and still decide to face the day with fortitude and joy.

What keeps you strong in times of trial? Ultimately, knowing there is a God who walks with me through trial and is writing a good story through me brings hope in times of trial. Being a Christian doesn't mean suffering and trial do not happen to you; being Christian means you have a God who has also experienced suffering and walks with you through it. Of course, that statement is infinitely more difficult to remember in those times of struggle, but I am continually reminded that God has never left his people and has always been faithful, no matter how often doubt has crept in.

Who is a female role model in your life and why? When I was in college, I had a female campus pastor who showed me that women could be in the pulpit too. I had grown up thinking there wasn't much of a place for women in the church who felt called to ministry, but Mindy quietly and confidently modeled pastoral ministry. Her preaching was powerful and her mentorship was formational - for all students. As I grew in my own understanding of call, she encouraged the gifts and skills she saw in me. Eventually, I too became a pastor and now teach Christian Studies to young people. As women, the first time we get to see other women breaking the barriers between what is expected and what is possible can be formational in who we can become.

How can you be strong and vulnerable? Growing up, I thought crying and tears were a sign of weakness. I've always been an emotional person - when I'm overjoyed, excited, overwhelmed, gutted, etc., I usually cry. Especially with the negative emotions, I hated that I would cry. But I read this beautiful book that described tears as an expression of mourning for the way the world should be, an acknowledgement that the world is broken and not yet what it is intended to be. They can express the depth of our care for the broken things and not be merely a sign of weakness. I think tears can allow us to see the world with empathy and care in ways that stoicism isn't able to.

How do you encourage other women to be strong? In my classroom, I have the great joy of teaching adolescent women about who God is and who he has created them to be. We get to wrestle with biblical texts dealing with suffering, God's continued faithfulness to a wayward people, and the plans that God has for his world. My hope is that by studying God's love and care for his people of old, that they come to know how deeply he cares for each of them. Insecurity and self-consciousness are prominent issues that they struggle with and I want them to know how deeply God cares for them exactly as they are.

Kylie’s Intentional Act of Kindness

How did you use the $100? One of my good friends has recently become a single mom. She has four kids and just took in her son’s friend who was experiencing an abusive home life. One of my favorite things about her is how fiercely she cares for others even when she has little herself. She is completely selfless, and wholly kind, always looking for ways to love on others. I gave her the money to help make ends meet this month and be able to buy groceries.

When a good friend is constantly meeting roadblocks that stop her from providing for her kids or making rent or having to choose between clothes for the kids or gas, you have to help. As a Christian, I believe that everything we have is really God’s to begin with; our job is to steward our finances and time to give those resources in a way that honors Him and builds His kingdom. Being able to give this gift to care for a wholly deserving family is exactly the kind of action God calls us to.

What was the 'Intentional Act of Kindness' process like for you? To begin with, I was so thankful for Kristen and her generosity to consistently support acts like this. What an inspiring way to empower women, encourage generosity, and give women a platform to share their stories. The intentional acts of kindness part of the project reminded how powerful generosity is to both the giver and the one who receives. This friend has been on my heart for awhile now and this project gave me the opportunity to continue to financially support her and reminded me that giving is such a privilege and blessing. To be able to meet someone’s tangible need has inspired me to recommit to generosity and looking for opportunities to help others.

Soul 54: Blaire

What does "being strong" mean to you? When I think of the word “strong,” the word “unwavering” is the first word that comes to mind. The image that comes to mind is a post or maybe a tree that stands its ground in the middle of a huge storm. The wind may be blowing the branches from side to side, but the trunk is centered and sturdy in the ground. That is how I view strength within myself. Centered, grounded. Unwavering in my beliefs, morals, and how I want to show up in the world no matter what is going on around me.

Who is a female role model in your life and why? I feel so lucky to have multiple women in my life that I consider to be a role model. This spans from people at work, to family, friends, peers, activists, even a few celebrities. It’s hard to name just one, but when I think of why they are role models for me, a few characteristics come to mind:
- Strong in their beliefs
- Immense space for empathy and patience
- Not afraid to speak up
- Kind
- Maintain clear boundaries
- Brings others along as they move up/forward

What’s one thing someone could do today to make them stronger? I would encourage them to look at everything they have to do over the next few days or week. Is there anything that you said yes to that you really don’t want to do? This could be for any reason – because you literally don’t have the time, or perhaps because it really doesn’t fit into what is important to you in this moment in your life or aligned with how you want to show up for the people that are important to you. If so, say no. Creating, and arguably more importantly, maintaining boundaries is one of the strongest and hardest things one can do. Many times, women just automatically say yes for various reasons... much of this is rooted in cultural and societal expectations. Sometimes we need a reminder that we can simply say “no” without explanation.

Blaire’s Intentional Act of Kindness

How did you use the $100? I decided to give the $100 to my older sister. She has been immensely stressed about a wedding for one her best friends, whom she is actually doing the bridal make up for. She wanted to get her hair done in a special way for the wedding, and it ended up being more costly than she had anticipated. The $100 went to offset that cost.

We couldn't be more opposite, but my sister is my best friend. She moved to NYC in 2017 to pursue her dream of musical theater. She was doing ok, but the hit that covid took on NYC as a city and also the performance space hit her very hard. She is working both a day job and still booking gigs here and there, but finances are still tough. She is one of the kindest and hardworking people I know. When she told me about the price of the appointment, I knew that's exactly what I wanted to do with the $100.

What as the ‘Intentional Act of Kindness’ process like for you? I loved this process. It took me weeks to figure out how I wanted to use the money. I had thought and thought, and planned, and planned, so it is a bit ironic that me giving the $100 was a bit "spur of the moment". I just decided to do what felt right in that moment. This is a great reminder for me to stay present - don't try to control every detail. The universe brings you exactly what you need!

Soul 53: Ni

How does your culture shape your perception of strength? I am Chinese. In Chinese culture, Confucianism, Daoism and Buddhism are important philosophical thoughts have great impact on me. Chinese culture emphasizes the importance of filial piety, responsibility, perseverance, and humility. I think these values have shaped the mindset and behavior of many Chinese individuals, influencing how we approach challenges and interact with others in their personal and professional lives. Also, the concept of living in harmony with oneself, others and the nature helped me to foster a sense of inner strength and resilience. By focusing on cultivating inner peace and contentment, I am able to develop the ability to face challenges and adversity with greater equanimity and grace.

What keeps you strong in times of trial? My curiosity towards the world is what keeps me engaged and interested in life. Even during challenging times, I try to remain curious about the world and the people around me. I seek out new experiences and try to learn from them, which helps me to stay motivated and engaged. This curiosity also helps me to maintain perspective during difficult times, as I remind myself that there is a vast world beyond my current struggles.

To me, trying new things can always be a powerful way to help me build resilience and strength. Whether it's a new dish, a new skill, or a new way of thinking about the world, exploring the unknown can help to challenge my limitations and expand my capabilities and possibilities. How to find and maintain strength varies from person to person, and I am just lucky that have already discover what works best for me.

How can you be strong and vulnerable? To be honest, I cry a lot. I always remain high energy and at the same time I can always feel vulnerable. For me, crying is a way to release my emotions and process my feelings. I cry a lot at home and allow myself to feel whatever emotions come up, whether it's sadness, frustration, or even joy. However, I don't let those emotions consume me or define me.

After the emotion has passed, I am able to pick myself up and continue on with my day. I don't let my emotions hold me back or prevent me from taking action. I also have a sense of humor and can easily laugh at myself, which helps me to not take things too seriously and keep a positive outlook. I think being vulnerable is part of your strength. Because you need to be honest about your feelings, and being willing to express them to yourself or others. It requires a level of emotional courage and authenticity. I am a person who is easy to cry and easy to laugh, and I find that by allowing myself to be vulnerable, I am able to cultivate a sense of inner strength and self-awareness that helps me navigate life's challenges with more ease.

How do you encourage other women to be strong? 4 years ago, I started a public channel on WeChat to write and promote articles about successful female role models to motivate young Chinese women to pursue their career goals. I personally reached out and interviewed 30+ accomplished women from diverse industries, and published over 100,000 words of article content, attracting half a million views and comments. My interviewees included a female translator from China’s Foreign Affairs Office, an associate NYU Shanghai professor, and a famous tea master dedicated to cultural inclusion. I felt honored and privileged to help share inspirational stories that showcased women’s strength, talent, and ability to achieve their dreams. (Currently I paused the writing for my MBA study, but I will resume after my graduation.) I would also like to mention a 15-year-old girl, Shanshan, from Southeast China, who dropped out of middle school because of poverty. I learned about her during an author interview and immediately reached out to help. Shanshan was forced to quit because her father wanted her to start working to provide for the family. Now, it has been 4 years since I first began sponsoring Shanshan in 2019. We write letters from time to time, and I can feel her joy from her sharing of little things from her school life. Seeing her succeed constantly refreshes my motivation to fight for women’s equality.

Ni’s Intentional Act of Kindness

How did you use the $100? I donated $100 to support a fifth-grade student at the Reshuitang Elementary School in Yunnan Province, China. After her father's death and her mother's recent passing, she, her younger sister, and her younger brother are now living with their elderly grandparents. I wanted to alleviate some of her family financial burden and support her education. Having supported girls in Yunnan Province for several years, I am well aware of the challenges faced by underprivileged families in ensuring their children's education. In my recent efforts, I contacted the school principal to identify other students in need of assistance. By directly donating $100 to a family like this, we can offer immediate financial relief and, more importantly, inspire the girl to strive even harder. This support instills hope, demonstrating that there are caring individuals who believe in her potential and are invested in her future success.

What was the 'Intentional Act of Kindness' process like for you? Engaging in intentional acts of kindness has been a deeply meaningful experience for me. When I embarked on my MBA journey, my primary focus was centered on myself. However, engaging in intentional acts of kindness once again reminds me of my life's purpose, which is to contribute positively to the world and strive to become a better person. This action begins with being mindful and observant of the needs and struggles of others. This awareness fuels my desire to make a positive impact in their lives.

Soul 52: Ansa

How does family shape your perception of strength? Throughout my life, my mother has been a constant source of inspiration, providing me with guidance and support whenever I faced any challenges or stressful situations. Whenever I needed to talk or just be around someone, I found comfort in her presence, and her calming influence helped me see the bigger picture and not get bogged down by the little things. Looking back, I realize that this feeling of calmness and resilience that I experienced all those years was a result of her strength. She always encouraged us to do our best, stay positive, and not worry about things that we cannot control. Her unwavering faith and conviction that everything will work out has been a guiding light for me.

How does your culture shape your perception of strength? Growing up in Pakistan, I was immersed in a culture that placed a strong emphasis on collectivism and community. The idea of being strong was often intertwined with the concept of sacrificing one's own needs for the betterment of others. I witnessed this firsthand in my father, who always put others before himself, whether it was paying for a family member's medical bills or supporting someone's education. The practice of distributing food and groceries to the less fortunate was also common, and there was a strong sense of paying it forward and finding strength in acts of kindness. It helped instill in me a deep sense of empathy and compassion towards others.

How have your trials made you stronger? Moving to the US with my twins for my husband's education was undoubtedly one of the most challenging times in my life. I had to leave behind everything I knew and deal with the added stress of assimilation and isolation due to the Covid pandemic. However, despite the difficulties, I am proud to say that I emerged from this experience stronger than ever. Through it all, I learned how to be self-sufficient and care for my children without the help of a support system. I found solace in the little things, such as taking walks around the neighborhood and perfecting family recipes to ease my homesickness. It gave me a newfound sense of independence and resilience as I worked to reimagine my career in a new country. I took small steps each day towards achieving my goals and, looking back, I see this as a crucial period of growth and strength that helped shape me into the person I am today.

Ansa’s Intentional Act of Kindness

How did you use the $100? I spent $80 on making a care package for my friend who's been going through a really tough time with her daughter's health issues and frequent hospital stays. I wanted to show her some support and brighten her day. The remaining $20 went towards a Starbucks gift card for my brother-in-law, who's been a rock for our family, always there to lend a hand or babysit the kids when we need him.

My friend has been on my mind a lot lately, and I wanted to do something special to let her know I care. She's such a strong and positive person, even in the face of adversity, and I admire that about her. As for my brother-in-law, he's like our own personal village here in Seattle, always looking out for us and spoiling the kids. I thought a little thank you in the form of a coffee gift card would be the perfect way to show him our appreciation.

What was the 'Intentional Act of Kindness' process like for you? It was actually really satisfying, and it made me want to do more of these little acts of kindness. I realized how often I think about doing something nice for someone, but then life gets in the way, and I never actually follow through. This experience reminded me how important it is to make intentional kindness a priority in my life.

Soul 51: Christine

What keeps you strong in times of trial? I consistently fall back on methods of self-care as a way to push past adversity and I am emboldened by the strength of knowing I have faced similarly great challenges already in my life. Sometimes the best self care I can do is a warm bath and an early bed time.

Who is a female role model in your life and why? My mother has always had the audacity to try when others would not. She reinvented herself at 50 years old, after having been a stay-at-home mom to return to school and earn a challenging masters degree in occupational therapy and she now works in that field. I like to say she gave me my Geronimo instinct.

How do you encourage other women to be strong? I try to embody the resources that helped me to where I am today. Resources that are compassionate and tactful in their understanding of unique situations and needs. Resources that are fierce in the application of time, money, connections, or skills to plug those gaps.

What’s one thing someone could do today to make them stronger? I am a strong believer in the power of gratitude and forgiveness to the one who finds the strength to forgive. One of the most empowering yet difficult things I do is say “thank you” even when I am not sure I wanted or needed what I received and to say “I forgive you” even when the person who hurt me does not realize how or why they hurt me.

Christine’s Intentional Act of Kindness

How did you use the $100? I gave the $100 to my Uber driver Mohamed in Cincinnati, Ohio. Mohamed’s strength and spirit inspired me and I felt honored to be able to recognize that at the end of the drive. Throughout the Uber ride from the airport to downtown Cincinnati, Mohamed told me about his family. He spoke with such pride for being able to come to America for 9 months in the year and work to provide for his wife and daughter back home, despite how he had to be away from home for 9 months at a time because his family did not travel with him. He told me about how when he finished his Uber shift he will switch over to driving his box truck. It was clear he was living a frugal life in America in order to send back as much as possible to his family. He inspired me with his graciousness and humility and I hope he was able to take some time for self-care as a result of the $100.

What was the 'Intentional Act of Kindness' process like for you? The process was very intimidating! I carried around the crisp $100 bill for multiple months through multiple trips with it constantly at the back of my mind. I felt as though I needed to be a good steward and at the same time, I was afraid of my own “savior complex” where I felt as though I had to judge the potential recipients for their worthiness.

Soul 50: Cynthia

How have your trials made you stronger? I moved from Mexico to the US on the 4th of July 2016, thinking it would be a great day to move here when everybody is celebrating this country. That celebration soon turned into frustration when I realized that in this nation built by immigrants, immigrants were not welcome.

Moving here meant I had to start from scratch; that fancy school I graduated from back home meant nothing here. After hundreds of rejections, I landed an entry-level position with a salary so low that it was hard to make ends meet, especially with my husband still in school and working part-time at a restaurant. The political climate didn't, the presidential elections of 2016 were in full swing, and the rhetoric towards immigrants was hostile. "Building the wall" and "Mexicans being drug dealers, criminals, and rapists" were common themes. I heard people tell me to "go back to my country" and faced discrimination at work, where I was told not to speak Spanish even though I was hired as a bilingual employee.

I struggled with my identity and sense of belonging. I questioned myself a lot and wondered if I had made a mistake by coming here. But I refused to give up. Instead, I turned all the hostility and challenges into motivation to achieve my personal goals: professional growth and graduate education.

Now, years later, I celebrate who I am and where I come from. I'm proud of my heritage, my culture, my accent, and my story. I embrace my identity as an immigrant and am committed to sharing and educating others about our cultures.

What keeps you strong in times of trial? Knowing that I can inspire others.
I can think of no greater example than my journey to business school. This was one of the most challenging experiences of my life. I was met with discouraging test scores, unexpected delays, scams, and personal setbacks, all of which made me question whether or not I was cut out for business school. But, despite it all, I refused to give up.

As a first-generation student, I felt lost when I started my grad school journey. Today, I proudly share my story and lessons learned with other women who may be facing similar obstacles. I mentor and assist them in any way I can; knowing that I can play a small role in other women’s success motivates me to stay strong.

What advice would you give to the next generation of strong women? : Prioritize what matters most to you by setting boundaries and asking for help.

As women, we face many challenges in our personal and professional lives. In our mission to constantly prove ourselves, we end up saying yes to everything, even to things that are not important to us, or worse, that go against the person we want to become. I’m someone who struggles with this very issue, but I've come to realize that saying no to certain opportunities or tasks doesn't make us weak; rather, it helps us prioritize what truly matters to us.

By setting boundaries, we can avoid overcommitting and burning out, and by asking for help, we can delegate tasks, mentor others, and focus on what we do best. Knowing what adds value to our life and letting go of the rest is a true strength.

Cynthia’s Intentional Act of Kindness

How did you use the $100? I donated to the Kitsap Immigrant Assistance Center for their education, advocacy, and social justice fund for immigrants in Kitsap County.

Last year, I had the privilege of working with KIAC for my Service Corps elective. I met the passionate people behind the organization who are dedicated to making sure that immigrants in Kitsap County have a better life. Being an immigrant, I have a personal connection to the cause and wanted to spend my $100 supporting that cause.

What was the 'Intentional Act of Kindness' process like for you? It was an absolutely rewarding experience, not only because I witnessed firsthand how much the KIAC and the people in that community are working to grow the organization, but because it also felt like I was completing a cycle. I'm committed to lending a hand to other immigrants and refugees who come here to start a new life but need help getting settled.

Soul 49: Ni

How does family shape your perception of strength? I did not grow up with a strong nuclear family. Instead, I had my grandma, aunts, uncles, cousins, grandaunts, first cousins once removed - the list goes on. I drew strength from the countless people in my life whom each provided some bit of themselves to help sustain my brothers and me through many challenging years. It is through all these individuals, that I experienced firsthand the synergistic power of strength. We are stronger when we both lean on and prop up those around us. And you never have to give everything, but every bit does matter.

Who is a female role model in your life and why? My grandmother was the strongest person I knew. She taught me what it meant to live a life serving others. I watched her grieve after my father - her only son - passed, but she never let this hurt get in the way of caring for her four grandchildren who needed her now more than ever. Her pain peeked through in how she continued to cook my father's favorite meals or held on to his old passports and licenses. Despite her evident suffering, there wasn't a single need that my brothers and I had that she did not prioritize and try her best to fulfill. She spent the rest of her life caring for us and through the pain, managed to teach us great lessons about gratitude, humility, and empathy.

How can you be strong and vulnerable? The Asian culture encourages individuals to control and suppress their emotional expressions. It has taken me years to unlearn this practice and understand the benefits of communicating feelings and expressing needs. If you do not share your needs, you then become the only person aware and capable of fulfilling them, and it begins to feel like a very lonely world when you come to rely on just yourself. By inviting others to share in this load, you allow yourself to be built up by another person, an act that can foster a powerful relationship between humans.

What’s one thing someone could do today to make them stronger? We can all benefit from being mindful, communicating more clearly, and letting our intentions be known. From my experience, communication often breaks down when two parties make incorrect assumptions and do not dispel them. Assumptions are a natural tendency in human exchange which can greatly help to make conversations more efficient but can also break down an interaction if two people are not aligned. Something we can all do when we feel we are losing someone in a conversation is clarify our assumptions and share what we were hoping to get out of the interaction. Clear communication and tight alignment help to strengthen working relationships.

Ni’s Intentional Act of Kindness

How did you use the $100? I bought school supplies for my second grade teacher through her online wish list. I really wanted to take this opportunity to thank someone whom I have not had the opportunity to thank yet, but I know I owe much of my success. I was not always a great student. Up until the second grade, I often skipped homework assignments and did poorly on tests. My second-grade teacher was the first person who acted on my disinterest and helped to turn me around. She was the only teacher in my school who spoke Chinese and therefore could communicate with my family. By taking the time to connect with my home life and making my family aware of the issue, she helped to get the people whom I cared about invested in my academic performance.

What was the 'Intentional Act of Kindness' process like for you? It was really rewarding to give back to this classroom and help my teacher continue to serve her students. I imagine there are others in her class, like second-grade me, who need her help and I’m hopeful that my small act of kindness will make her job just a little bit easier.

Soul 48: Fanny

What does “being strong” mean to you? For me being strong represents:

• continuing to go forward without necessarily knowing how things will turn out

• being vulnerable

• possessing an unwavering belief in self to be able to try things even when it scares me

• the ability to love, have faith, say no, and know when to walk away

How does family shape your perception of strength? My grandmother arrived in the U.S. and worked as a nanny for a wealthy family in the upper west side of Manhattan. My mother, upon arriving in the US until retirement, worked as a home attendant, caring for elders. Despite how busy or tired, their love and dedication to us were unwavering. That’s strength to me. My family has taught me the importance of faith, unity, love, honesty, and humbleness and for me these things also culminate into strength.

What keeps you strong in times of trial? Ultimately, I want to make my parents proud. I also want to serve as a role model and source of inspiration for my nephews and niece, and those who identify as first-gen or are from underserved communities. So although at times it is hard being away from family and friends, traveling constantly for work, living in new cities, etc… I know there’s a bigger goal.

I saw education as my way to break the generational cycle and my interest has been in providing that guidance to the next generation. I will continue to take action to democratize access to education and career mobility for underrepresented minorities. My passion for driving diversity and inclusion and giving back to those from underrepresented communities fuels my involvement and serves as a continual source of inspiration.

How have your trials made you stronger? I cut it all off. I stood in front of the mirror crying, feeling ugly and ashamed, thinking my beauty was gone, but the long-lasting lie prevailed. Telling my story to my family and  friends was challenging, but also healing. The process was painful, lengthy, months full of self-doubt and insecurities. Inch-by-inch the pain and self-doubt gave way to confidence, empowerment, freedom, strength and pride. Through it all, I’ve come to realize that happiness only comes from being authentic and going after what matters most, a realization that is, on its own, extremely valuable.

Most of the time, I wear my hair natural because I love who I am. I hope that the Afro-LatinX’s and others who, for generations, have been forced to strip and hide who they are, may be encouraged. My renewed confidence in who I am comes to being comfortable in my own skin, and realizing that natural hair is whatever I want my hair to be - whether it’s curly or straight.

Who is a female role model in your life and why? My mother serves as the biggest source of inspiration. (Good thing I’m writing in English and the question specifically asks for a female role-model, otherwise my dad would be jealous)

Fanny’s Intentional Act of Kindness

How did you use the $100? I donated to Teleton USA Foundation; a non profit which provides care to children with neurological, muscular and skeletal disabilities. Teleton's mission is to raise awareness to create a more inclusive world for children with disabilities. This nonprofit organization holds a very special place in my heart, largely due to my mother's unwavering support and encouragement for us to donate to their cause. Every year, we support their annual fundraising event, which is broadcasted on Univision, a prominent Spanish television network. The impact this nonprofit has on the community is truly remarkable and I am grateful for the opportunity to be a part of such a meaningful and inspiring cause.

What was the 'Intentional Act of Kindness' process like for you? Participating in this process was truly humbling and an introspective experience. It allowed me to delve deep into my understanding of what strength truly means and the kind of impact I wish to have in this world. As I pondered how to allocate the $100, I found myself grappling with the weight of responsibility that came with the decision. I wanted to ensure that whatever I chose to do with the money would be "worthy" of its purpose.

I suddenly had an epiphany - that the act of donating itself is a powerful and meaningful act of kindness. In this way, I came to realize that every act, big or small, carries value and can create a ripple effect of positive change.

As I contemplated where to direct my donation, my heart swelled with a sense of purpose and intention. The process helped me to not only feel a deeper sense of connection, but also reminded me of the strength and beauty of the human spirit. It inspired me to be more mindful and purposeful in my actions, and to never underestimate the power of acts of kindness.

Soul 47: Becky

What does ‘being strong’ mean to you? Strength is not one thing, it’s many things. It’s preserving through tough situations. It’s living one’s values in spite of pressure to conform. It’s pursuing dreams, knowing that it will not be easy, but that we will figure it out along the way.

It is rooted in an appreciation of my own value and worthiness and seeing it in others.
Strength can be loud and expressed in all its glory. Or sometimes, our strength is even more evident when gracefully shared through quiet restraint. It can come in the form of a big action or something seemingly small that permeates an experience without being obvious. Strength can be steadfast and unrelenting when needed, or flexible and adaptive in others. It can be building up, standing down or even letting go.

With all these different tentacles, I struggled to come up with one life story that encapsulates my own strength. No one experience seemed to do the topic justice. I came to the conclusion that for me strength is the sum of daily life choices to show up to what life offers to the best of my ability. It’s not a trait that some of us have or don’t. It’s a choice. Every day, I have the opportunity to decide how will I be strong?

How did family shape your perception of strength? I came from a ‘pull yourself up by your boot straps’ kind of family that honored hard work and independence. Early on I understood the recognition that comes with achievement. Good report cards landed me twenty-five cents for an A, fifteen cents for a B and a nickel for a C. I think by high school it was increased to a $1.00 for an A, but by then the intrinsic reward of a job well done had been instilled.

Both of my parents were first generation college graduates, navigating this feat through sacrifice and persistence. Growing up we did not buy fancy things or take expensive trips as my parents were building up a nest egg to support the education of their three daughters.

My parents exemplified strength to me in different ways. My dad showed me how to remain calm under pressure and make thoughtful decisions. We looked to him in times of distress to provide sound and sage advice. Outgoing and at times a bit fiery, my mom taught me that women can speak up and make an impact. She didn’t follow my dad, they were partners. Together they provided a solid foundation that enabled me to believe in myself and go after my dreams. What an amazing blessing and privilege! To honor this gift, I strive to pay it forward. My aim is to build into and be there for my family and friends in ways that make a difference like my parents did for me.

What keeps you strong in times of trial? My story takes me back to when I was 22 and heading to grad school. I had just graduated from college and got married to Mark that following summer. That’s what we used to do in those days. Two weeks later, we packed up a U-Haul and my 1980 used Ford Granada and headed to IU for me to get an MBA and for my husband to do anything he could to pay the rent.

We were so excited to be setting out on this new life adventure. Unfortunately, it was rather short lived because when we arrived in Bloomington our place was a dump. I don’t mean just kind of bad; I mean really bad. It was a step down from dorm life living for sure with bugs and all. We (I) couldn’t live there and now we were on a hunt to find a new place quickly. I remember it being hot and sticky…and how crabby we were after several hours of stressful searching with no luck. We kept driving around, that is, until my husband drove right through a stop sign and into a taxi. At that point, I lost it and had a meltdown. (I cried so hard the cops took pity and didn’t give us a ticket – silver linings).

Feeling defeated and without a place to stay or a plan of action, I wanted to call it quits. I thought it was a sign that this wasn’t meant to be. What does a young girl do in this moment? Call her dad. After giving me the space to share my long tirade, I recall his calming assurance and advice…”Becky, take a breath. It will work out; just give it 24 hours…and I think you will find that things will turn around.” I have to say that in that moment, I wasn’t feeling all that hopeful or confident… but as it turns out, he was right. The next day, armed with coffee and some fresh perspective, we explored new areas and found a furnished apartment, that while no means fancy, suited us just right.

Life is filled with roadblocks and unexpected twists and turns. As I face these moments, I remember this day and my dad’s advice to take a breath before reacting or drawing a conclusion. It’s amazing how this one small action can make all the difference in the world.

Who is a female role model in your life and why? While there are many women I admire, my mom’s influence has been the most profound. Among many life lessons, she has taught me the value of tenacity, connection and living in the present moment. It wasn’t so much what she said, but rather seeing how she lived that made such an impact. My mom came from humble beginnings and carved her own path in the world. She didn’t wait for things to happen; she was intentional about making them happen and believed in herself to do it.

As she reflects back, she relishes the unique mix of childhood experiences of living in the big city during the school year paired with summers spent on her grandma’s farm. When in Milwaukee, she lived in what she describes as a tough, inner city Italian neighborhood. Being one of the few non-Italians, she quickly needed to figure out how to fit in, and at times, not back down. Being at the farm was a totally different world. She worked really hard, but also enjoyed freedom to explore. She shares stories of milking the cows, driving a tractor and riding horses early in her life, sparking in her a fiery independence and confidence. In her teenage years, she caught sight of my dad when he came to do some electrical work with his dad on the farm. The rumor is that during that visit, she supposedly mentioned to her cousin that someday she would marry him. After years of being high school sweethearts, they ultimately did marry in 1955. Their marriage lasted over 50 years and together they raised 3 daughters, 9 grandchildren and now 7 great grandchildren and growing.

While devoted to her family, my mom also pursued her own passions of being a high school English teacher. She was made for it and devoted to her students. Whenever we go out in her hometown, mom inevitably runs into a student who stops to say hello and thanks her for what she did for them. My mom has been the heart and glue of the family. Over the years, she’s made time to connect, listen and be present for each of us. She truly cares about what’s going on in our lives and finds a way to form a unique bond that makes us feel valued and loved.

My mom is now 88 and living on her own. While there are some sweet moments, this final phase of life can be difficult and scary. I see how hard things are and can empathize with the loss of independence so embedded in her bones. Accepting the reality of her limitations is especially challenging for someone like my mom who has lived a life in breaking through them. At this point, I am learning from my mom about how to navigate the end of life with strength and grace. I am so very grateful for my mom and how she has shaped my life. She continues to teach me and I still have much to learn.

What advice would you give to the next generation of strong women? This question is very relevant given that I mentor young women within my career as a qualitative researcher. My advice is best summed up in the mantra Shine Bright. I share this message with each person on their first day and many times thereafter. For one thing, I like the simplicity and how easy it is to remember. Yet, even more so, are the deeper life lessons it embodies.

Shine Bright is…
- Rooted in being oneself and recognizing the gifts we each bring to this world.
- Inspires us to live vibrantly and boldly and actively role model this for others.
- Challenges us to seize opportunities with our face directed toward the sun.

No matter where we are in our journey, there is an opportunity for growth. We just need to be intentional about what we are bringing and gaining from every situation to tap into and expand our potential. Leadership is not about titles; it’s about serving as a light for others that contributes to our shared success.

Mentoring has been one of the most fulfilling aspects of my career. As much wisdom I hope to have imparted, I have gained (and then some) through my relationships with each of them. I am honored to have played a role in their lives and will forever be cheering them on to Shine Bright.

Becky’s Intentional Act of Kindness

How did you use the $100? I gifted my $100 to two women who in many ways represent what it means to be strong. Authentic, determined and generous in spirit, their exuberance shines through in how they live their lives. One is my friend, who despite many health and personal hardships, has embodied a positive drive enabling her to move forward. Today, she is in a happier place and uses her time, talent and treasures to bless others. Whether it is caring for her mother or mother in law, helping a friend or watching her grandbaby, she brings comfort, support and a whole lot of fun. The other person I chose, is her daughter who recently had a baby, and finds herself in a position of raising her as a single mom. That's a lot to manage and navigate. I thought they both would appreciate a rare moment to treat themselves.

Why did you decide to use your $100 in that particular way? I was inspired to share this gift with them not so much because they needed the money, but more so to encourage them to take a moment to treat themselves. While it doesn’t solve the struggles, these small acts of kindness can make a big difference. We experienced this first hand in our own hardships in 2012 when my husband Mark lost his battle with cancer. Mark was such a beautiful soul and we miss him dearly. During this time, so many people in our circle blessed us with support. My friend was among them, often stopping over with a kind word and gift cards for us to grab a meal. While we appreciated the practicality of the gift, the bigger impact was about knowing that she cared and reminding us that we were not alone. Once Mark passed away, she hosted us all at her home on his birthday where we shared fond memories and sent balloons to the sky in his honor. This celebration of his life made a lasting impression for me and my boys and I will be forever grateful.

What was the 'Intentional Act of Kindness' process like for you? It reminds me of the importance of being in intentional with our lives. It is so easy to get caught up in the daily to-dos and crossing things off my list to feel accomplished. This helped to refocus me on what’s most essential. Taking a moment to actively think about how I can bless the life of someone else, was a blessing to me in return.